Twenty-five years ago I would have told you I was the luckiest woman in the world. I was married to my best friend who I adored and had two wonderful sons. I had it all including the home and picket fence. As it turned out, there was no luck in my marriage. The marital secrets he revealed crippled me emotionally for years after the breakup.
It's now your responsibility to watch your income and expenses, and confirm that you're living within your means. Make sure you're paying your bills on time, setting a solid retirement plan in place, and saving for your children's education -- while also putting aside funds for major expenses or future emergencies.
With the recent Ashley Madison hack and the release of information for the affair-oriented dating site, it is no surprise that the internet is making wise-cracks about excited divorce lawyers rubbing their hands together in glee. But aside from being the final nail on the coffin, how would finding your spouse on the Ashley Madison list affect your divorce?
When relationships end, it is a sad fact that people take sides, assets are split, and someone, if not both parties, must relocate. The "Geographies of Divorce" is the shifting of boundaries, the renegotiation of territory, the displacement, isolation and the staggering trauma of homelessness that accompanies divorce.
Allow your children time to grieve and remain open to ongoing conversations after the big announcement. If your children are asking you questions, this is positive. Encourage further conversations and be open to their questions, thoughts, and feelings. You may want to consider setting up a time for the children to talk with a therapist at some point.
Children may worry they are being disloyal if they start to have too much fun with one parent. They also worry about the parent that they are not with, wondering if that parent is okay. Sometimes they just deeply miss the parent they are not with. The familiar traditions may be gone and this can leave the children feeling as though something or someone is missing.
Today, I counsel clients who are going through a divorce to practice acceptance. Acceptance does not come easily, especially when you are in a painful situation; it seems easier to blame the other person and bury our head in the sand. But this will not help. You can systemize acceptance in a few simple steps; I'm not saying they're easy, but they are simple.
I was married two years ago. No one asked me to have or to hold my groom as per the traditional Anglican wedding vows at our wedding. I am half-Jewish and an atheist but growing up in Canada "to have and to hold" were the only marriage vows I heard. I think the author was talking about protecting a safe space no matter how heavy the abyss.
A word to the wise: one cannot scale the side of a mountain while sobbing uncontrollably. You need your breath for the exertion. You can climb or you can cry. Not both. I soon realized I didn't need to compose myself and carry on. What I needed to do was to stop and let myself have a big fat embarrassing breakdown.
It is not news that divorce rates are on the rise. Single parent and blended families have become the norm in recent years. Divorces are never easier, even more so when children are involved and tend to affect children the hardest. Tammy Daughtry, CEO of Co-Parenting International and Co-Parenting Coach has advice to ease the divorce process on your children.
It's a devastating thing for a woman to admit -- that her husband seems to have lost his desire for her. Women often jump to the conclusion that unsatisfying sex is the reason for the chilly temperatures. Yet as often as not, men withdraw from their wives for non-sexual reasons. Check out these eight Do's and Don'ts to see whether any of them might help reignite his spark for you.
A common misconception is that mediators simply work hard in an effort to bridge the two parties' positions and do not take "sides". That is not, at least in my experience generally, the case. At the heart of this misunderstanding is a failure to appreciate the difference between "facilitative" and "evaluative" mediation.
Back in 1995 when I started practising family law, the standard parenting schedule was pretty straightforward: The children resided primarily with one parent (almost always the mother). Well, things have changed. In recent years, I have witnessed a trend towards equal-time schedules, the most popular of which is "2-2-3."
Yesterday's resignation of Italian Prime Minister Silvio Berlusconi is a loss to comedians everywhere. Which other world leader can possibly fill the void? It was easy to bid "avtio" to George Papandreou earlier this week. Aside from his comically large moustache, there was nothing very funny about the way he drove Greece into bankruptcy, while threatening to take the whole rest of the EU down with him. But give Berlusconi this: the guy steered his country to ruin with, well, not style exactly -- maybe chutzpah. It's one thing simply to overpay state workers -- quite another to host "Bunga Bunga" sex parties while your country burns.