Canada Divorce

Would You Own Up To Having An Affair?

Sue Nador | Posted 04.07.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

By withholding the truth about her affair from her husband, Tabitha holds all the cards when it comes to their marriage. She is able to preserve what matters most to her-her family life, financial security and the love of her husband-but on her own terms. Her husband is continuing to commit to the relationship under false pretences.

16 Rules For a Happy Marriage

masalamommas | Posted 03.31.2014 | Canada Living

You might say this is a classic case of the blind leading the blind. What I offer you here are pearls of wisdom after 15 years of marriage and seven years of being a divorced single parent. Had I known then what I know now, perhaps my happily ever after would have happened the first time around.

The Best Way to Survive a Divorce

Terri Fedonczak | Posted 03.18.2014 | Canada Living
Terri Fedonczak

Today, I counsel clients who are going through a divorce to practice acceptance. Acceptance does not come easily, especially when you are in a painful situation; it seems easier to blame the other person and bury our head in the sand. But this will not help. You can systemize acceptance in a few simple steps; I'm not saying they're easy, but they are simple.

Why Dress For the Life You Want? Because it Works

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 04.21.2014 | Canada Style
Sarah Vermunt

If you've ever watched an episode of What Not to Wear, you can recall fashion expert Stacey London telling women to "dress for the job you want, not the job you have." I'm not sure who first coined that phrase, but it's a good one.

Would You Stay With A Cheating Spouse?

Erica Diamond | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erica Diamond

It's why I thank my mother and father for raising me with good self esteem and it's why we should raise our daughters with good self esteem. So she can stand on her own two feet without a man -- if ever need-be. So if ever she finds herself in a marriage where her hubby is parking his penis in another woman's garage, she has options.

"To Have and to Hold" -- That's What's Important

Noemi LoPinto | Posted 04.02.2014 | Canada Living
Noemi LoPinto

I was married two years ago. No one asked me to have or to hold my groom as per the traditional Anglican wedding vows at our wedding. I am half-Jewish and an atheist but growing up in Canada "to have and to hold" were the only marriage vows I heard. I think the author was talking about protecting a safe space no matter how heavy the abyss.

5 Signs Your Divorce Will be High Conflict (And How to Survive)

Susan Valentine | Posted 03.31.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

Divorce is ranked above going to jail or losing a family member as the second most stressful life event you can face. In fact, the death of a spouse or child are the only events considered more stressful. And yet, this doesn't even take into account what divorce is like for those who are separating from someone with a high-conflict personality.

Why I'm Thankful For My Parents' Divorce

Sue Nador | Posted 03.27.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

My parents could not have known it at the time but they did me a huge favour both through the dysfunction of their marriage and their subsequent divorce. Having a ring-side seat to the drama of their union allowed me to dissect and analyze their every move and motive. I learned a lot, and came to my own conclusions.

I Couldn't Stay in a Loveless Marriage

The Purple Fig | Posted 03.24.2014 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

After living with someone who never let go of the opportunity to insult or debase me, honestly I had started finding it hard to laugh or grin for that matter. My so called "better half" questioned my existence throughout my marriage and so along the way I started questioning myself. After the separation, as the days turned to nights, I felt a change in myself.

10 Ways To Find Love Again After Divorce

The Huffington Post Canada | Arti Patel | Posted 01.25.2014 | Canada Living

Whether you're a recent divorced single or have been looking for love again for several years, marriage the second time around can sometimes be more c...

When's the Right Time to "Put Down" Your Relationship?

Sue Nador | Posted 03.15.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Fourteen months. Fourteen months is the time I have in my head for how long I would try to save my marriage if things started to go south (hopefully it will never come to that). But once we limp past the one year mark, I think I would rationally assess whether something has shifted so irrevocably in our relationship that it was time to take it off life support.

Have We Finally Figured Out How To Divorce Like Adults?

The Huffington Post Canada | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living

January may be the month of quitting habits and setting goals, but for legal offices across the country, it also means seeing more and more couples as...

Thank You GPS Woman

Lynda Fishman | Posted 02.05.2014 | Canada
Lynda Fishman

Dear {insert name}, It began as a disagreement. It has exploded out of control. When I saw you walk into the restaurant, I immediately buried my fac...

I Never Thought They'd Make a Movie About My Divorce

Delaine Moore | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Delaine Moore

I just got back from Ottawa where I was on the set of a movie being made about the first year of my life post-divorce. That's right -- a movie. About me. Little' ol me -- just a former stay-at-home mom of three kids, whose entire world, six years ago, was so pulverized, she didn't even want to get out of bed, let alone forge a new career or identity for herself.

Getting Married, Separated, or Divorced? Dust off the Old Will

Paul Taylor | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Business
Paul Taylor

If you're getting married, you need to think about your will. In Ontario and some other provinces, getting married revokes your existing will. While there are limited exceptions to this, the document sitting on your (or your lawyer's) shelf is likely a number of years old and does not take this into account.

The Ripple Effect of Divorce Debt

Doug O. Jones | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Doug O. Jones

The long-term financial health of those separating can be severely impacted as they seek to divide assets and agree upon income support payments. What many may not realize, however, is that this financial damage can lead to debt and financial challenges for not only the individuals separating, but their extended families as well.

Your Commute Might Ruin Your Relationship

r/ally | Posted 12.11.2013 | Canada Living

While we consider driving to and from work routine, you might want to put your foot on the brakes for a minute and consider the results of one study: Long distance commuting increases the chances of divorce or separation. The study found that the first five years of long distance commuting seemed to be the most destructive time for relationships.

Worried You Married the Wrong Person? Ask Yourself This Question

Susan Valentine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

Yep, you can marry the wrong person. There are countless ways and reasons to restore your marriage, but sometimes the problem goes beyond trust, or communication, or intimacy. Usually in these cases, the question being asked is not, "How do I fix my relationship?" Instead it's, "Should I stay or should I leave?"

How Letting Go of the Perfect Life Changed My Life

The Purple Fig | Posted 11.26.2013 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

In a moment, my view of the world and its expectations of me changed. As a teen someone said to me, "You cry at the drop of a needle." I promised myself right then and there that I would stop being emotional; I would be strong. If I wore my best poker face the world couldn't shake me. I rejected who I truly was, and my freedom to express that. But then life got complicated.

Why Is Talking About Money So Taboo?

Deborah Nixon | Posted 11.24.2013 | Canada Business
Deborah Nixon

My oldest friend and I met in kindergarten. We have gone through everything together -- death, marriage, divorce, job losses, and childbirth. Yet, the one thing we don't discuss is money. How did it get this way? Money is embedded in our culture and in our lives.

Going Through a Break-Up Doesn't Make You a "Survivor"

Ward Anderson | Posted 11.09.2013 | Canada Living
Ward Anderson

Here's something no one wants to hear: You aren't special because you made it through a bad break-up. Calling someone who had a bad break-up a "survivor" is a kind of First-World-Problems hyperbole. It belittles those who actually persevere and overcome true, life-threatening obstacles.

More Siblings Means Less Chance Of Divorce?

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 08.15.2013 | Canada Living

The more siblings you have, the less likely you are to get divorced when you grow up, suggests a study presented Tuesday at a major convention of Amer...

Five Playlists That Will Get You Through Anything

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 09.20.2013 | Canada Music
Sarah Vermunt

A period of major change in one's life often provokes fear or anger, before making way for angst, uncertainty, and melancholy. And then, eventually, a more buoyant feeling of hope, optimism, and happiness. I have playlists of my own to help me through the change cycle -- for each stage.

On the Verge of a Breakdown? Do This

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 09.13.2013 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

I have had two breakdowns -- one after the end of my marriage, and a second one of the career/identity variety. Based on my experience from the first, I handled the second one differently. I fought the first one. Hard.

8 Things You Should Never Say to a Divorced Woman

masalamommas | Posted 09.10.2013 | Canada Living

One of the most difficult things to deal with in a divorce is the questions, comments, advice and commentary from family and friends. I've heard some gems over the years. I'd like to share with you some of my top picks for what you should never say to a divorced friend.