Canada Divorce

The 'Family' Hike That Brought My Kids To Tears

Erin Silver | Posted 01.11.2017 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

I don't want to dwell on the past or on my divorce. I only want to look ahead. I'm grateful that things worked out as they did, even though it's been hard. I hope my kids will be resilient because of this. I hope they will realize how strong they are. How lucky they still are to have two parents who love them very much, even if their parents no longer love one another.

What I Would Say To My Deceitful Ex-Husband, 20 Years Later

Linda Simpson | Posted 01.06.2017 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

It was a novel suggestion. What would I say to my former spouse if given the opportunity? We haven't spoken in nearly two decades. Twenty five years of marriage is so far behind me now that most of my life has been without him. I grew up after he left, a painful but invigorating process.

This Hockey Dad Got To Play For The First Time At 40

Adam Michael Segal | Posted 12.21.2016 | Canada Parents
Adam Michael Segal

I grew up watching hockey religiously. I traded hockey cards. I went public skating. I played on the street. But the option to play the real game, on ice, wasn't there. My parents didn't have deep pockets. My mom saw it as a boorish, stick wielding fest of violence.

Coping With Holiday Nostalgia

Erin Silver | Posted 12.21.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

This place, this home, is especially special. It's where my oldest son first crawled. It's where my youngest first hiked a mountain. It's where they learned to swim and catch fly balls. We cry every time we have to leave. Then the countdown to next year's trip begins, first with months, then weeks, days, and now hours.

Conflict Resolution Strategies For Family Businesses

Nathalie Boutet | Posted 12.05.2016 | Canada
Nathalie Boutet

It is not simple to resolve conflict within businesses where people bring in different points of view, cultures and values. Resolving conflict within...

Certain Strategies Can Help Kids Cope With Change

Erin Silver | Posted 12.02.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

I suppose it takes some kids a while to acknowledge they are afraid of change. They will lash out, be more challenging, while living in the unknown. And then they will learn in time that change can be new and scary but it doesn't mean it's always bad.

A Psychic Medium Told Me To Let Go Of My Past. But How?

Erin Silver | Posted 11.25.2016 | Canada
Erin Silver

One thing I'm realizing about divorce is that it can follow you around like a stray dog. I'm four years post divorce, and there it is, always trailing...

Marriage After This Age Will Probably End In Divorce

The Huffington Post Canada | Arti Patel | Posted 11.16.2016 | Canada Living

Maybe you shouldn't wait till this age.

Happily Ever After Didn't Happen For Many Baby Boomers

Linda Simpson | Posted 11.10.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Retirement years mean different things to different retirees. Some want to spend those years playing miniature golf in Florida, others want to fulfill lifelong dreams. Travel, giving back with their expertise, and becoming involved in their community in a significant way are just some possibilities. Life expectations at this stage can be very different from your partner.

Getting Hitched? You May Want To Consider A Pre-Nup

CP | Aleksandra Sagan, The Canadian Press | Posted 10.28.2016 | Canada Business

Pre-nups are for those with an asset they want to protect.

The One Trait Divorcing Parents Need To Have

Karen Kristjanson | Posted 10.05.2016 | Canada Parents
Karen Kristjanson

Accepting that the marriage is really over is hard for many divorcing parents. In my case, although I initiated the split, I could only look sideways at myself as a soon-to-be-divorced woman. The pain surrounding that was too overpowering to take in all at once -- I felt it would have squashed me if I tried. So I got to know it gradually, with support, until I could stare it right in the eye.

Lies Bound His Family Together – And Tore Ours Apart

Linda Simpson | Posted 09.29.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

My former spouse had entered out marriage dishonestly. Other than words, there was no "forsaking all others" honoured in our wedding vows. The truth was finally revealed very much later on our 25th wedding anniversary. Were we destined to divorce or were there other factors?

Popular Honeymoon Destination Has Record-Breaking Divorce Rate

The Huffington Post Canada | Joy D'Souza | Posted 09.28.2016 | Canada Living

Oh the irony!

Blending Families Is A Challenging Business

Erin Silver | Posted 09.21.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

Blended families are everywhere, representing nearly 13 per cent of all Canadian households. In the U.S. approximately 40 per cent of adults have a close step-relationship, such as with stepchild or stepparent. The process of bringing two families together, or adding a stepparent, can be extremely complex.

How Different Generations Can See Eye-To-Eye On Prenups

Nathalie Boutet | Posted 08.25.2016 | Canada Living
Nathalie Boutet

Prenups don't have to be all one-sided in favour of the family that wants to protect hard-earned assets. I find that bringing fairness and a balanced approach will often allow the young couple to reach a satisfactory agreement.

Divorce Split My Mixed-Race Family But Defined My Identity

Alanna Cardona | Posted 09.11.2016 | Canada Living
Alanna Cardona

The question I've been asked consistently throughout my life is, "which side do you identify more with?" I hate this question. You are forcing me to choose between my Italian culture and my Filipino culture. It feels like you're asking me to decide between pasta and puncit. Between gelato and halo-halo. Between my mom and my dad.

Being An "Alpha Mom" Is Killing Your Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Debra Macleod

When does a wife become an Alpha Parent? When they become the person who hovers over her husband when he changes the baby's diaper or prepares a meal, just waiting for him to do something wrong -- or rather, something different than she does -- so that she can correct him, criticize him or just take over with an exasperated, "Oh, I'll do it."

The Blended Family With Autism: Tips For A Smooth Transition

Linda Mastroianni | Posted 07.25.2016 | Canada Parents
Linda Mastroianni

Blended families don't feel in unison or in sync right off the bat; it's not something that happens overnight. It takes patience, love, understanding, compromising and time. In our case, it took us a few years before we felt in sync, like a real authentic family. Having a child on the autism spectrum made this journey even more delicate.

Simple Changes In Divorce Laws Could Save Canadians Thousands

Andrew Feldstein | Posted 07.06.2016 | Canada Politics
Andrew Feldstein

The way the law works needs to change. As a lawyer, I would much rather help a dozen clients for a few hours each, on an unbundled basis, than spend weeks representing one client in a drawn-out trial. I am confident many of my colleagues feel the same.

20 Things You Need To Know About Divorce In Canada

The Huffington Post Canada | Terri Coles | Posted 06.30.2016 | Canada Living

From starting the legal process to adjusting to life after the fact.

Kind Words Can Go A Long Way

Erin Silver | Posted 06.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

I thought we'd go to a cottage in the summer, take our own trip to celebrate our 10th anniversary. I'd wanted to go to Japan. Now it feels like I'm counting backwards. I'm in the negative numbers, counting how many years I've been divorced. How many years we could have been married if only...

Sometimes It Is OK To Lie To Your Kids

Erin Silver | Posted 06.13.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

Lying isn't bad when you want to save someone from pain or confusion because they are too little to understand that the world can be ugly and bad. They have time to watch the news when they are bigger, to learn about terrorist attacks and shootings, about cheating and even strip clubs. But I promise, it won't be from me.

Newly Divorced? Advice From A Veteran Single Mom

Erin Silver | Posted 06.07.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

Getting divorced isn't the end goal. It's the start of being divorced. There's a bigger picture, a longer race. It's an art we strive to master and it takes so much work. So pace yourself, my friends. It seems more and more like at least half of us are in it together.

For Healthier Co-Parenting, Stop Using The Term "My Ex"

Anna Giannone | Posted 05.31.2016 | Canada Parents
Anna Giannone

What if, instead of "my ex", you use the first name of the child's mom or dad and/or you can say your child's name in conjunction with the relationship mom or dad that will help you focus on the parent-parent relationship. This creates an emotional detachment. It will relax the conversations you have with the co-parent (as opposed to the ex-spouse).

Sometimes You Have To Ride Through The Pain

Erin Silver | Posted 05.24.2016 | Canada Living
Erin Silver

My experience made me wonder if this bike ride was somehow a metaphor for something bigger. Is this like going through a divorce and riding on despite the pain? Does it represent my ability to move forward in the face of life's challenges?