Domestic Abuse

Exploring the Connection Between Violence Against Women and Mental Health

Street Haven | Posted 09.17.2015 | Canada Living
Street Haven

When women are then forced to face homelessness and poverty after fleeing abuse, desperate behaviours are often the result. Suicide attempts, devaluation of self-worth and comparisons to others cause untold pain and suffering, and serve to continue the cycle of struggle with mental health.

Violence Against Mothers Is Not a Single-Victim Crime

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 05.06.2015 | Canada Living
Sandra Hawken Diaz

When mothers are abused their children are also significantly impacted. The abuse ripple-effect is far reaching. Children who witness their mother's abuse can experience learning challenges, behavioural and mental health issues and these long-term effects can extend far into adulthood. The Interval House study also showed the majority of Canadians do not believe that a woman should stay in an abusive relationship for the sake of the children. It is a positive shift that so many Canadians support mothers leaving an abusive relationship, rather than insisting on keeping the family unit intact no matter what.

Why I'm Disturbed By the Results of This Domestic Violence Poll in Ontario

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 05.04.2015 | Canada
Sandra Hawken Diaz

Abuse is always the responsibility of the abuser. Always. If we want to significantly change attitudes and feel optimistic about progress then we need to hear people saying loudly that there is no action or choice by a victim that can ever justify abuse. Not if she cheats on him, if she's a bad cook, if she nags, if she hates his mother, if she is passive, if she has different priorities, if she's stressed out, if she doesn't feel like sex, if she likes to spend, if she's a poor communicator, if she hates mopping the floor or if she forgets his birthday.

Fifty Shades of Grey Is Not About Domestic Abuse

Mara Shapiro | Posted 04.20.2015 | Canada Living
Mara Shapiro

Yes, there are elements in Fifty Shades of Grey that warrant discussion. However, we have to remember that these people are figments of E.L. James' imagination. She's no expert on the BDSM lifestyle and her scenes lack a certain accuracy. This is not what a healthy relationship looks like. You cannot fix a violent person with your love, nor is it romantic to be scared.

'He Just Slapped My Face Until My Ears Would Ring... And I Would Go Into Work'

The Huffington Post Canada | Arti Patel | Posted 11.27.2014 | Canada Living

The effects of domestic violence at home is following half of its victims to work, according to a recent study about the scope of abuse in Canada. ...

We Can't Stop Violence Against Women If We Love Celebrity Abusers

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 01.25.2015 | Canada Living
Sandra Hawken Diaz

Sure there are stars who saw temporary road bumps in their career for their publicized violence against women like Roman Polanski, Mel Gibson, Chris Brown, Tommy Lee, Ike Turner, Bobby Brown and Nicholas Cage. But most of them bounced back and continue to have devoted fans. What message does that send to women who have been abused? That their life is not as important as a great film or song or game or show? What does it say about each of us that we likely have admitted to appreciating the talent of at least one famous abuser?

Canada Needs a Plan to Address Violence Against Immigrant and Refugee Women

University of Toronto News | Posted 01.17.2015 | Canada Politics
University of Toronto News

The report calls for a national plan to address violence against immigrant and refugee women and immigration policies that better support immigrants in precarious circumstances. It calls on the federal government to abolish the two-year conditional status for sponsored spouses, reinstate access to the Interim Federal Health program to all refugee claimants and uphold the privacy of all people who have access to social and health services.

Newly Hired B.C. Cop Charged After Alleged Domestic Abuse

CP | The Canadian Press | Posted 11.11.2014 | Canada British Columbia

NEW WESTMINSTER, B.C. - Criminal charges involving an alleged domestic violence incident have been laid against an officer recently hired by police in...

Every Second Woman You See Has Been a Victim of Violence

Stephen Hampton | Posted 11.11.2014 | Canada Living
Stephen Hampton

The reality is that domestic abuse is far too common in society and that includes Canada. According to a Statistics Canada study 50 per cent of women in Canada have experienced physical or sexual violence since the age of 16. Think about that for a minute. Look around your office, your classroom, the street your walking on; statistically every second women you see will have suffered violence. And domestic violence is not just limited to people we don't know or people we don't see. Think about your friends and your family, your co-workers, and your classmates -- any of them could be victims of domestic violence.

A Two-Game Suspension Is a Small Price for Ray Rice To Pay

The Purple Fig | Posted 11.10.2014 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

This isn't Ray Rice's story of fame to public shame. It's the story of Janay Palmer, Anthea Mari and the many faceless women who have suffered through the same tale. Sadly, the NFL could have used better judgment from the moment the first video was released to the public. The original two-game suspension seems like after-school detention or a fleeting time-out in the corner, a small price to pay for what should be an incredibly adult crime.

Asking Abuse Victims Why They Stayed Is Still Blaming Them

Toula Drimonis | Posted 11.10.2014 | Canada Living
Toula Drimonis

To these women this isn't just the monster who kicked them down the stairs or told them they were worthless. He's also the man who romanced them and won their heart, the man they sleep next to, the man they make love to, the man who may be the father of their children, the man they build a life with together. To walk away from him is to walk away from the good moments, from the dream of that life. The possibility of what might have been, if only he could change and see the light. Abuse victims didn't "ask for it" or "like it" or "cause it." They are victims, and asking "why didn't they just walk away" -- whether unintentional or not -- blames those victims.

Elliot Rodger Killed Women Because He Believed He Was Superior To Them

Elizabeth Hawksworth | Posted 07.26.2014 | Canada
Elizabeth Hawksworth

If you are a man and reading this, you might be thinking "But not all men would hurt women." That's true. Not all men would. But all women have been dehumanized by a man. That's what's forgotten in this conversation -- there's so much defensiveness from men. Please listen to what we have to say. We're telling you that this happens enough that every woman has a story. Not all men do this, but enough men do that the default is to be distrustful and wary around men. Elliot Rodger believed in the lies the Men's Rights Activist Movement told him.

Don't Let Speaking Out Be a Taboo

Mina Mawani | Posted 07.01.2014 | Canada Living
Mina Mawani

How is it that we live in a culture where speaking out is still taboo? A culture where so many blame victims for their own abuse. Where women are afraid to report or seek assistance because they worry that they will not be believed? But today and every day, I choose not to be heartbroken.

No Kidding: Sexist Jokes Aren't Funny, They're Hostile

Toula Drimonis | Posted 04.28.2014 | Canada Living
Toula Drimonis

"I like my violence like I like my beer: domestic" This was the recent Facebook status of popular east-end Montreal bar, Nacho Libre, whose social media manager somehow thought it completely appropriate to publish this cringe-inducing "joke." Isn't domestic abuse a riot? Sexist jokes are not funny -- they're hostile.

Parents, Remember You Are Your Child's Number One Teacher

Lori Gard | Posted 04.12.2014 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Teach your children well -- teach them about life and love and joy and sorrow. Teach them to be honest and kind. Teach them to be thoughtful and generous. Teach your children to care for others. Let your own life be the living textbook that your children read. May it be among the most inspiring books they ever open!

B.C. Steps Up Fight Against Domestic Violence

CP | The Canadian Press | Posted 04.07.2014 | Canada British Columbia

VICTORIA - The B.C. government is developing a domestic violence program that would include specific approaches to help aboriginal, immigrant, refugee...

Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 01.26.2014 | Canada Living
Sandra Hawken Diaz

We've all seen the recent headlines with high profile allegations of domestic abuse. I can't count the number of times I've heard friends and family ask the same question of those stories: "why doesn't she just leave?" Too many people assume that if a woman is in an abusive relationship that she is making a choice to stay and that she has the power to end the abuse if she just leaves.

Not Our Jobs: Emotional Responsibility and Sexism

Katie Heindl | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Katie Heindl

There's a pretty levelling quote of Germaine Greer's: "Women have no idea how much men hate them." It's the kind of quote that not only knocks you ass-backwards but continues to unfurl in front of you, because the volume it speaks is only really matched by the layers in which it's applicable.

What Would You Do if Your Spouse Was Your Rapist?

Lawrence D. Elliott | Posted 08.11.2013 | Canada Living
Lawrence D. Elliott

This week, I had a drink with a very good friend. He's currently in a relationship with a wonderful woman whose ex-husband, the father of her children also happens to be the man who raped and brutally sodomized her for the last four years of their nine-year marriage. No one believed the story of her ordeal. No one in her family. Not one of her friends. Disbelief is a cruel after-effect of rape. It's also the trump card of the rapist. The burden is all too often placed on the victim, not the perpetrator. And when it's a spouse, he knows how to make the victim feel so worthless, guilty and low, that she'll avoid doing what is necessary.

Hope Is Greater Than Fear

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 07.01.2013 | Canada Impact
Sandra Hawken Diaz

The most dangerous time for an abused women is when she attempts to leave her abuser. And although Canada has more than 400 emergency shelters, in some communities women and their children are regularly turned away because the shelters are full.

Know A Woman Who's Been Abused? You're Far From Alone

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 02.11.2013 | Canada
Sandra Hawken Diaz

I wasn't prepared for 67 per cent. According to a new survey released today by the Canadian Women's Foundation, that's the percentage of Canadians who personally know a woman who's been physically or sexually abused. Imagine what that number would be if the silence ended.

"No One Ever Says 'I Want to Grow Up Homeless'"

Caroline Mulroney Lapham | Posted 01.30.2013 | Canada Impact
Caroline Mulroney Lapham

How does a woman who was abused by her father and addicted to drugs by her parents at that age ever get back on her feet? How does she grow up to become a functioning member of society? It can be hard enough for people with parents who care for them to succeed in life and find happiness, but with criminal acts perpetrated by family members this seems impossible.

I'm a Feminist Because My Mother Was Abused

Donald D'Haene | Posted 10.28.2012 | Canada Living
Donald D'Haene

My mother's life is why I am the feminist I am. From the moment I saw her crying, holding her just-hit face, looking into my four-year-old eyes in helplessness, I knew she was something and I would dedicate my life to making her believe it. I once spoke at an event in which I touched on my mother's story. Imagine my surprise when I was later informed, by a woman no less, that one man in the audience didn't like my saying that I was a feminist and said that those he was with felt the same way. She hoped it would be food for thought for me.

Almost 100,000 Canadians Are Victims Of Family Violence: StatsCan

CP | The Canadian Press | Posted 07.22.2012 | Canada Living

OTTAWA - Statistics Canada says about 99,000 Canadians were victims of family violence in 2010, with spouses accounting for almost half the abuse.The ...

Domestic Violence Offenders Likely To Offend Again Once Out On Bail

CP | Dean Beeby, The Canadian Press | Posted 01.05.2012 | Canada Politics

OTTAWA - A new Justice Department study suggests a significant number of men released on bail after allegedly beating up their partners return home to...