With Fifty Shades of Grey hitting theatres this week -- and so much controversy and misinformation out there around what D/s is and isn't -- today I want to offer up a glimpse into the REAL world of D/s. Here are the answers to nine popular questions I've been asked.
I'm truly astonished by how uptight the American media are around sex. Call me naïve or ill-informed if you want, but I really thought Americans were more open than Canadians. Yet my book and movie journey have surprisingly revealed quite the opposite.
What ticks me off is not the book itself but the media's spin on it and the questions it raises and doesn't raise. This spin isn't about sex, it's about power. The bondage narrative moves women back from little power to no power.
A D/s relationship, in its truest form, is all about her wants, her fantasies. Some of her desires may be conscious, but others may be locked in her subconscious. The Dom's job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough to unleash her creativity and explore her innermost self.