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Ah, summertime, when the living is easy. It's hard not to feel happy during the warmer months. But what if life could feel summer-good all the time? Summer is a wonderful time to put in place some spiritual practices that will serve you well all year long. Here are 10 ways to get started.
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The limbic alarm is a system is deep inside the brain that is constantly on the lookout for safety or threats, and sends us into fight-or-flight when it senses the latter. If we try to reason with a child when their alarm has been triggered -- get them to see that they are distorting the problem -- they won't be able to process what we're trying to explain. In fact, whatever we're saying to reassure them, no matter how reasonable, can actually be another stress.
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Too many of us let "brain propaganda" highjack our lives. You know what I am talking about: "Who cares if I hit the snooze button and miss my workout just this once?" Or, "I can eat this cake - what does it matter?" Or, "Why even try to lose weight... I am just going to fail. I can't do anything right."
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I am in a course on "Mindful Self-Compassion". I wish you could be there with me. After the very first session, I noticed a shift...I felt softer, I felt more loving, I felt more patient and kind. Eac...
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I am not arguing that to be successful you need to eradicate unhelpful thoughts, cravings, and urges altogether. That goal is unrealistic and simply sets you up for failure. Having desires makes you human. I love training and I still sometimes want to skip it. Instead, learn how to manage cravings and urges.
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The youth of any society constitute the promise of the future -- and many of our youth are in trouble. They are growing up in a divided society with ethnic, gender and political tensions at seemingly combustible proportions -- not just south of the border, but in Canada too.
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As a Therapist I have developed a philosophy by which I practice therapy, and live my life. This is the MORE philosophy. MORE is a frame by which we can authentically move through the opportunities li...
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As March draws to a close, you may find your well-intended thoughts to "get healthy" this year take a curbside retreat, due to a plethora of unmotivational excuses. Even me, with a dedicated personal...
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What I am saying is, when you make a choice that your future self will not be proud of, lean into the fall and learn from every choice -- both positive and negative. Work to understand your personal triggers and coping mechanisms so that you evolve into the healthier and fitter future self you want to be.
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You're waiting for your flight to board and you receive an unexpected text that sends you to an emotional tailspin. Lucky for you, if you book it the nearest bathroom and compose yourself before heading up in the air. But what if you find yourself unexpectedly sobbing at the ending of a rom-com mid flight?
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As a child and family therapist I have been assisting parents in having difficult conversations with their children on a variety of topics. As a parent I have had to have these same conversations with my own children.
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I found myself struggling, and could not get off the hamster wheel. This is familiar territory for anyone grappling with stress. And am not talking about the good stress -- a type of mild stress that can inspire you to achieve a given task or goal. Am referring to its evil twin; the one that drags you down.
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I can ask for help in the office, on the street and at home with no problem at all. But I struggle with asking for a hug when I need one, for understanding and patience, or for emotional support when I'm dealing with an issue I don't know how to deal with.
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They say that into every life a little rain must fall... Sometimes, however, it pours. If you've had a less-than-fabulous time of it lately, here are 10 proven ways to improve your mood.
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I recently wrote a post about who marries an extreme narcissist. Now, I'm going to talk about what happens to the children of extreme narcissists. In my practice as a psychiatrist, I've encountered many such children and they've all been adversely affected by having one or both parents with this personality type.
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First and foremost answer the question why you want to write your memoir. What is driving your need to write? The memoir you are writing is your story, unique to you. Pack your fear of honesty at the door and answer why this story is important to you. The truth frees you to be who you are honestly -- as a person.
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Using the principles I have developed over the years I have found a path to exceptional living. As a professional therapist I have been able to apply these principles to the clients I work with and have assisted them in achieving an exceptional life as well.
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This is the time of year people tend to scrimp a bit more and in conjunction with people setting health goals for the new year, I wanted to pass on some money-saving tips. These tips, however, are not food shopping or coupon saving ideas but how to save money once you've brought that food home.
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We continue to be bombarded with graphically depicted messages that either romanticize suicide in terms of simplistic Romeo and Juliet dreck, or unfairly portray those in the midst of a mental illness crisis as "mad." We start believing falsehoods that keep perpetuating negative stereotypes and stigma.
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Habits are habituated behaviours which are acquired by frequent repetition -- these "habits" then become a regular part of our functioning. These practices can slip into our lives without us even noticing as they feel so natural. It can be very difficult to give up or break a habit. We often hear people talking about wanting to break a bad habit, but we shouldn't forget that habits aren't always bad for us.
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The people who use emotional blackmail are doing so because it works. They rely on our negative emotions where we turn off our logic. People who use emotional blackmail are also adept at punishing you if you try and play their game.
When we realize that such a large portion of our time is actually spent at work, one would think we would be motivated to make this time as pleasant as possible. However, many of us know that this is not always the case. Most people have some sort of war stories from work that involve a difficult coworker or boss who seems bent on making our lives miserable.
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Tea is only second to water when it comes to beverage popularity -- so popular that it's consumed as much as coffee, soft drinks, and alcohol combined. There's always time for better tea, though, so here are ten tips and tricks to take your tea to the next level.
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The first person I told asked me, "What does that even mean, to have a mental illness?" I struggled to explain how I felt. That was three years ago. Today, I think I have a better grasp on what it means to live with a mental illness. So now I'll finally try to answer that question.
Gratitude is a state of feeling grateful towards something or someone, and it comes from the Latin word "gratus," which mean pleasing, agreeable and thankful -- so to be grateful is to be filled with thanks.
Thoughts and feelings without movement can become toxic, limiting us and keeping us away from what we need. Consequently, movement is essential to our life and health. There is no exceptional living without movement.
Sometimes you are just rolling along and -- WHAM! -- you are broadsided by an unexpected obstacle. No matter the obstacle, there is a simple and practical strategy that can help you move through the obstacle and either get back on track or find a new track all together!
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Lisa called me to get some advice about a colleague named Wendy whom she called a drama queen. (Both names are pseudonyms.) She started pointing out several exchanges and I asked her to just describe...
None of us are at our best when we're tired or stressed out, especially kids. In fact, much of what we see as "misbehaviour" in kids is actually "stress behaviour" -- the result of being over-stressed, unaware of it and unaware of what to do about it.
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Life, Goals, a Good Cup of Coffee "No amount of security Is worth the suffering Of a mediocre life chained To a routine that has Killed your dreams." -Maya Mendoza I was scrolling through my Facebo...
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Being talented, driven, confident, curious, creative, courageous and ambitious are all necessities if you want to be a success in any field, but they're not enough. The interpersonal component can make or break even the most promising career. The bottom line is that if you don't know how to relate to other people it will be difficult, if not impossible, to succeed in your career.
We can call choose thoughts that help us achieve our outcomes, that help to move us toward what we want, and that help us be smarter and more resourceful, no matter what comes our way. So, connect with yourself (your thoughts) and connect with other people.