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When they do, the life lesson is to accept it, learn from it, learn to live with it, move on and carry it softly.
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If we try (by applying for that job, going to the gym or doing something outside of our comfort zone) and don't achieve a 100 per cent success rate, we deem ourselves to have failed. Stop comparing yourself to what society says you should be, and instead create your own measurement system.
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I want them to know there's merit trying. The cross country season has passed us by, but there are still spelling tests, math tests, hockey games, baseball tryouts and track and field. They won't win every game. They won't make every team. But they will try again. I know they can.
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It seems like everyone else is scoring and you can't even find the end zone. How can you work so hard to get embarrassed and beaten down in this manner? We have to keep teaching ourselves how to deal with losing. How to be disappointed that it didn't work out how we expected.
Many people in corporate roles fantasize about breaking free and launching an entrepreneurial venture. Three years ago I took the plunge and did just that, leaving behind a senior role in management consulting to start a talent marketplace for freelance consultants. Unfortunately, my business model didn't gain traction, but the experience was the best thing that ever happened to me professionally speaking.
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The opposite of "success" is NOT failure. If you don't succeed -- you have GAINED a learning opportunity.
You want whatever you're doing to be perfect, and you get so disappointed and annoyed when the vision in your head doesn't match the reality. I know you, my love, and I know that it's so frustrating for you when things don't go right, when you are not living up to your own very high expectations for yourself.
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All of us face disappointment at some time in our lives but like everything else that is often beyond our control, it's what we do with it that can change the outcome. While it may not feel it right now, this could be the best thing that has happened to you and the universe is telling you something, so pay attention to the doors that may be opening for you.
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Changing something about your life is a big deal. You might not nail it the first time you try. In fact, you may never be perfect at this thing you want. That's a good thing! A serious mark of strength in a person is the ability to get up off the ground and try again and again.
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We can't be the taxi companies, Blackberry or other organizations that refused to adapt and change. We need to keep improving, listening and being better. It's not enough just to be the best of bad. We need to be actually good. Making hard choices that result in better and more effective services.
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This Christmas, their laser-beam eyes are focused on you. You're the dish of the day. You're gonna be stuffed with advice and ladled with criticism. Because they can't stand themselves. Deep in their souls, they feel like failures. What better antidote than subtly belittling you via the mechanism of meddling.
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Last week I made homemade butternut squash soup. This is a big deal. It may not be a big deal for some, but it is for me. I don't cook. I heat things up. I order in. I'm the kind of gal who has a bowl...
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Most successful people will concede that they've achieved their success because they understand that failure taught them how to succeed. We learn and grow from our failures. They teach us how to deal with adversity and disappointment, what it takes to achieve goals, and they give us an appreciation for the journey.
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Sometimes it's just as hard to hear that you can do anything as it is to hear you can't. It's an intense amount of pressure that lives inside your heart and constantly wants to take you over and confine you to your bed because it's too much work. To be honest, it can be exhausting being told to follow your dreams.
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The reality is that rebounding and finding your mojo once more after a significant setback, failure or loss involves a lot more than simply "shaking it off" no matter what Taylor Swift says. It takes some essential and necessary stages and actions that if missed will keep you stuck, and stop you from learning and growing from the experience, which no matter how unpleasant is a rich opportunity for personal growth.
It scares the crap out of me -- writing about, talking about and teaching about "failure." Then again, I think about courageous, bold and inspiring women such as Brene Brown, Cheryl Strayed, Elizabeth Gilbert and so many others who have had the balls to write about and very publicly share their own personal dances with "failure" to the benefit of so many of us.
Reinvention is about loss as well as gain. It involves the shedding of an old life, a life that may not fit any longer, but a life that was known to you. It involves the creation of a 'you' that didn't exist before. And, as with all new ventures, it involves failure.
A story never told... I have not told this story to anyone, even my closest friends, so this is a bit of a stretch into the vulnerability matrix, even for me. This is a story about how I started a...
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As I've said in this space often, my lessons learned can be profound or simple. They may be revolutionary and new, or old news that needs to be repeated. The point here then, this week's lesson learned is a simple, old one of the value of perseverance. Or put another way: Success knows no substitute for tenacity.
Much is written in business circles of visualizing your success. Well for astronauts, it is quite the reverse, they spend considerable time visualizing failure; simulating what they would do if something went wrong -- and in space, the scope is unlimited. As business owners we need to do that too and be prepared for what could go wrong, with a plan B (or C) in our back pocket.
"When things got rocky, I had this great sense that if you remain honourable in some fashion, things will work out. It's like one door closes and another door opens. It's the hallway that's hell." Nil...
Being a good parent isn't always about supporting your child in their endeavours no matter what. Was it better that we showed our children our support even though we knew the probable outcome, or would it have been a more prudent decision to have been honest with them from the outset, saving them from wasting time and worse -- the inevitable disappointment of failure?
Failure to me is when you lose tons of money and your world bottoms out. That I have never experienced. Have I made mistakes? You bet, but to me they are lessons to be learned. I have learned to let go of the need to be perfect, because I am not.
The first time feels like a big deal. People want to associate with the guy who did it first, find out all about it. No one pays attention to the fact that it is the guy who works at it, paying attention to his own attempts and adjusting. This is the person who will be the best. The guy who allowed himself a do-over, tried a few things, failed, tried again.
While a recent New York Times article scrapes the surface of young people who have succeeded at launching exemplary businesses and careers, it also brings up a glaring point: Many more fail. All of the Red Bull-guzzling, YOLO-chanting enthusiasm in the world cannot change that fact.
Last week, I was dealt a major blow of crushing disappointment proportions. Perhaps I was unrealistically confident and upbeat in my expectations of a positive response, so much so that I projected my charmed life after the anticipated "Yes" about 10 years and five giant steps forward. It hurts. The difference this time around, though...is that I knew how to deal with it.
When we have a big vision for ourselves -- and are taking steps toward fulfilling that dream -- it can be time of major transition and growth. When we are in this stage of growth, we need to muster all that we have to make our creative dreams come to fruition. Including our self-confidence. But, often it is not wise to share our vision or dreams with others until we are truly ready to do so. Here's why.
It is wise to be driven by enthusiasm and to have a well thought-out plan to make it happen, and it is certainly nice to fantasize about, but reality has a habit of ensuring that not everything we start in life comes to fruition. Like it or not, accept it or not, it is simply the way it is.
So I know Yoda is a Jedi Master and all that, but he's got something wrong. One of his most favourite claims -- "Do, or do not. There is no 'try,'" -- has a big hole in it. He's suggesting that if you make enough of an effort to achieve a goal, you should be able to reach that goal. And that if you fail, your effort or conviction was lacking. That certainly hasn't been my reality.
A personal branding strategy is built around success. Knowing what you're good at, articulating the value you can deliver, and getting recognized for that value are the three key elements in creating a brand. But we all fail from time to time. The project is delivered late, the client selects a different supplier, the product launch flops. How do you, and your personal brand, recover? Here are some suggestions.
Are you a glass half-full or glass half-empty type of person? Is your inclination to give up at the first roadblock on your path? When we don't view failure as a disaster but as a learning tool, it does become easier to accept the lesson and grow professionally and personally. Keeping your sense of humour is key. Believe it or not, there may be a time when you look back and can laugh at your foibles.
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