We're told there are plenty of fish in the sea, but through trial and error, most of us have probably figured out finding the 'one' isn't always the e...

Sometimes when I sit down with a new client, we review how and with whom they are spending their time. What I often see is that women have a "fill-in" boyfriend in their life, meaning a purely platonic guy-friend that they hang out with, laugh with, do activities with, confide in but are not involved with. I've come to learn that this type of closeness can sometimes get in the way of meeting a boyfriend because you are already getting all your needs met by this guy-friend, except for physical intimacy.

Don't expect to have all your needs met by one person. This sounds like a variation on the platitude "Don't put all your eggs in one basket," but this tendency is often the biggest stumbling block to finding a healthy love relationship -- and keeping it.