We firmly believe it's possible to find love again after experiencing a major heartbreak, but be forewarned: "possible" doesn't mean "easy." The first obstacle to surmount is fear. This is the most critical roadblock to moving forward and finding love again. Fear is often so dominant that it can crush any new budding relationship before it takes bloom.
My parents have been married for 45 years and I was with them this past weekend and they are definitely still in love -- they hold hands, tease one another and they have that special gaze when they look at each other when they think nobody is watching. I believe in real love -- I witnessed it my whole life. Here's what I think I know.
Our love story is unconventional but thoroughly modern. Not unlike a lot of modern day romances, I found my companion online. Hogatha, at first glance, was not exactly what I was looking for. She was almost a year old (I wanted a puppy), she came with some bad habits (snoring, farting, sleeping on the bed), and she was a dark brindle in colour (I preferred fawn). Yet, when we met, none of it mattered. One look in her soulful, brown eyes and I was hooked.
Many times we come into a relationship expecting others to create our happiness, and many times we end up being disappointed. Why? Because it's not someone else's job to make us happy. Happiness begins within. If you want and desire love, you have to begin by first emitting love, and that journey begins within.
We all say we want more love in our lives, but are we actually ready to receive it?I believe positive thinking attracts positive outcomes; though I know it's not always easy training your brain to stop dwelling on negativity. I think if you're serious about finding your match, and you're ready for it, you could just make your wish a reality.
Sometimes when I sit down with a new client, we review how and with whom they are spending their time. What I often see is that women have a "fill-in" boyfriend in their life, meaning a purely platonic guy-friend that they hang out with, laugh with, do activities with, confide in but are not involved with. I've come to learn that this type of closeness can sometimes get in the way of meeting a boyfriend because you are already getting all your needs met by this guy-friend, except for physical intimacy.