Forgiveness

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Revealing I Was Sexually Abused Lost Me The Mother I Never Had

After what feels like a lifetime of battling drug and alcohol addiction, and my own tenuous mental health issues, three years ago -- at the age of 47 -- I finally found the strength to tell my wife and adult son that I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Like too many other survivors of childhood sexual violence who decide to go public with their disclosure, I have lost contact with my mother and my siblings as a result. If you really want to know how to destroy an already fragile soul, take away the one thing that a survivor of sexual violence needs most -- connection, which equates as validation and worthiness.
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8 Steps to Overcoming the Fear of Not Being Good Enough

When was the last time you felt that you had to prove something to the people you love? When you feel that you're not good enough, you often find yourself in isolation, sitting in the dark room, abandoned and longing for love -- Here is the eight-step process for you to take on in order to never ever again be lost in the fear of not being enough.
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Omar Khadr's Release Can Offer an Important Lesson to Us All

After being imprisoned for over a decade, Omar Khadr is now free on bail. In his first public appearance and media scrum, we witnessed not a mean-spirited radicalized militant, but rather, an articulate humbled young man, and in his own words, someone eager to "prove to [Canadians] that I'm more than what they thought of me."
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Why We Need To Remove the Stigma Around Men Who Seek Therapy

I started by telling you about my own experience in the world of abuse. I did this because those experiences are what helped me understand the importance of healing in light of a frightening situation. These women -- our sisters -- need our support and understanding to heal. But we cannot forget the men. At some point we are going to have to turn around and help heal this man. Many will think he is undeserving, but he too experienced trauma in his life which he has had to cope with. I'm not talking about forgiveness, I'm talking about compassion.

Thank You GPS Woman

Dear {insert name}, It began as a disagreement. It has exploded out of control. When I saw you walk into the restaurant, I immediately buried my face in my food. Oh what a sick feeling I had knowing y...
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Damn You, Judgment Gene

It took me a long time to learn that my self-consciousness is a signal of the judgment inside of me; I think you're judging me because I've judged for the same reasons. Through social norms or because of my very own judgy gene, I deemed xyz as unacceptable. I can't escape it. We're all judgmental and will be for all the evers. Maybe it's baked into our DNA? Well, I demand a restrand!
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Still Holding On to Anger About an Ex? Let it Go

I am friends with all my exes! Many people find this very strange. Many years ago I had an extremely bad break up, and because there was so much hurt between us we decided to not speak. This was one of the most difficult and challenging times of my life. But as I get older I have little time for bitterness, anger, or hurt. If there is an ex in your life whom you feel anger towards or cannot speak to them, let them go.

What is the True Measure of a Man?

One of my childhoods was happy. The B&W movies projected on our small TV screen, more often than not, contradicted the drama I was living in my own home movie reels. But there were exceptions. In fact, the images of our television's B&W movies were very real to me. Sidney Poitier was one of those images, and thankfully, he made repeat appearances.

To Forgive or Not to Forgive?

If someone has to force themselves to forgive in order to meet someone else's expectations, they'll be more tormented than if they'd held onto their hurt. A better solution would be to learn how to let go.

The Redefined MD

Good doctors exercise judgment. They make the call and -- right or wrong -- live with the consequences and learn from them. The redefined MD is flawed, but comfortable inside their own skin. When you get to that place, you can like yourself in spite of your mistakes.