Instead of thinking about what physical goals you want to reach (lose 20 pounds, make six figures, buy a house), you think about the why of these things. How do you think they're going to make you feel (maybe sexy, wealthy, secure)? You'll discover a whole bunch of other ways to achieve those feelings.
There's certainly nothing wrong with a journey for self improvement, but too often we put so much pressure on ourselves at this time of year that we wind up with fizzling motivation come February 1 that leaves us frustrated, disappointed and defeated. So what can you do to set yourself up for success to achieve lasting change?
Goal setting doesn't have to turn into Goal Fretting. If you are seriously committed to making changes in your life, identify what has been, and hasn't been, working for you in the past, come up with a plan, find a coach to support you every step of the way. Don't be another statistic, do it right this time!
As a therapist, I encourage people to set goals that are practical, realistic and attainable. Avoid the disappointment and discouragement of lofty resolutions by being patient and committed. In order to achieve this, I offer some simple and practical points of reflection and planning strategies that can reveal your priorities and assist you in moving forward.
The summer is a great time for doing some thinking and once you have put some thought into your vision for the future, the next steps are to identify and evaluate your priorities and create a realistic plan that will move you forward in these areas. In order to achieve this, I offer a simple and practical structure to get you going.
The beginning of a new year is the best time to start fresh and get your life moving in the direction you really want. It doesn't matter how much money you have or make, or whether you are just starting out or have a successful career, by opening yourself up to new possibilities through goal setting, you will start living the life you want.
Last week, "Why Generation Y Yuppies are Unhappy," an article written on the Huffington Post went viral. ERRRR it made me angry. Here's a quick summary: "When the reality of someone's life is better than they had expected, they're happy. When reality turns out to be worse than expectations, they're unhappy." If you believe in this then you are settling for less in life.
Take a second look at your resolutions. Re-evaluate them. Much of the difference hinges on the reason behind our resolution. If we choose a goal from our own heart, we tend to succeed. It's the 'shoulds' that we resist. Break the year long goals into bite sized pieces and don't forget to check off your progress.
It's a new year. Time to dust off that old piece of paper with your goals from last year and take a moment to compare what you set out to accomplish with what you actually got done. Did you hit all of your goals? If so, then shame on you! Set them higher this year and really push yourself! It's not supposed to be easy.