Good Parenting

Five Things You Shouldn't Ask a South-Asian Stepmom

masalamommas | Posted 03.30.2014 | Canada Living
masalamommas

This question is similar to asking a married woman if she gets along with her husband's last long-term girlfriend. For most women the answer may be no. But for stepmothers the situation is much more complex. Your step children's mother's presence is deeply embedded in your lives because of the influence she has on them, even though you may rarely ever interact with her yourself.

Will My Kids Remember Me at My Best or My Worst?

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 03.25.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

Which memories will our children remember forever and which are they going to forget? Are they going to remember the few times I got upset when they spilled their milk or all the times I told them not to worry about it? Are they going to remember all the times I attended their school events or the few times I couldn't be there?

Parents, Step Back So Your Child Can Solve Their Own Problem

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 04.09.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

This particular show had their youngest daughter, Cindy, about eight years old, dealing with a bully, Buddy Hinton, making fun of her lisp. When she complains to mom and dad, they tell her to "fix" her lisp by taking books out of the library with lots of "s's" in them, and reading them out loud. They wanted HER to fix HER own problem.

Why I Hate the '80s Ninja Turtles

Vicki Murphy | Posted 02.01.2014 | Canada Living
Vicki Murphy

One day, I pressed play on the PVR and went about my bidness, Max on the couch pumped for some Turtle Power. A few minutes later, I heard this moaning and groaning coming from the television, with some bow-chicka-wow music in the background. What the. I ran to the TV and saw a commercial for a chat line, The Night Exchange.

Why Daycare Can Have a Negative Effect on Your Child

Jonas Himmelstrand | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Jonas Himmelstrand

North Americans are presented with a vision of heavenly perfection in Swedish daycare but in reality, education outcomes are declining, teens are anxiety-ridden and misbehaving and the quality of parenting is suffering. Let's start with the ever deteriorating psychological health of Swedish youth, which has become a major concern in Swedish public debate today.

Doing Away With the Honour Roll and Awards System in Schools is Absurd

Stephanie Knaak | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Stephanie Knaak

Somewhere along the way, we've adopted some goofy misguided idea that children's psyches are inherently, staggeringly fragile, prone to devastating and irreversible damage from any number of relatively benign phenomena -- like honour rolls, sporting activities where only the winning team gets a trophy, or track and field days with actual competition (oh, the horror!).

How I Dealt With My Adult Son's Visit Home (Right After He Quit Smoking)

Deborah Kimmett | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Deborah Kimmett

As the nicotine leached out of his system, the emotional outbursts started. Think of the terrible twos except with a terrible two-year-old that could bench press you. He was like someone suffering from Tourettes Syndrome. He would just started swearing and freaking out for no reason. No, I don't want to do the dishes. No, I don't want to go to bed. No. No. No.

The Surprising Things Parents Do That Affect Children More Than Poverty

Nicole Letourneau | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Nicole Letourneau

Caregivers don't need great riches to support their children. A strong, supportive adult figure can help children overcome otherwise unhealthy environments. This figure need not even be the child's parents (though of course this helps). A grandparent, and aunt, a family friend, even a dedicated teacher can have a tangible, long-lasting impact on a child's development.

Oh, You Failed? Maybe You Just Weren't Good Enough

r/ally | Posted 11.11.2013 | Canada Living
r/ally

Rarely a day goes by where I don't come across a headline or blog post that celebrates failure in some way and while I agree that it can serve a higher purpose, I remain skeptical that failure is always a good and necessary part of our development. Sometimes, failures just hurt and we need to mourn them before moving on.

I Was Going to be a Perfect Parent...Until I Had Kids

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.14.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a list of all the "dos and don'ts" required for effectively achieving the status of perfect parent. As I swapped my hopes for a career in nursing, and instead chose countless hours of time bonding with my children, in those early days of motherhood when I was stumbling over the educational toys strewn about my home, nobody could have convinced me then that I would become what I am today.

What These 10 Classic Parenting Phrases Really Mean

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 01.14.2013 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

We've all heard them. Those annoying phrases that our parents said to us growing up and now that we're parents ourselves, we've decided to inflict them our own kids. The reality is that the true meanings behind these messages that parents tell their kids are often not as straightforward as they appear to be. Following are the top 10 phrases that parents use on their kids, and what they really mean.

When Philosophies Converge (Because Good Mothers Show Up)

Lori Gard | Posted 06.27.2012 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Being a mother is just part of a woman's persona, not the be all and end all of a woman's life. Mothers need not check their goals, dreams and aspirations at the hospital door when they go to deliver. And for one to suggest that you might have days where you'd rather not be around your children -- and actually admit it out loud -- is okay. Most importantly, moms don't always have to like the job of being a mother. Because quite frankly, many don't.