#Grief

Decide Now Who Will Delete Your Digital Ghost When You Die

Judy Mann | Posted 04.20.2016 | Canada Living
Judy Mann

I lost someone very special to me to cancer. It was a short battle -- it ended just four months after her diagnosis and just slightly more than six months after she was off sick from work. Then, a few months later a notification popped up on my LinkedIn.

Accepting My Miscarriage Helped Me Heal

Melanie Braga | Posted 04.18.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

The emotional distress started to make me feel sick all the time and it came to the point that I just couldn't continue like this anymore. I decided that my first step to healing was to talk to people who have experienced the same type of loss, and by doing this it helped me realize that everything I was feeling was normal.

You Have My Permission To Put Career On The Back Burner

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 04.06.2016 | Canada Business
Sarah Vermunt

Yes, you read that right. Sometimes your career should be your LAST priority. Like, dead last. I bet that sounds crazy coming from a gal like me, right? I'm a career coach -- one who believes very strongly in career as a pillar of happiness, fulfillment, stability and even health.

We Could All Be Chase Martens' Mom

Jennifer Campbell | Posted 04.01.2016 | Canada Parents
Jennifer Campbell

I could see my four-year-old son playing on the slide, but my two-year-old son was out of sight -- not unusual as we had a very large, gated yard. I didn't even have time to cover myself before a woman came around the corner, a look of fury on her face and my two-year-old on her hip. "DO YOU KNOW WHERE I JUST FOUND YOUR CHILD?" she screeched.

I Am So Angry All The Time

Her Magazine | Posted 03.23.2016 | Canada Parents
Her Magazine

I have no patience. I'm snippy, rude and have a short fuse. I think my kids' behaviour is atrocious. Is this because I am newly widowed and stressed out or am I just another mom dealing with kids? I don't know the line between what is normal and what is a result of our grief? I am confused, frustrated and feel like a failure as a parent.

The 5 Stages Of Grief Explain The Rise Of Trump

David Martin | Posted 03.02.2016 | Canada Politics
David Martin

Accepting your own death or the death of a loved one is a healthy and liberating step. In the case of Mr. Trump, however, it's not entirely clear whose death is being accepted. If it's the demise of the Republican Party, that may be a good thing. If it's the end of America, then it's probably not.

What I Would Ask My Mom If She Were Still Alive

Hannah Spray | Posted 01.28.2016 | Canada Parents
Hannah Spray

The first time I carried a child, I suddenly had this intense urge to be closer to my mom. It was hard going through a pregnancy and a stressful birth experience without my mother's guidance and support (cancer can quit now, OK?), and I keep coming up against questions I really wish I could ask my mama, but that must be left unanswered.

I Hope That All Dogs Go To Heaven

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 01.25.2016 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

A friend and I took him for one last walk down to the beach he loved. For an hour, he ran free, met a few other dogs, rolled around in the snow (and on a dead fish), and then let us know he'd had enough. Just before 4 p.m., my husband and I put him in the car for one last ride.

Our Loved Ones Are Gone But Never Lost

Adele Ryan McDowell | Posted 01.05.2016 | Canada Living
Adele Ryan McDowell

We grieve for the dead, but, in reality, we are grieving the pain of the loss of connection with our loved one. I suggest there might be more than merely the physical plane and your deceased loved ones are applauding your efforts regularly. You know the feeling of love and connection; perhaps, it is closer than you think.

12 Ways To Enjoy The Holidays (When You Are Feeling More Like The Grinch)

Jen Lawrence | Posted 12.22.2015 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

It's the most wonderful time of the year... for everybody else. At least that's how it can seem if this season you are dealing with less-than-perfect ...

Getting Through The Holidays After Losing A Baby

Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre | Posted 12.11.2015 | Canada Parents
Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre

The holidays are a joyful time of celebration and coming together with friends and family. But for families who have lost a loved one, the holidays can be especially difficult. Old memories and traditions offer reminders of loved ones no longer there. Families who have lost babies can find the holidays particularly bittersweet.

Top 6 Life Lessons From The Great Beyond

Jen Lawrence | Posted 12.08.2015 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

Even better than all of the gee wow validations the medium provided, however, was the amazing sense of comfort I felt after the reading. I'd gone into it as a bit of a lark and came out feeling quite revitalized. Whether her words were heaven-sent or not, she gave me some excellent advice.

Stop Worrying Which City's Tragedy Received More Attention

Rondi Adamson | Posted 11.24.2015 | Canada Living
Rondi Adamson

Talking more about one attack or reacting more passionately to it does not a narrow response make, nor does it mean you are a bigot who wants your country's doors closed to refugees. What I would like is for the hectoring posturers out there to understand that Paris, in many ways, represents the apex of Western culture.

Self-Care During Times Of Stress Or Grief

Brandee Foster | Posted 11.17.2015 | Canada Living
Brandee Foster

It can be really hard to take care of yourself when you or someone you love is sick or in crisis, when you feel like life is spinning out of control. I've been there and I'm hoping that by sharing my experience and what helped me, it might help someone else.

The Martian Teaches Us About Resilience

Jen Lawrence | Posted 11.04.2015 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

The film is, on the surface, about a botched space mission that leaves Matt Damon stranded on Mars. It's also a film for anyone who's found themselves thousands of miles away from the life they'd planned. If you've lost a child, lost a spouse, survived a crime, been disabled, been diagnosed with a critical illness, you likely have had moments when you feel alone on a strange planet with no guarantee of making it back home.

As A Doctor, I Want You To Know Your Miscarriage Isn't Your Fault

Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre | Posted 11.05.2015 | Canada Parents
Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre

Women often feel guilt, thinking a stressful event or something like their previous use of oral contraceptives caused the miscarriage. The majority of time, miscarriage is a random, isolated event and a cause can't be determined.

Taking Selfies During the Throes of Depression Helped Me Heal

Zoë Gemelli | Posted 10.08.2015 | Canada Living
Zoë Gemelli

Lay all of these photos out against each other and it tells a story of the ebbs and flows of depression. I didn't once take a selfie thinking it would be the reminder of how bad it can get. I'm a photographer and just have the innate need to document, even if it's my own angst or joy.

The Reversal of Fortune Survival Guide

Jen Lawrence | Posted 09.15.2015 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

Recently, a friend asked me if I could help a neighbor whose life had fallen apart. I have the bittersweet reputation of being someone who's lived through some soul-shattering events and has managed to stay vertical, so she thought I might be able to offer some comfort and advice.

A Letter to My Younger Self on Understanding Suicide

Lynn Keane | Posted 09.10.2015 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

Life is for the living. In the years to come you will wake thinking about your son and not his suicide. In accepting loss, your mind will search for memories of life before depression and suicide became part of your lexicon. There will be much work to do in your son's name and in support of youth suicide prevention.

I'm Grieving One Birthday, Anniversary and Holiday at a Time

Robin Summerfield | Posted 08.24.2015 | Canada Living
Robin Summerfield

Three months ago, my love died. Today is our seventh wedding anniversary. I am miserable. Distraction and over compensation has been a great (if not especially healthy) strategy for me. If I can't face the pain of loss at the moment, why not flip the script.

What My Kids Learned When Their Pets Died

Karly Hribnak | Posted 08.12.2015 | Canada Parents
Karly Hribnak

I am hoping that these two losses prepare the boys enough that they know there is no shame in crying, in openly grieving. Nor is there shame in laughing at the goofy, silly and funny memories. That grief comes in waves. That part of loving is sometimes letting go but that you get up, dust yourself off and continue on with your life.

Grieving Pains: Unexpected Side Effects of Widowhood

Robin Summerfield | Posted 08.04.2015 | Canada Living
Robin Summerfield

Since Mike died I am a one-woman wrecking crew. Unfortunately, my body is the demolition site. On my left forearm I have an deep yellow, inch-and-a-half-long bruise. On the underside, I have an angry red scrape that curls around from front to back. On one palm, I have a wee boo boo. Further down, I have four pink slashes, in various states of healing, across my shin.

What Grief Taught Me

Marcia Sirota | Posted 07.29.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

When I was 25-years-old and early on in my medical training, I got a phone call from my mom one day. With no preamble, she blurted out, "She's gone!" At first, I didn't know who mom was talking about. Then she said the name. It was Esther, my infant niece.

I Don't Feel Like a Widow, But I Am One

Robin Summerfield | Posted 07.12.2015 | Canada Living
Robin Summerfield

The truth is I don't feel 44 and I don't feel like a widow. I feel married and 80-years-old. In the past four years, I have aged tremendously, both physically, emotionally and mentally. And in my mind, I am still married. Mike has just been gone a little more than a month.

Does Professionalism Makes Us Less Kind?

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 07.07.2015 | Canada Business
Sarah Vermunt

I want to work in a world where it's OK to really feel things, to shed a tear, to let it all out, to have a meltdown. Maybe not in the middle of a board meeting, but privately and with someone who feels safe.