Stop Worrying Which City's Tragedy Received More Attention

Rondi Adamson | Posted 11.24.2015 | Canada Living
Rondi Adamson

Talking more about one attack or reacting more passionately to it does not a narrow response make, nor does it mean you are a bigot who wants your country's doors closed to refugees. What I would like is for the hectoring posturers out there to understand that Paris, in many ways, represents the apex of Western culture.

Self-Care During Times Of Stress Or Grief

Brandee Foster | Posted 11.17.2015 | Canada Living
Brandee Foster

It can be really hard to take care of yourself when you or someone you love is sick or in crisis, when you feel like life is spinning out of control. I've been there and I'm hoping that by sharing my experience and what helped me, it might help someone else.

The Martian Teaches Us About Resilience

Jen Lawrence | Posted 11.04.2015 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

The film is, on the surface, about a botched space mission that leaves Matt Damon stranded on Mars. It's also a film for anyone who's found themselves thousands of miles away from the life they'd planned. If you've lost a child, lost a spouse, survived a crime, been disabled, been diagnosed with a critical illness, you likely have had moments when you feel alone on a strange planet with no guarantee of making it back home.

As A Doctor, I Want You To Know Your Miscarriage Isn't Your Fault

Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre | Posted 11.05.2015 | Canada Parents
Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre

Women often feel guilt, thinking a stressful event or something like their previous use of oral contraceptives caused the miscarriage. The majority of time, miscarriage is a random, isolated event and a cause can't be determined.

Taking Selfies During the Throes of Depression Helped Me Heal

Zoë Gemelli | Posted 10.08.2015 | Canada Living
Zoë Gemelli

Lay all of these photos out against each other and it tells a story of the ebbs and flows of depression. I didn't once take a selfie thinking it would be the reminder of how bad it can get. I'm a photographer and just have the innate need to document, even if it's my own angst or joy.

The Reversal of Fortune Survival Guide

Jen Lawrence | Posted 09.15.2015 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

Recently, a friend asked me if I could help a neighbor whose life had fallen apart. I have the bittersweet reputation of being someone who's lived through some soul-shattering events and has managed to stay vertical, so she thought I might be able to offer some comfort and advice.

A Letter to My Younger Self on Understanding Suicide

Lynn Keane | Posted 09.10.2015 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

Life is for the living. In the years to come you will wake thinking about your son and not his suicide. In accepting loss, your mind will search for memories of life before depression and suicide became part of your lexicon. There will be much work to do in your son's name and in support of youth suicide prevention.

I'm Grieving One Birthday, Anniversary and Holiday at a Time

Robin Summerfield | Posted 08.24.2015 | Canada Living
Robin Summerfield

Three months ago, my love died. Today is our seventh wedding anniversary. I am miserable. Distraction and over compensation has been a great (if not especially healthy) strategy for me. If I can't face the pain of loss at the moment, why not flip the script.

What My Kids Learned When Their Pets Died

Karly Hribnak | Posted 08.12.2015 | Canada Parents
Karly Hribnak

I am hoping that these two losses prepare the boys enough that they know there is no shame in crying, in openly grieving. Nor is there shame in laughing at the goofy, silly and funny memories. That grief comes in waves. That part of loving is sometimes letting go but that you get up, dust yourself off and continue on with your life.

Grieving Pains: Unexpected Side Effects of Widowhood

Robin Summerfield | Posted 08.04.2015 | Canada Living
Robin Summerfield

Since Mike died I am a one-woman wrecking crew. Unfortunately, my body is the demolition site. On my left forearm I have an deep yellow, inch-and-a-half-long bruise. On the underside, I have an angry red scrape that curls around from front to back. On one palm, I have a wee boo boo. Further down, I have four pink slashes, in various states of healing, across my shin.

What Grief Taught Me

Marcia Sirota | Posted 07.29.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

When I was 25-years-old and early on in my medical training, I got a phone call from my mom one day. With no preamble, she blurted out, "She's gone!" At first, I didn't know who mom was talking about. Then she said the name. It was Esther, my infant niece.

I Don't Feel Like a Widow, But I Am One

Robin Summerfield | Posted 07.12.2015 | Canada Living
Robin Summerfield

The truth is I don't feel 44 and I don't feel like a widow. I feel married and 80-years-old. In the past four years, I have aged tremendously, both physically, emotionally and mentally. And in my mind, I am still married. Mike has just been gone a little more than a month.

Does Professionalism Makes Us Less Kind?

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 07.07.2015 | Canada Business
Sarah Vermunt

I want to work in a world where it's OK to really feel things, to shed a tear, to let it all out, to have a meltdown. Maybe not in the middle of a board meeting, but privately and with someone who feels safe.

Remembering My Mother, a Woman Who Deserved So Much More

Jason Najum | Posted 05.10.2015 | Canada Politics
Jason Najum

My mother missed her children's weddings. Missed the birth of her grandchild. In that grand balance up in the sky, measuring who gave and who took, my mother's ledger is a study of injustice. I doubt there has ever been an adult soul who took less, whose footprint was lighter. She never harmed or blasphemed or burdened; she was not perfect, but her faults were small and were her own, never imposing them on others. She deserved more. A lot more.

For Some People, Mother's Day Is a Little More Complicated

Jacki Andre | Posted 05.09.2015 | Canada Parents
Jacki Andre

Since my mom died almost 10 years ago, I've struggled with Mother's Day. It doesn't help that I am also childless and single. Mother's Day is typically a mix of happy memories and sad introspection for me. I'm not the only one who finds Mother's Day complicated. When I recently polled my friends, I found a wellspring of Mother's Day heartache, and stories and tangents I had not considered.

This Mother's Day, I'm Acknowledging the Painful Side of Motherhood. Loss

Heather van Mil | Posted 05.08.2015 | Canada Parents
Heather van Mil

While Mother's Day is a celebration of love for many, it is a day of pain and grief for so many more. There are many faces of motherhood, some less obvious then others. There are mothers whose arms are empty; suffering from infertility, miscarriages or the death of a child. The world doesn't recognize them as mothers but they are and always will be.

When Being Prepared isn't Enough - Supporting Parents When a Baby Dies

Jens Locher | Posted 05.07.2015 | Canada Parents
Jens Locher

While the majority of people haven't found the courage yet to talk with expectant parents about the risk of losing a child, how to survive such tragedies and continue to live, we need to be even more diligent in ensuring that we have experienced specialists in place that are available every time parents are facing the tragedy of losing their baby.

Writing Helps Me Cope With My Son's Suicide

Lynn Keane | Posted 04.24.2015 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

Reading non-fiction and personal memoirs was also an important part of the healing process for me. Reading allowed me to set aside my own emotions and be absorbed in someone else's life. It provided an escape and a road map to writing my son's story.

Tips For Caregivers On Dealing With Grief and Loss

Eva Zatrak | Posted 04.22.2015 | Canada Living
Eva Zatrak

As there will be some special days that make it painful, you can plan ahead. If you have recently lost your father, than make sure you're with supportive individuals on his birthday, or on Father's Day. You will want to surround yourself with people who respect your grieving process. Make sure you accept the love and support of your friends and family members.

Four Tips on How To Deal With Loss and Grief During the Holidays

Alyson Jones | Posted 02.22.2015 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

Find ways to honour those you miss. Look at old photos and tell stories of any loved ones you have lost. Honour the expectations that you may have had for relationships, life and even your vision of the season, as they are a part of our story. Let a lost loved one remain alive in you, and be an active part of your experience.

Life After the Loss of a Sister

The Reply | Posted 02.19.2015 | Canada Living
The Reply

After suffering such a significant loss, Carly has learned to cherish what is truly important. She talks about how grateful she is to have people in her life who she knows will always stand by her side, no matter what. "There aren't words to describe how much my family means to me."

How Meditation Changed My Life

Komal Minhas | Posted 12.16.2014 | Canada Impact
Komal Minhas

In August 2010, I was attending week three of a youth conference and found myself deep in meditation, sobbing as if I had just emerged from the womb. Here I was, in the middle of Berlin deep in meditation, with the photo of an older Indian man with long hair and in white robes at the front of the room, feeling at my very core that my life was about to change dramatically.

Putting My Mother's Life In Boxes

Sue Nador | Posted 10.11.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

My sister and I have been putting my mom's life into boxes. She died two months ago, so we are sorting through her things deciding what we keep, what goes to others who loved her, and what gets shipped off to strangers in need.

I've Waited Most Of My Life To Stand In My Father's Ski Boots

Sarah Collins | Posted 09.06.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Sarah Collins

Today I am the exact age my dad was when he died in a freak ski accident. Back then, I was 16: self-centred, emotional, athletic, and focused. He was 43 and nine days: broody, generous, heavy-handed, and hot-tempered. Sometimes we collided. Often I hid.

What Watching My Parents Grieve Taught Me About A Daughter's Duty

Sara Harowitz | Posted 08.19.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Sara Harowitz

We can go days without talking, but I still know their love is there. Most of the time it's comforting, like a hug or a warm sweater. But sometimes it's heavy, almost suffocating, as if their happiness depends entirely on my actions, my life. I don't blame them because I know this intensity only stems from their greatest fear: losing me or my brothers.