We have made body image more important than body function. You can be healthy, beautiful and happy at any size. You can be unhealthy and unhappy at any size as well. If our children hear us say all that matters is health, but see us with fitness magazines on our coffee tables and weight-loss products in our cupboards, what message do they really get?
Sometimes the best thing you can do for your health is quit your job. When it comes to work, a lot of us get caught up in the momentum. Many people are driven, have goals and want to be successful. So when people are unhappy at work (especially if their job looks great on paper), they find it hard to leave.
Having a written source of best practices, stories, and experiences from those who've been there can be enriching and useful to add to one's set of skills. For instance, there is a wonderful, practical Canadian book called Doris Inc. Author Shirley Roberts struggled mightily when she was first thrust into the role of caring for her mother Doris, who was suffering from Alzheimer's Disease. But instead of throwing up her hands in surrender, she went to work on a solution.
As a therapist, I encourage people to set goals that are practical, realistic and attainable. Avoid the disappointment and discouragement of lofty resolutions by being patient and committed. In order to achieve this, I offer some simple and practical points of reflection and planning strategies that can reveal your priorities and assist you in moving forward.
So, you've come to grips with the fact that the only workouts you plan on getting are the continuous long treks up the stairs to refill your pitcher of sangria. But before you get too comfortable with this soothing summer schedule, what if you could bring workout equipment to the cottage that will increase exercise intensity, reduce total time AND won't even take up space in your suitcase?
I realize that not everyone is going to look at exercising as the highlight of their day or the passion of their life. Although there are things about working out that some may never enjoy there are a few things that will make the experience a little easier to digest. Here are some small, easy changes we can all make to start enjoying the gym a just a little more.
I was an unhealthy teenager. I hated my body, and I didn't think that much of the rest of me either. I always felt awkward, so I gorged on things like ultra-cheesy pasta to escape life. I have gradually built self-confidence and slowly replaced most of my bad habits with better ones, but the old me, or at least the memory of the old me, still exists and will always exist.
And before you go thinking I'm anti-Western med, know that I believe there are some pretty incredible Western medical doctors around doing great things. I simply believe that what we need to do is analyze the entire spectrum of an individual's case rather than group a subset of individuals with similar symptoms (cancer for example) containing multiple root causes.
If you had told me 10 years ago that I would become a believer in the power of yoga, I would have laughed at you. I would have laughed long and loud before telling you to go back to the hippie colony from whence you came. Back then, yoga was nothing more than a trend to me, a trend that bred an army of vacant, granola-crunching women who were evolving into bizarre contortionist people. I wanted no part in it.