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Canadian Olympian and relationship guru Brianne Theisen-Eaton offers three tips for a healthy relationship.
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My husband and I were friends before we were a couple. But we don't wait for a day to express our love and gratitude for each other. For us, every day is special. And with two toddlers, this is not easy. But here's how we commit to everyday happiness.
Fantastic relationships come when we can be equal yet different. When we accept each-other with all our own unique strengths and foibles, gifts and challenges, we can come together and complement one-another.
When I observe how people engage in romantic relationships, it seems that they do this in one of two ways: either from the perspective of a child or from that of an adult. People who pursue love from an adult perspective are looking for companionship, romance, a life partner. People who approach love from a child-like perspective, however, have a very different agenda
Like any other "addiction," I think a porn or sex addiction has more to do with our own abilities to cope and achieve healthy, interpersonal sexual and emotional relationships.
Kindness emerges from someone who's confident, compassionate and comfortable with themselves. A kind person is loving and giving out of the goodness of their heart. At the root of extreme niceness, however, are feelings of inadequacy and the need to get approval and validation from others.
There's no point in going easy on someone when they behave badly in a relationship because when we tolerate disrespect, we give the other person can continue to mistreat us. If men and women were to follow four simple rules, I think that fewer feelings would be hurt and a lot less time would be wasted.