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All those events can get overwhelming.
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Remember, no family is perfect. No one is perfect. A little family conflict may be unavoidable for some people. Unless it's gross mistreatment, try to skirt disagreements. Agree when you normally wouldn't, swallow a little pride and be more forgiving. It's only one or two days a year. And remember there are many, many people with no family at all. So if you have family, you already have a reason to be thankful.
Most of us have heard this at least once in our lives. But if we can't achieve the perfect life we have dreamed of our whole life, then what's the point? How can we expect ourselves to be happy? Trying to achieve the society's definition of success won't bring all of us happiness.
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Managing your Christmas Stress is all about eliminating the things that create emotional, mental or emotions stress. And, when you keep your holiday expectations in check, you are more likely to create a Merry Christmas that ends stress free.
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Some are geographically distant from those they hold dear and raise a solitary glass to absent friends. Others have lost loved ones to the grave. But for many of us, "no contact" is a choice we consciously made. Loneliness is simply less painful than the agony of spending time with our toxic families.
Every year, there are always people who don't look forward to the holiday season. Some have difficult relationships with their family members, some are feeling lonely and isolated and some are financially strapped.
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Here is the big eye-opener: our stress is self-imposed.
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December is the month when I experience the most stress to live up to everyone's expectations. Be a good Mom. Be an amazing business owner. Be at every event. Continue to grow your empire. Don't forget anything. Be yourself...but better...tenfold.
Be kind to yourself as you grow, fail and succeed. There is no health in beating yourself up and setting yourself up for failure. Success often comes in packages we did not expect, so be open to things looking a bit different than you expected. Keep moving towards the things that you love and make you feel alive, and that path will lead you towards true change and growth.
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Probably like most of us, your family is not close to perfect like George Bailey's. It probably is closer to one of the three Modern Family families or the Griswolds. To avoid getting wrapped up in garlands, here's your family survival guide for the holidays.
The holidays are filled with social gatherings, family dinners and opportunities to connect and share the joy of the season. But with this festive season also come land mines that are within every family -- all this togetherness can sometimes backfire. So, how do we avoid this meltdown? Here are some tips to assist you in keeping the family peace during the holidays.
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While the holiday season is often depicted as a special time of year -- so much so that many people strive to make their holidays "perfect" -- the reality is that the happiness that is widely portrayed can often be a myth for people across Canada, including young people.
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Children may worry they are being disloyal if they start to have too much fun with one parent. They also worry about the parent that they are not with, wondering if that parent is okay. Sometimes they just deeply miss the parent they are not with. The familiar traditions may be gone and this can leave the children feeling as though something or someone is missing.
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Driving. Eating. Cooking. Brushing our teeth. Applying lipstick. Even, having sex! Most of the things we do in life are done mindlessly from memory, and not actively aware. It wasn't until I took a mindfulness meditation course that I realized what we are all missing out on!
Have you noticed that every holiday season, the pressure builds as everyone rushes around buying too much stuff before the Big Day? Then our festive bubble bursts just after New Year's when they announce how much new debt everyone has incurred. And then just as suddenly, the talk turns to RSPs and taxes. The collective anxiety is enough to give everyone a massive ulcer.
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Are you dreading the holidays? Do you always end up more tired and stressed after? Do you need a holiday from your holiday? Here are 10 tips to survive the holidays.
As a community nurse I've heard stories from families who, instead of checking items off shopping lists and going to holiday parties, were taking someone to multiple medical appointments. Or, they were worried and asking me how to keep their mom calm and comfortable at the busy family gathering as her dementia was taking hold.
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"Family-Holiday Culture" has a massive influence on us. We are genetically and socially programmed to seek out being a part of this culture. But what if the group or the family culture we belong to, especially at holiday time, causes us pain, worry, fear, sadness, guilt, shame, rage, and most importantly the loss of our own "Self-Culture," our authentic relaxed self?
The festive season, not surprisingly, can be one that causes anxiety for many of us who are trying to balance parenting along with all of the other responsibilities. The good news is that there are ways for parents to alleviate the stresses that are a very real part of the holidays. By following the tips below, you can survive the festive season with the kids -- and even enjoy them as well.
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If Christmas means giving more and more of myself so that I become less and less of me, then I'll take a pass, thanks. No, instead I intend on receiving Christmas this year. I want Christmas to wash over me in all its glory. This year, I want to focus on accepting the priceless gift of Christmas.
A cocktail or glass of wine can help us to relax and even feel a little sexier. But does it actually result in better sex?
The Christmas season was much different for me this year. I had another operation in mid-November, which was necessary and related to my reconstruction, but a blessing at the same time. It gave me the time leading up to the holidays to recover, de-stress and relax.
It's the holidays! For some of us, getting to a sense of fun and joy at this time of year is easy. For others, rather than "Yipee, what fun!" you might be thinking "Bah, humbug!" Here's a little holiday acronym to help you S.N.A.P. into Holiday Fun!
The Christmas season is a time when our focus narrows to a shorter time-frame. Right now, we're all preparing for what happens between now and December 31. Maybe Christmas is a good time to practice living more in the present, being fully there at those gatherings of family and friends.
The holidays are a time where we can recognize and appreciate the beautiful people in our lives. Families and friends make time to get together and it can also be a time to reflect on the past year. However, many of us may find it stressful dealing with all the activities and crowds. Stay calm this season by taking the following steps:
Are your family gatherings like Norman Rockwell paintings or Picasso portraits? If they're the latter, you may find these tips helpful.
Why are looming holidays a time of such stress? This is an issue that's hard to assess. It could be the flu that's making us stew, but are there some other good grounds for distress?