The general consensus among many people is that revealing their true personality can make them seem unlikable or incompetent. However, if you just try to be a robot, then you are guaranteed to achieve very little. As such, it makes more sense to take the risk of exposing your personality instead of hiding behind a mask.
Have you ever noticed that history has a way of repeating itself, especially if you haven't paid attention and learned the lesson the first time around? I say this because I have just realized that I am facing the same situation I first dealt with when I was 14. A couple of months ago we moved full time to our farm, just an hour from where we used to live. Now, I can see that I need to focus my energies on making new friends.
When it comes to influencing people, offer good food and you'll be surprised just how persuasive you can be. When my 11-year-old is feeling a little insecure about his best friend status, he quickly offers up a playdate complete with road hockey and cookies, which he is certain will set him back on track.