Rather than seeing nothing after I post a particularly bleak tweet or a caption speaking about mental illness, my notifications explode with questions and comments, all curious and positive about this awful invisible assailant. Total strangers will send their love and prayers out to me. Others will thank me for being brave and outspoken.
Computers afford us a lot, and social media has its pluses and minuses, but what the Internet can't truly replicate is the spirit when all our senses are engaged and we are participating in life outside the screen. That's what's missing. That's why there's less time for living. Here's how to use social media and create a balance so that you enjoy the moments of living more fully.
Rihanna recently had her Instagram account deleted after posting one of the topless photos from her very racy, very stylish spread in Lui magazine earlier this month. Even though Instagram maintained it was an accident (who in their right mind would piss RiRi off on purpose?) and reinstated the account, it had still been wiped squeaky clean.
If you told me four years ago that images taken with my smartphone would be featured in art publications, in exhibitions and appreciated by a loyal following across the globe, I'd say that's crazy. Then along came a digital photo platform (Instagram) that said instant expression was OK and that you could learn as you go. Instantly, when you sign you up, you're an artist.
James Franco recently came under fire for allegedly flirting with a 17-year-old Scottish girl, via Instagram. "I'm embarrassed, and I guess I'm just a model of how social media is tricky," explained Franco."It's a way people meet each other today, but what I've learned...you don't know who's on the other end." Except that in this case, Franco knew exactly who was on the other end. The girl readily admits to being only 17.
Cool means surviving a work day on only two hours of sleep and still being able to laugh and stay upright. Cool means buying jeans one size up and NOT crying about it - but still keeping the old ones because you know, you may one day find time to exercise after the kids turn 16. Cool means being able to pick your own definition of the word and not letting others decide what it means.
Do you really want to know why a barista not remembering their name offends people? Because people think they are special. Everyone thinks that his or her drink order is special and that his or her name is special. Everyone is too busy being offended about how they are special to realize that to an hourly employee trying to get by, you're just another non-fat, extra hot, no foam double latte.
I've taken the occasional selfie myself, but I did raise an eyebrow when Oxford Dictionaries chose "selfie" as their word of the year for 2013. This made us here at Virgin Mobile want to dig a little deeper to find out more about the self portrait. To celebrate the "year of the selfie", we conducted a study to discover Canadian selfie habits.
I stopped journalling because I got online. I don't think that's a bad thing, but I am realizing that reconnecting, thinking how to package myself and my experiences in a palatable way, and "making memories" is getting in the way of actually living them. That is the one thing that today's technology has taught me. I may be able to get information and companionship instantly, but it doesn't mean that I should.
If your kids see you jostling to get the best shot of the most mundane moments of life, just so that you can post a picture of it on your Instagram account, they'll follow suit. If you post inappropriate images or comments on social media, the will be seen by your children, guaranteed. Limit and moderate your own social media activity.
For music programs to stay and to continue being relevant, they need to be modernized. In a perfect world, students would have access to computers with recording capabilities and music editing software so they could learn to edit, produce and mix. We need to understand how music and careers in the arts have changed and find ways to teach classes that reflect this ever-shifting landscape.
Selfies, to me, are narcissistic. There's no denying that. But they also show the world who I feel like I really am inside. I am a great selfie taker; I get all my best angles because I know to look for them. The photos I produce are ones I'm proud of. For me, selfies document my journey with my own self-acceptance.