Life Advice

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Is Your Relationship Healthy Or Unhealthy?

Just less than ten years ago if someone you knew was in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, they didn't discuss it, and neither did you. Most people went by the notion of once you were married, you were married for better or for worse. Therefore most people who were in unhealthy relationships stayed in these relationships, and if the relationship did somehow end in most cases it was due to the death of one of the people in the relationship.
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The Most Important Woman in My Life

Marie Hopps was the first person I ever met who thought I was lovely, just because I existed. Every few days, I would stumble into Marie's apartment from one of my escapades, looking like a tomcat with a missing eye or a torn ear. She would patiently make a pot of tea and offer me chocolate digestive cookies, seemingly unfazed by the sight of my bloodshot eyes. I miss her.
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40 Things I've Learned at 40

Number 32: My father busted his butt for decades, raised a family, paid mortgages, did yard work, fixed things, taught us math, owned businesses, and spent every day being a husband/father/role model. I babble on the radio to strangers. Somehow, we're both impressed with one another.
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Is This Mistake the Reason You're Unhappy?

What if I were to tell you that the success of your journey towards reclaiming your personal power will largely hinge on stories? Life is about stories. The stories we tell each other. The stories we tell ourselves. Our stories define who we are. This isn't a process that we're necessarily aware of. This is a problem.
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The Secrets to Going Gaga Over Golf

When I was a teenager, I golfed. Once. It did not end well. Or start well for that matter. Suffice to say, my game failed to ascend to the dizzy heights of my expectations. Fast forward a century or so, to about 13 years ago when I took up golf once again, and I've discovered something amazing: how to have fun while golfing. Gather around and I'll share my secrets.
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Turning Regret Into Action

Very often, we use our "current" self to judge decisions that we made in the past. But we weren't the same person then. Instead, try to get back inside the head of the "you" who made those decisions. You'll often find that you were making a fair and balanced decision based on the facts available to you at the time and the emotional space you were in.
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What Advice Would You Give to New Graduates?

If you had to give some advice to young graduates, what would it be? I threw out this question on LinkedIn as I had been asked to be a commencement speaker at the Sheridan College convocation. The responses were fascinating, varied, and often said much about the person offering the advice. So now I pass on some of this collected wisdom to you.
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What You Need to Know Before Graduating

It's graduation season. As someone who's less a recent graduate and living more in "dude, why are you still attending events for recent graduates?" territory, I figured I'd throw my hat in the ring and address some of the concerns you probably didn't know you had.
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The Six Best Pieces of Advice I've Ever Gotten

Let's be honest, sometimes we're given good advice but we ignore it. Other times, we put too much trust in the guidance of others at the risk of ignoring our own inner voice. With that said, I thought I'd share some of the best advice I've ever received and some advice I never received, or didn't listen to, that I really wish I had! Hopefully, some of you benefit from these!

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- In Conclusion

So you went from being a slacker with unrealized potential to a mover and shaker in the world in 13 steps. Or more likely, you just read all the blog versions of the whole book (without skipping over too much, I hope) and you are wondering a bunch of questions. I will answer the questions first and then get to the ones who have gone through the 13 steps.
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The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step 13: Helping Others Helps You

Most people feel something missing in their lives. So, how do we bring meaning into our lives? How do we begin to feel truly alive? Do something crazy! Help someone else. Choose to make one small positive change in the world. When we start thinking about helping others, we raise not only their hopes but our own heart vibrations. Our hearts rise up beyond the petty slights and missteps of daily life and begin to focus on a bigger picture.
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The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Twelve: Living a Full Life

When you are mindful of your daily life, your life is one of being present. Of really living and not just killing time to go virtual. Learning to care and to matter may be one of the greatest commodities in the age of ideas because then your work, play, study and relationship times become chances to experience, feel, think and grow. Live each day like it was the only one you have. Care about people and learn from everything.

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Eleven: The Good Thing About Addictions

The young clients I work with tend to be addicted to: video gaming, magic cards, junk food and/or cannabis. Many would say that their addictions seem to provide a level of comfort -- a buffer from an unsafe world. Having an addictive nature means that you have a passionate nature. So, how do you take these passions and make them become something generative?
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The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Ten: From Crud to Cred

So here you are, taking another stab at "making it" in life. Your parents are cautiously optimistic.You are non-committal. Your dog still thinks you're amazing (but he likes Yanni). It should go well. You're older. You've had a few "challenges" under you belt and you've survived. You're not on the street or in a cult or both. Then why so nervous?
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The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Nine: Feeling Safe "Out There"

In a positive stage of your life, you're meeting with people who will accept you for following your purpose and sharing the qualities of passion and striving that you have in common. Each positive action builds upon itself. Each setback becomes merely a minor bump on the road you are travelling on and everything leads you towards your bliss. You may just find yourself unboxed and free for the very first time!

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Eight: Doing It In The Real World

You can study, you can practice, you can philosophize all you want, it means diddly until you test it out there in the "real world." Now comes the next step for a young adult searching to find their success in life: putting three toes in the water. If you get three straight failures, remember Edison took 10,000 wrong tries to find the right filament, creating the incandescent bulb.

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Seven: Being Your Best

What would you do? How would you be? How would you go about it? Who would you seek out? What if it wasn't what you thought it would be? How would you know when you'd arrived? Be careful for what you wish for. I am going to give you the keys to make whatever you want happen as long as it is for the benefit of all who are touched by your choices.
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The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Four: Generativity

We need to own what we do. The truth is that it is the things we do just for ourselves, things that we do on a daily basis, things we do when we are inspired but also when we are sick of doing them that builds character and creates something I call Generativity -- the things that one does that improve the quality of life in any way, moment by moment.
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The Slacker's Guide to Success -- Step Two: Choosing a Mentor

Historically, the act of apprenticeship began when a person reached somewhere between the ages of 10 and 15. However, that practice changed rapidly with the inclusion of child labor laws and free education for children -- both great movements but both came at the cost of the influence of experiencing a one-on-one mentor; someone to influence the success of a person in their adolescent years. The following is a guide to finding the proper mentor for an individual student.