Life After Divorce

Married People Who Start To Watch Porn Are More Likely To Get Divorced

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 08.24.2016 | Canada Living

For women this risk nearly tripled, rising from six to 16 per cent.

Inside Every Person Is A Scorecard, And Other Life Truths

Linda Simpson | Posted 08.04.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

I used to believe that people don't keep score. It turns out they do. Verbal barbs hurled at you in anger reveal that inside everyone is a scorecard. There must be a part of the brain that files those items away. A disagreement flares and some long forgotten event is thrown up in your face

I Grew Up After My Divorce

Linda Simpson | Posted 07.07.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

My sons see many positive changes in me since the divorce twenty years ago. I say I finally grew up. In many ways I was fearful fifty years ago and now I am quite fearless.

Simple Changes In Divorce Laws Could Save Canadians Thousands

Andrew Feldstein | Posted 07.06.2016 | Canada Politics
Andrew Feldstein

The way the law works needs to change. As a lawyer, I would much rather help a dozen clients for a few hours each, on an unbundled basis, than spend weeks representing one client in a drawn-out trial. I am confident many of my colleagues feel the same.

What Does Money Bring To Your Life?

Linda Simpson | Posted 06.23.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Some Boomers lost their way along the hippy highway over the last fifty years. They took a right turn into casinos and consumerism. Seared in my brain is watching a load of Boomer casino goers unload from a bus and waddle away. Poker chips in hand as they sink into the windowless abyss. Money (both having it and losing it) does things to people. Here's what it did to me.

The Borders Of Life

Linda Simpson | Posted 05.24.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Our personal lives, career, retirement, all have borders between one stage and another. They are full of a wide range of complex emotions.There is the border time between being single and being partnered. That time of excitement, anticipation leading up to the commitment.

Going Through A Divorce? You Must Read This Book

Linda Simpson | Posted 05.10.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Listening to a friend talk about their divorce, I pause and think -- this all sounds familiar. My friend details the lead up to her separation and there are so many similarities it's a bit unnerving. Same actions, same words, same behaviour. How is that possible? Turns out similarities are not even unusual but predictable, right down to the language a departing spouse might use.

The Cottage Became An Integral Part Of My Post-Divorce Family

Linda Simpson | Posted 04.29.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

It's that time of year again. Cottage opening. Prompted by that movie 32 years ago, we scraped together some cash and bought the waterfront property of our dreams. Travelling down the dusty back roads of our town we found the perfect piece of land. A huge stand of birch trees and a view straight across the lake.

Even The Youngest Kids Struggle With Divorce

Erin Silver | Posted 04.25.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

This was not the way I'd envisioned raising my kids: as part of a broken family, with so many overwhelming feelings and an inherent sadness that I can't easily fix. And I certainly had not expected my kids to struggle with our divorce for as long as they have. I hadn't known they would suffer so deeply.

Accepting Unfinished Business Is One Of The Hardest Lessons In Life

Linda Simpson | Posted 04.22.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

I need to talk to these people but I can't. Unfinished business. That's what it is when people in your life leave unexpectedly. You may feel that tug at the moment of change or feel it years later. For me, it threads in and out of my thoughts -- those questions. Some practical, some philosophical.

Happiness Is Being A Single Grandma

Linda Simpson | Posted 04.08.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Who knew that grand-parenting would be so much fun? Who knew I'd be a solo grandma? It was understood in my marriage that somewhere in the future we would be very proud grandparents together. However, like many baby boomers, our marriage didn't make it. I've been single for 20 years and since 2009 I have been a solo grandma.

The 10 Books That Saved Me After My Divorce

Linda Simpson | Posted 04.01.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Twenty years after my divorce, I can remember -- vividly -- the books that saved me during those early days of finding my way alone. Each book gave me something- the language, hope, and understanding- to help me process the trauma. Millions of people experience the pain of divorce each year.

It Has Been 20 Years Since My Divorce, And I Am Better For It

Linda Simpson | Posted 03.17.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Twenty-five years ago I would have told you I was the luckiest woman in the world. I was married to my best friend who I adored and had two wonderful sons. I had it all including the home and picket fence. As it turned out, there was no luck in my marriage. The marital secrets he revealed crippled me emotionally for years after the breakup.

13 Ways To Feel Less Stressed During A Difficult Divorce

The Huffington Post Canada | Joy D'Souza | Posted 03.16.2016 | Canada Living

You aren't alone.

10 Tips For Surviving Valentine's Day While Single

Jen Lawrence | Posted 02.08.2016 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

Being single on Valentine's Day can be rough stuff. Since this is the time of year when the world conspires to tell you that there is something wrong with you if you are not happily paired, it may be tough to keep your spirits high. If you find yourself less-than-happily single, here are ten ways you can make Valentine's Day a little better this year, from someone who knows what she's talking about.

Divorce Month: Why Marriages End In January

Nathalie Boutet | Posted 01.22.2016 | Canada Living
Nathalie Boutet

Most people, if they are unhappy in their marriage, are probably thinking about breaking up long before the holidays. But given that the holidays are a traditional family time, couples, especially those with children, loathe creating a sad memory for their children. Yet once the decorations are put away and everyone is back in their routine, many spouses are ready to start taking steps towards a separation.

What Led Me to Seeking Solace in Psychics

Katie Boland | Posted 06.30.2016 | Canada Living
Katie Boland

"What's Lily Dale?" my husband asked. "Lily Dale is a spiritualist community in upstate New York. Seriously, everyone who lives there is a psychic," I said. "People have been going forever to talk to the dead. I really want to go."

I Found My Prince Charming While Dating After 50

BrazenWoman | Posted 06.04.2016 | Canada Living
BrazenWoman

My self-esteem post-divorce sucked from being told I was old and that I would never find anyone who would want me. And let's face it, when someone throws you away after 20 years, you tend to think there's some reason why. Then I decided, "Screw him. I'm doing this."

My Divorce Made Me Realize Our Home Was Never Mine

Allyson Eamer | Posted 05.06.2016 | Canada Living
Allyson Eamer

When relationships end, it is a sad fact that people take sides, assets are split, and someone, if not both parties, must relocate. The "Geographies of Divorce" is the shifting of boundaries, the renegotiation of territory, the displacement, isolation and the staggering trauma of homelessness that accompanies divorce.

How to Manage Divorce, Distress and Debt

Jeffrey Schwartz | Posted 06.22.2015 | Canada Business
Jeffrey Schwartz

Kevin's wife wanted a divorce. Suddenly, his household income was split in half and the cost of moving to a new place with his kids meant his expenses doubled.

This 60 Year Old Gave Up His Marriage, But Gained So Much More

The Huffington Post Canada | Joy D'Souza | Posted 04.09.2015 | Canada Living

Jeffrey Alford started writing about food in 1988, and though things have drastically changed in his life since then, his passion for cooking and cult...

I'm a Child of Divorce -- And Happy About it

Brittany Goldfield Rodrigues | Posted 05.27.2015 | Canada Living
Brittany Goldfield Rodrigues

When my parents were together, my dad would come home, kiss my sister and me, and go to work upstairs. I used to wait all week for Sunday -- the one day we spent together as a family. But after the divorce, I could look forward to spending every moment of every second weekend with him.

15 Tips for Managing a Divorce Over Christmas

Alyson Jones | Posted 02.10.2015 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

Children may worry they are being disloyal if they start to have too much fun with one parent. They also worry about the parent that they are not with, wondering if that parent is okay. Sometimes they just deeply miss the parent they are not with. The familiar traditions may be gone and this can leave the children feeling as though something or someone is missing.

What Most People Don't Know About 'Deadbeat Parents' and Child Support

Andrew Feldstein | Posted 12.02.2014 | Canada Living
Andrew Feldstein

A CBC investigation yesterday uncovered that 'deadbeat parents' in Canada collectively owe more than $3.7B in support. As a divorce lawyer for 20 years, it struck me that there is a lack of knowledge of how court-ordered support payments work. Here are three things to think about and two actions that you can take which should help Canadians understand spousal and child support a bit better, help you understand why the divorce support payments situation is such a mess, and help explain why it is not even worse.

Go Ahead, Have a Breakdown. Repeat If Necessary

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 03.25.2014 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

A word to the wise: one cannot scale the side of a mountain while sobbing uncontrollably. You need your breath for the exertion. You can climb or you can cry. Not both. I soon realized I didn't need to compose myself and carry on. What I needed to do was to stop and let myself have a big fat embarrassing breakdown.