Losing a Spouse

Moving On After a Loved One's Death is Inevitable

Joan Sutton | Posted 07.27.2014 | Canada Living
Joan Sutton

The grief is still there. But suddenly, from somewhere, almost eighteen months later, I do now occasionally experience the unadulterated joy that I never thought I would again. To my surprise,  I am no longer numb. The flowers in the park, a small child patting my dog, the flight of a bird, planning a visit with my grandson with his friends -- these things bring a lift to my heart.

I Mourn My Husband's Absence, Not His Death

Joan Sutton | Posted 09.11.2013 | Canada Living
Joan Sutton

Six months: It was exactly six months ago that my beloved husband died. There was a breath, and then, none. Life left the room, leaving behind love, loneliness, bittersweet memories, and a range of emotions. I do not mourn his death, but I do mourn his absence and I have learned that absence can be a presence.

After My Husband's Death I Don't Want Closure

Joan Sutton | Posted 03.31.2013 | Canada Living
Joan Sutton

I am grateful that my husband lived a long and productive life. So, please do not tell me how to grieve. Spare me the euphemisms. My husband did not "pass." He died. I have not "lost" him: I know exactly where his body is, and his spirit is with me. And. Do. Not. Speak. To. Me. Of. Closure. What a hideous word. Bring me acceptance but, never, closure.