Love and Relationships

Could Twitter Ruin Our Relationships?

Sue Nador | Posted 04.13.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Who would have thought something as innocuous as Twitter could be the very thing that brings our generation of lovers down? It's time to stand up to the dark forces of social media and leverage them to our relationship advantage.

Let's (Really) Talk About Sex

Carlen Costa | Posted 02.23.2014 | Canada Living
Carlen Costa

You've just woken up from a deep sleep and then remember that you've been romping all night with the Sandman who may also happen to be your Ex. That's when the WTF moment kicks in. Sex dreams happen to everyone. Sometimes they are as pleasurable as riding white horses in the meadow with George Clooney or getting naughty with Mila Kunis' legs wrapped around your waist.

Why I'm Giving My Husband a Report Card for Valentine's Day

Sue Nador | Posted 04.14.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

My favourite part of Valentine's Day is shopping for a card. Yet despite the dozens of delightful options, it occurs to me there is room for one more card on the rack: a Valentine's Day report card. Here are a few best practices to get the most out of your annual relationship review.

Relationship Trouble? Try 'Radical Honesty' and These Other Tools

Kaitlyn Kochany | Posted 04.09.2014 | Canada Living
Kaitlyn Kochany

Being a good partner sometimes means renegotiating communication strategies so that the question "What's wrong?" isn't perpetually sloughed off. It sometimes means breathing through a bad few months and saying, "I accept this, I can do this, I don't have to fight it," even as you keep fighting for the relationship itself.

"To Have and to Hold" -- That's What's Important

Noemi LoPinto | Posted 04.02.2014 | Canada Living
Noemi LoPinto

I was married two years ago. No one asked me to have or to hold my groom as per the traditional Anglican wedding vows at our wedding. I am half-Jewish and an atheist but growing up in Canada "to have and to hold" were the only marriage vows I heard. I think the author was talking about protecting a safe space no matter how heavy the abyss.

Go Ahead, Have a Breakdown. Repeat If Necessary

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 03.25.2014 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

A word to the wise: one cannot scale the side of a mountain while sobbing uncontrollably. You need your breath for the exertion. You can climb or you can cry. Not both. I soon realized I didn't need to compose myself and carry on. What I needed to do was to stop and let myself have a big fat embarrassing breakdown.

How I Started My Dream Business in One Week

Alana Hurov | Posted 03.23.2014 | Canada Business
Alana Hurov

I have often thought it would be cool to own a yoga studio and as I type this blog, I am actually sitting in my very own studio gulping down a protein shake. How did it happen? Well that's a good question because it happened in one just one week, (well sort of...).

When's the Right Time to "Put Down" Your Relationship?

Sue Nador | Posted 03.15.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Fourteen months. Fourteen months is the time I have in my head for how long I would try to save my marriage if things started to go south (hopefully it will never come to that). But once we limp past the one year mark, I think I would rationally assess whether something has shifted so irrevocably in our relationship that it was time to take it off life support.

Patti Stanger, The Millionaire Matchmaker, Shares Tips For How To Find Love After 40

Sacha DeVoretz | Posted 03.05.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Sacha DeVoretz

The motivator for me to try online dating in the first place was Patti Stanger. Stanger is an American matchmaker and television personality, known for starring in the reality series The Millionaire Matchmaker. Stanger shared with me the top tips for women over 40 looking for love.

How to Recover From 'Relationship Trauma'

Susan Valentine | Posted 02.16.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

You need to see that your partner has suffered too, not from your anger, but from the weight of his or her own actions. If you believe your partner deeply regrets his actions, knows he was wrong, and even feels he violated his own personal standards, you will feel more trusting and open to forgiveness.

My Tinder Bender Date #14: The Atheist

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

His tagline is facking hilarious: Toronto's most illegible bachelor. Good one, dude. It looks like he's at the top of Runyon Canyon in his profile pi...

My Tinder Bender Date #13 -- The Unemployed Guy

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

I've been pretty spoiled since I've been on Tinder. It's time for me to buy some drinks for a dude. This is the "Christina Gives Back" Tinder date. Plus, I just got a Trillium cheque in the mail. That should cover the tab. I message him first. Hey dude. How's Tindering going?

My Tinder Bender Date #12 -- The Cat Man

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 12.27.2013 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

He walks in, smiling. I like people that smile. I smile A LOT. Within minutes of the date, he shows me pictures of his cat. Don't be foiled by an eyebrow ring, ladies. Sometimes the edgy looking ones are big softies. He LOVES cats! He shows me many pictures of his kitty, including painted portraits.

My Tinder Bender Date # 11: The Girl Who Cried Creepy

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

He says "You don't believe I'm a nice guy? Here. Look at this." And that's the moment I knew...I have to get the FACK out of here! He's showing us pictures of him getting beat up by the cops! I don't know why he would show us these to prove how "nice" he is.

My Tinder Bender Date #10: The Out of Towner

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

I tell him he looks way younger than 43. "You don't look 34 either," he says. "Yay! We're just two people, defying age! We must look young, because we avoid things like marriage and babies!" He coughs a little. "Actually, I've had both."

If You Think All Women Are "Crazy," Take a Look at Yourself

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

I recently saw a man in my office who asked me why all the women he dated turned out to be "crazy." If all the women you date eventually go off the deep end, perhaps it's time to tune-up your relationship skills. To some extent, I had to agree -- there are some lipsticked loonies out there. Then again, the male gender has its share of jerks and mama's boys. Perhaps it's time to stop pointing fingers at the opposite sex and start engaging in a little self-reflection, especially if you're re-living the same dysfunctional relationship over and over again.

My Tinder Bender Date #9: Come to Mommy

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

I can't believe I did it. I hit the heart button on a guy with KIDS in his profile picture. Not one, but TWO kids! How mature do I think I am? Still...(deep breath) he is attractive. And I am 34. I have to face the fact that guys in my age bracket might have offspring, whether it was on purpose, or they forgot to pull out.

My Tinder Bender Date #8: I Think I Bombed

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

As I approach the address of the restaurant, I see a sandy blonde hair dude standing out front of a nonexistent restaurant. There's just a big fence and a "Coming Soon" sign. Oops. Nice choice, Christina. Pick a bar that doesn't open for another two months, why don't you?

My Tinder Bender Date #7: I Probably Shouldn't Have, But...

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

Now I know I should immediately block this guy. Still... I'm oddly intrigued. My show ends around 10:30 p.m. I check my phone, and there's a message from him. You're my little nasty girl. I take a deep breath, and pray he's just kidding.

My Tinder Bender Date #6: As Exciting as Mild Wings

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 11.30.2013 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

A couple beers in, we're both yawning. The conversation starts to dry up. We're now talking the ceiling fixtures. Talking about lamps hanging from the ceiling is a sign we're both starting to space out. I'm also getting tweets from my comedian guy friends, who know I'm on a date. All of a sudden, I wish I was with them.

Welcome to My Tinder Bender - Day Five, Date Five

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 11.25.2013 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

According to his three profile pics, (two of which I like -- the third is "meh,") he may or may not look like Tom Cruise in Top Gun. I walk into Bar Volo. It's a good spot for this hood. I'm definitely glad he didn't suggest the Duke of Gloucester. That place owes me a shitload in failed jukebox plays. I walk up to the bar, grab a beer and check-in on Foursquare.

My Tinder Bender Date #4: A Tinderella Story

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 11.23.2013 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

I head to my date. I warn him I look like a dirtbag. Pink Jack Daniel's shirt, jeans and Toms. I'm wearing a padded bra, so boobs are not to scale. I notice he's getting texts from a phone number that doesn't have a contact name. They seem to be coming in quite rapidly. I call it out: "Haha! You're getting messages from another Tinder, aren't you?" He denies it. I'm not buying it.

What to Do With Your Child's Broken Heart

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 11.22.2013 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

Perhaps all a parent can do, in these moments, is let their child be sad; at least for the first little while. Let them have the experience, because it's something we all have to live through at least once in our lives.

My Tinder Bender: Date #2 - Pushing Cougarism

Christina Walkinshaw | Posted 11.18.2013 | Canada Living
Christina Walkinshaw

"We're the same age, aren't we? You're 27?" He says. UH-OH! "Um... no, actually...I think I'm a little older," I spit out, along with a laugh that sounds like I might be choking. "Really? How old are you?" all of a sudden, I'm feeling a little cougary. So I suggest a place that's good to take a younger man.

20 Things You Should Tell Your Wife

2life | Neil Morton | Posted 08.22.2013 | Canada Living

Sometimes it's hard to know exactly what to say. We're often told what not to say — anything about your partner's weight, their habits or th...