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There is a wonderfully simple saying for how that can happen: "Bring the body, the mind will follow." So what if, this Valentine's Day, you did something absolutely fabulous for yourself, whether you have a significant other to share the meaning of the day with or not?
Many times we come into a relationship expecting others to create our happiness, and many times we end up being disappointed. Why? Because it's not someone else's job to make us happy. Happiness begins within. If you want and desire love, you have to begin by first emitting love, and that journey begins within.
The importance of self-love is something that has never been lost on me, but it was something that, until recently, I could only really pinpoint in others. Without self-love, I found myself in relationships, friendships, and other situations which were not healthy. But self-love has nothing to do with anyone except you.
I fell deeply in love, but I wasn't enough the way I was. He's right, I thought. I'm too childish. I should grow up. So I put my comic books away. I stopped talking about music and art. I tempered my excitement about creativity. Sometimes, though, I'd feel this terrible ache.
As I write this, I am approaching the one year anniversary of my most intimate relationship ever. I have spent the better part of the last year developing and nurturing every aspect of this bond, as it is, and will always be the most important relationship I will ever have. And the object of my affection this time, is me.
Lately I've been thinking about what it means to really love yourself. I've come to the conclusion that it ultimately means you are your very own best friend. You enjoy spending time with yourself, you appreciate the very characteristic attributes about yourself and you trust your own decisions.