This is the story of a girl who decided that dirty mugs in her sink and leftover kernels of popcorn in the recesses of her couch, with the ones she loves by her side, are all a story she ever needed to be complete. It's the story of the boy who loves her. And the story of the girl who made a decision: She would love him too.
Over the past decade or so, I've found there are a few common pitfalls that women who want to get married inadvertently fall into, and which decrease their chances of getting married while they're still young enough to walk down the aisle without stopping for breath. One of these pitfalls is living together before marriage.
For most people, the decision to leave a marriage is made over time. Although there is no one formula that will lead to an answer, there are some questions you can ask yourself to help you move from indecision to decision. We suggest these as a starting point to help you make the difficult decision to stay or go.
Since the oil boom of the 1970's, many Alberta wives have called themselves "oil patch widows" due to work rotations that require their husbands to be away for weeks or months at a stretch. It is understandable how this physical separation can lead to an emotional disconnection between two people who are often leading separate lives.
I was recently dismayed by a piece of advice given from one businesswoman to another. an entrepreneur sought advice on how to get mental and emotional support from her husband as she worked to grow her new business. In short, she was told the solution was to verbally appreciate her husband more, to "tell him he's your hero", and to orally appreciate her husband more... if you know what I mean. The advice is delivered in cute and quirky way, but it's impossible to miss the message. We're supposed to patronize our men, tell them they're our heroes, and then follow up with sexual favours? Ouch.
Last weekend a group of ladies went to Prince Edward County to celebrate one of our dear friend's upcoming wedding. On Sunday morning we schlepped into Picton to caffeinate and were greeted outside the small town café by an impeccably dressed 91-year-old lady with mischievous eyes and one helluva smile. The real climax came in the form of marriage advice to the soon-to-be bride...
In many cases, couples' counselling can be the final nail in the marital coffin. Why? Because counselling is a practice that focuses on the self. This "all about me," approach is the precise opposite of what struggling spouses need to save a marriage in crisis. It's naïve to think that an individual's personal experience with marriage doesn't factor into the relationship advice they dispense.
It's a devastating thing for a woman to admit -- that her husband seems to have lost his desire for her. Women often jump to the conclusion that unsatisfying sex is the reason for the chilly temperatures. Yet as often as not, men withdraw from their wives for non-sexual reasons. Check out these eight Do's and Don'ts to see whether any of them might help reignite his spark for you.
Don't make any stupid mistakes when your marriage is in a slump. Don't drown your sorrows in a bottle of Jack or jump into bed with the first Facebook friend to give you a poke. For better or for worse, remember? Most marital bad moods will pass quickly enough, but serious mistakes in judgement will hang around a lot longer.