Marriage Advice

8 Ways to Bring a Zombie Marriage Back to Life

Debra Macleod | Posted 03.24.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If you're in a zombie marriage, you know the signs: apathy, routine, familiarity, empty interactions, irritability, indifference and sexlessness. You don't actively dislike each other -- you've just kind of stopped showing up. If this sounds familiar to you, don't run away (or aim for the head) just yet. Instead, try these eight tips to see whether they can bring your zombie relationship back to life.

Stop Talking Your Relationship To Death!

Debra Macleod | Posted 03.11.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Of course, relationship problems do have to be discussed. But trust me -- if you improve your interactions before you talk about them, you'll spend a lot less time digging up and re-burying cats that should have been laid to rest a long time ago.

Marriage Before Baby Carriage Means You're Less Likely to Split

The Huffington Post Canada | Joy D'Souza | Posted 03.10.2015 | Canada Living

No surprise here — the Marriage Foundation of the U.K. wants you to get married before you have babies. The foundation, which was created by form...

Spouse Poaching: Why Married People Are Sexy Targets

Debra Macleod | Posted 02.24.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Affairs are messy things and it is unlikely that the illusion of this relationship will lead to any kind of happy reality for you. Even if you do defy the odds and this person leaves his or her spouse for you, all you've accomplished is "winning" someone else's cheating husband or cheating wife.

How to Fill in the Blanks on Valentine's Day

Sue Nador | Posted 02.11.2015 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

This Valentine's Day, why not leave the pre-fab cards on the rack and buy a blank one instead? You can customize your own declaration of love on an open canvas. The possibilities are endless, and it will take only marginally more effort to compose your own Valentine than to buy one ready-made. Here are some tips for your do-it-yourself Valentine.

Why Opposite-Sex Friendships Will Destroy Your Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 02.09.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Before you know it, the spouse and his or her extra-marital friend are comforting each other, turning to each other for advice, sharing details of their intimate life and relationships, and texting each other with increasing frequency and intimacy. As the excitement of their forbidden friendship grows, the dynamics in the marriage deteriorate. After all, three's a crowd.

8 Lies That Parents on the Brink of Divorce Might Tell Themselves

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.31.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

As a former divorce mediator and current couples and family mediator, I have heard every excuse that parents use to feel better about breaking up their family. Here are eight of the most common lies that, if you're considering divorce, you might be telling yourself.

8 Reasons Your Husband is Falling Out of Love With You

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.13.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

I can't tell you how many unhappy husbands I've seen in my office over the past decade or so. They present with all kinds of issues, from infidelity to in-law troubles and everything in between. Below are eight of the most common complaints that unhappy husbands make about their wives. Read them. Believe them. Stop them.

Why You Shouldn't Stop Bringing Your A-Game To Your Relationship

Sue Nador | Posted 11.25.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

How does passion turn into pal-ship? Perhaps the very nature of sharing space with someone can breed too much familiarity. It's easy to get comfortable, even sloppy, when we live with each other day in and day out. What message does it send when I leave our house looking polished and revert immediately to comfy cellmate attire when I come home?

Key To Happy Marriage? Yes, It's Still Your Wife

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 09.16.2014 | Canada Living

A husband's happiness is significantly related to how his wife feels about the union, according to researchers at Rutgers University and the Universit...

Feigned Love: The Art of Settling

Dain Wallis | Posted 11.07.2014 | Canada Living
Dain Wallis

Worried that you're settling? Not sure if you're in love or just going through the motions? Speaking from experience, here is your guide to the Art of Settling.

The Formula For A Happy Marriage? Fewer Options (And A Big Wedding)

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 08.20.2014 | Canada Living

A big wedding celebration preceded by few romantic relationships for both the bride and the groom could be a positive sign that they will be happy tog...

The Most Awkward (And Most Important) Talk To Have With Your Partner

The Huffington Post Canada | Posted 07.23.2014 | Canada Living

For people entering a marriage all dewy-eyed and confident, relationship counsellors have some news for you: one of you is likely to cheat on the othe...

Be Honest: Do You Throw Texter Tantrums?

Debra Macleod | Posted 08.06.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

The adult temper tantrum is alive and well. Although it takes many unpleasant forms, one of the most common is what I call a "texter tantrum." Not a week goes by that I don't have a client hold up a cell phone and say, "Look at what my partner has been saying to me!"

Five Ways to a Happy Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Happy kids and a happy home hinges on one thing: a happy marriage between Mom and Dad. The quality of a couple's marriage sets the tone for family life. Below are five general qualities to strive for (or avoid, as the case may be). They aren't exhaustive, but they are a good start.

How to Keep Your Relationship Infidelity-Free

Trina Read | Posted 06.24.2014 | Canada Living
Trina Read

The reality is there are too many unsatisfying and empty relationships. Consequently in today's instant gratification society, at least half of men and women are looking for a quick fix of what they need outside of their relationship. If cheating is easy and there is a high payoff, why wouldn't they?

Saving Your Marriage With A Twix

CP | Seth Borenstein, The Associated Press | Posted 06.14.2014 | Canada Living

WASHINGTON - A quick candy bar may stave off more than hunger. It could prevent major fights between husbands and wives, at least if a new study that ...

Marriage Really Does Do The Heart Good

CP | Marilynn Marchione, The Associated Press | Posted 05.28.2014 | Canada Living

Love can sometimes break a heart but marriage seems to do it a lot of good. A study of more than 3.5 million Americans finds that married people are l...

This Is a Love Story

Lori Gard | Posted 04.17.2014 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

This is the story of a girl who decided that dirty mugs in her sink and leftover kernels of popcorn in the recesses of her couch, with the ones she loves by her side, are all a story she ever needed to be complete. It's the story of the boy who loves her. And the story of the girl who made a decision: She would love him too.

Don't Live With Your Boyfriend if You Want to Get Married

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.01.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Over the past decade or so, I've found there are a few common pitfalls that women who want to get married inadvertently fall into, and which decrease their chances of getting married while they're still young enough to walk down the aisle without stopping for breath. One of these pitfalls is living together before marriage.

How to Decide If You Need a Divorce

Eva Sachs and Marion Korn | Posted 03.18.2014 | Canada Living
Eva Sachs and Marion Korn

For most people, the decision to leave a marriage is made over time. Although there is no one formula that will lead to an answer, there are some questions you can ask yourself to help you move from indecision to decision. We suggest these as a starting point to help you make the difficult decision to stay or go.

Can "Oil Patch Marriages" Ever Work?

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Alberta
Debra Macleod

Since the oil boom of the 1970's, many Alberta wives have called themselves "oil patch widows" due to work rotations that require their husbands to be away for weeks or months at a stretch. It is understandable how this physical separation can lead to an emotional disconnection between two people who are often leading separate lives.

20 Things You Should Tell Your Husband

2life | Posted 08.28.2013 | Canada Living

Just as men can use a little help when it comes to making their wives feel loved and appreciated — see our 20 Things A Guy Should Always Say To ...

20 Things You Should Tell Your Wife

2life | Neil Morton | Posted 08.22.2013 | Canada Living

Sometimes it's hard to know exactly what to say. We're often told what not to say — anything about your partner's weight, their habits or th...

Why We Still Tell Women to Sell Themselves

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 09.25.2013 | Canada Business
Sarah Vermunt

I was recently dismayed by a piece of advice given from one businesswoman to another. an entrepreneur sought advice on how to get mental and emotional support from her husband as she worked to grow her new business. In short, she was told the solution was to verbally appreciate her husband more, to "tell him he's your hero", and to orally appreciate her husband more... if you know what I mean. The advice is delivered in cute and quirky way, but it's impossible to miss the message. We're supposed to patronize our men, tell them they're our heroes, and then follow up with sexual favours? Ouch.