Marriage Advice

Counselling Can Ruin What's Left Of Your Struggling Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 11.04.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Many people feel that marriage counselling is ineffective, yet it remains the prevailing approach to relationship troubles, even in the majority of situations where psychological problems are not present. It's time to think outside the box.

You Can Save Your Marriage In 60 Seconds

Debra Macleod | Posted 10.04.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Got a minute? Good. Let's see how you can start to improve the dynamics in your marriage right now. It's like this: There are sixty seconds in your day that are absolutely pivotal in terms of how you and your spouse will relate to each other for the entire day and night. Ready?

9 Ways Moms Inadvertently Push Dads Out

The Huffington Post Canada | Alyson Schafer | Posted 10.03.2016 | Canada Parents

Only 39 per cent of dads feel they are doing a “very good job” of raising their children.

Should You Contact The Person Your Spouse Is Cheating With?

Debra Macleod | Posted 09.14.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If you don't know who the other woman or man is, you may be painfully curious --iIs the other person more attractive than me? What did my partner see in him or her? You may think that confronting them will make them back off or that they might tell you certain details of the affair that your spouse will not reveal. But it's never that simple.

5 Ways To Slay That Massive Mountain Of Wedding Debt

Jeffrey Schwartz | Posted 08.18.2016 | Canada Living
Jeffrey Schwartz

Wedding debt is an awful gift to receive after you say I do. It is also a stressful way to start your marriage especially when the number one reason for a marriage to fall apart is not because of infidelity -- it is because of money woes.

How Do You Keep Your Marriage Strong After Having Kids?

Tracy Gillett | Posted 08.02.2016 | Canada Parents
Tracy Gillett

The euphoria of falling in love with our new babies is intoxicating. For me it was such a dominant force, that for a while it overshadowed everything else in my life, including my marriage. I took our marriage for granted, assuming it was strong enough to withstand any challenge. And it is incredibly resilient, but when a baby comes along we're tested like never before. Small cracks in a relationship may grow into colossal chasms and threaten the foundation of our precious family units.

Talking Money Before You Say 'I Do' Can Save Your Marriage

Jeffrey Schwartz | Posted 07.28.2016 | Canada Business
Jeffrey Schwartz

I understand talking about your finances may be a difficult topic for some, but if you think about the bigger picture -- you are building the early foundation of a strong marriage. You may even be saving your marriage from divorce.

Being An "Alpha Mom" Is Killing Your Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Debra Macleod

When does a wife become an Alpha Parent? When they become the person who hovers over her husband when he changes the baby's diaper or prepares a meal, just waiting for him to do something wrong -- or rather, something different than she does -- so that she can correct him, criticize him or just take over with an exasperated, "Oh, I'll do it."

When Your Unfaithful Spouse Refuses To End An Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.20.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Too often, an unfaithful spouse whose affair has been discovered will continue to see and/or contact their affair partner. Sometimes this is done in secret. They may assure their spouse that they've ended the affair; however, their lack of transparency and untrustworthy behaviour indicates otherwise.

Why "We're Just Friends" Is Often A Lie

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.07.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

The truth is, many opposite-sex friendships are sustained because of a simmering attraction between two people. If circumstances were different, they could easily be sexual partners. And they know it. This underlying current of attraction makes talking, texting and spending time together as "just friends" all the more exciting. It has an erotic edge to it.

Toxic Mothers Don't Deserve Your Time On Mother's Day

Lenora Thompson | Posted 05.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Lenora Thompson

Who doesn't want to be close to their mother, especially on Mother's Day? But for thousands it's just not possible. Being with Mom hurts too much. Her "love" is toxic. It causes too much emotional pain. No time is this more controversial and guilt-inducing than on Mother's Day.

When Parenting Took Over Our Marriage

Vedavati M. | Posted 04.26.2016 | Canada Parents
Vedavati M.

We were co-parents living under the same roof. The hand-holding, affectionate, gregarious couple was a distant memory. Conversations were few and far between. When we talked, it was only about the baby. By the time she was a year old, we had stopped talking to each other directly.

12 Signs Your Marriage Is Headed For Divorce

The Huffington Post Canada | Joy D'Souza | Posted 10.28.2016 | Canada Living

But with some work you can save your relationship too!

This Major Predictor Of Infidelity Is Also A Love Enhancer

Greg Kushnick, Psy.D. | Posted 04.20.2016 | Canada Living
Greg Kushnick, Psy.D.

In my experience as a psychologist working with couples, unless a relationship has truly run its course, most people who cheat end up regretting their choice and hurting more people than they could ever anticipate. Wouldn't it be helpful to conduct a simple self-assessment to gauge the strength of your connection?

Rocky Marriages Can Be Saved With These Simple Tips

The Huffington Post Canada | Arti Patel | Posted 04.12.2016 | Canada Living

Sex definitely plays a role.

How Parents Can Maintain Strong Bond After Baby Arrives

The Huffington Post Canada | Isabelle Khoo | Posted 05.12.2016 | Canada Parents

Parenting expert Alyson Schafer offers tips on how to appreciate our partners when raising a child.

After 80 Years, This Nova Scotia Couple Is Still 'Sticking Together'

CP | The Canadian Press | Posted 02.29.2016 | Canada Living

The couple got married in 1935.

Married After One Date

Lenora Thompson | Posted 02.10.2016 | Canada
Lenora Thompson

That's right! My husband and I had just one date before our wedding. Wise men say Only fools rush in But I can't help falling in love with you I'd n...

My Parents Killed My Self-Esteem - Now I'm Done Taking Criticism

Lenora Thompson | Posted 11.21.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

I was 14 and shocked by all the criticisms suddenly blind-siding me. They ranged from making me believe I was an (almost) slut to something as vague as, "Shake my hand and commit to 'trying harder.'" To this day I wonder how much harder I could try. I already had a 4.0 GPA.

8 Relationship Resolutions Every Couple Should Make

Debra Macleod | Posted 11.21.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Ah, we all love a fresh start, don't we? But between charging up that new Fitbit and vowing to stay on budget, be sure to make a few promises to your sweetheart. Here are eight relationship resolutions every couple should make.

Authenticity Takes The Loneliness Out Of A Struggling Relationship

Marcia Sirota | Posted 12.23.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

Intimacy requires authenticity, because if you're not real, the other person can't see you for who you are. If you're never authentic, other people will be interacting with a persona, and you won't be loved for your true self. Even if you're in a relationship, you'll be terribly lonely.

These Are The Signs Your Spouse Is Having A Texting Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 11.24.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

You look the other way and pretend not to notice or be bothered. You force yourself to not ask who your spouse is texting and not show how worried or hurt you are. You lay awake and stare at your partner's phone, wishing you could look through it but not wanting to cross that line. Finally, you crack.

You Don't Know Who You're Marrying, and That's OK

Avrum Nadigel | Posted 09.24.2016 | Canada Living
Avrum Nadigel

A conversation with my five-year-old son left me rather perplexed recently. It went something like this: Son: Daddy, when I grow up I'm going to get...

What To Do If You've Been Caught On Ashley Madison

The Huffington Post Canada | Joy D'Souza | Posted 08.21.2015 | Canada Living

Tuesday's data dump of supposed Ashley Madison users likely has some couples questioning their relationships and others wondering if they know someone...

Life Is Short, Turn Your Spouse On

Debra Macleod | Posted 08.19.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

The recent Ashley Madison hack hasn't just exposed user data - it's also brought to light our various attitudes toward marriage and monogamy in today's high-tech, high-strung society. There are many reasons people stray and technology enables infidelity in a way that is faster and easier -- although certainly not more secretive -- than ever before. Yet in the end, it is always a question of choice. "Will I break the promise I made to my spouse?" In the wake of the Ashley Madison hack, we're seeing a lot of "You got what you deserved!" opinions.