Canada Marriage

Instead of Making a Spreadsheet About Sex, Try Writing a Love Note

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.25.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

I stumbled upon a story about a husband who, apparently upset with the lack of sex in his marriage, made a spreadsheet that documented how often his wife had sex with him. I've had many clients over the years show me similar lists. Lists like this are made -- and shared on social media -- out of an emotional mixture of frustration, resentment, self- righteousness, a lack of self-restraint and a profound level of immaturity.

Do You Know the Achilles Heel of Your Relationship?

Sue Nador | Posted 06.30.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

I knew immediately what John was talking about. I am prone to self-absorption, lost in my own thoughts. I pretend to listen, but John is no fool -- it's obvious to him that the imaginary conversations inside my head are too often more important than the real conversations between us. No wonder he sometimes feels that he is not that important.

Why Get Married? To (Literally) Save Your Heart

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 06.27.2014 | Canada Living

In a cross-sectional study of affairs of the heart -- in both biological and sentimental terms -- researchers at the University of Pittsburgh have lin...

Reporter Covers Her Own Marriage Proposal

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 06.09.2014 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

In early May, another sign appeared outside the Tribune's office. This one had a black question mark on it, but there was still no solution to the pink-heart riddle that had captivated the attention of the community. The plot thickened.

Moving On After a Loved One's Death is Inevitable

Joan Sutton | Posted 07.27.2014 | Canada Living
Joan Sutton

The grief is still there. But suddenly, from somewhere, almost eighteen months later, I do now occasionally experience the unadulterated joy that I never thought I would again. To my surprise,  I am no longer numb. The flowers in the park, a small child patting my dog, the flight of a bird, planning a visit with my grandson with his friends -- these things bring a lift to my heart.

Is it Better For Your Taxes to Be Married or Common Law?

Andrew Sheppard | Posted 07.20.2014 | Canada Business
Andrew Sheppard

Wedding season is upon us. I am a supporter of marriage; after all, I am happily married. However, it's worth considering whether it's more financially beneficial to be married or live in a common-law arrangement.

How I Survived 21 Years of Marriage and Still Want More

Mara Shapiro | Posted 07.06.2014 | Canada Living
Mara Shapiro

Ever wonder how they do it? I mean the older couples you see in the park, at the store, holding hands in the mall? What makes it last? How do they get there, how do they survive each other? Soon, my marriage turns 21.

How Does a Man Please a Woman? The Answer Will Surprise You

Trina Read | Posted 06.30.2014 | Canada Living
Trina Read

The perplexed interviewer asked what every man wanted to know, "But what about the man's sexual needs? Isn't he going to walk away with 'blue-balls'?" In my head I was screaming, "Why can't men understand that most women walk away from the sex with 'blue balls' -- unsatisfied and unhappy with the experience?"

How to Keep Your Relationship Infidelity-Free

Trina Read | Posted 06.24.2014 | Canada Living
Trina Read

The reality is there are too many unsatisfying and empty relationships. Consequently in today's instant gratification society, at least half of men and women are looking for a quick fix of what they need outside of their relationship. If cheating is easy and there is a high payoff, why wouldn't they?

Saving Your Marriage With A Twix

CP | Seth Borenstein, The Associated Press | Posted 06.14.2014 | Canada Living

WASHINGTON - A quick candy bar may stave off more than hunger. It could prevent major fights between husbands and wives, at least if a new study that ...

Would You Own Up To Having An Affair?

Sue Nador | Posted 06.06.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

By withholding the truth about her affair from her husband, Tabitha holds all the cards when it comes to their marriage. She is able to preserve what matters most to her-her family life, financial security and the love of her husband-but on her own terms. Her husband is continuing to commit to the relationship under false pretences.

16 Rules For a Happy Marriage

masalamommas | Posted 05.31.2014 | Canada Living
masalamommas

You might say this is a classic case of the blind leading the blind. What I offer you here are pearls of wisdom after 15 years of marriage and seven years of being a divorced single parent. Had I known then what I know now, perhaps my happily ever after would have happened the first time around.

Marriage Really Does Do The Heart Good

CP | Marilynn Marchione, The Associated Press | Posted 05.28.2014 | Canada Living

Love can sometimes break a heart but marriage seems to do it a lot of good. A study of more than 3.5 million Americans finds that married people are l...

As a Widow, I Miss Touch More Than Sex

Joan Sutton | Posted 04.28.2014 | Canada Living
Joan Sutton

Couples who live together in intimacy take for granted the many times in a day when they touch each other, from bumping into one another in the bathroom, to fingertips brushing over a coffee cup or one cold foot seeking out the warmer one under the blanket.

Let's (Really) Talk About Sex

Carlen Costa | Posted 04.25.2014 | Canada Living
Carlen Costa

You've just woken up from a deep sleep and then remember that you've been romping all night with the Sandman who may also happen to be your Ex. That's when the WTF moment kicks in. Sex dreams happen to everyone. Sometimes they are as pleasurable as riding white horses in the meadow with George Clooney or getting naughty with Mila Kunis' legs wrapped around your waist.

If You Can't Warm Your Toes This February, Warm Your Heart

Lesley Anderson | Posted 04.24.2014 | Canada Living
Lesley Anderson

If you're looking for a way to beat the winter blues, take a look at the circumstances that surrounded the marriages of your ancestors and discover what kind of lives they lived with their spouses. You could find a love story that warms your heart, if not your toes, this winter. Here are some helpful tips to get you started.

Sex, Love, Marriage

Joan Sutton | Posted 04.17.2014 | Canada Living
Joan Sutton

I met Helen Hayes, stayed several times in her house in Cuernavaca and she was kind enough to let me interview her for The Toronto Sun. Her husband had been dead for many years when Helen told me: "I could no more have remarried than I could have been unfaithful." Helen was just one of many public figures who spoke to me about love, marriage and sex.

This Is a Love Story

Lori Gard | Posted 04.17.2014 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

This is the story of a girl who decided that dirty mugs in her sink and leftover kernels of popcorn in the recesses of her couch, with the ones she loves by her side, are all a story she ever needed to be complete. It's the story of the boy who loves her. And the story of the girl who made a decision: She would love him too.

Forget the Flowers: Use Valentine's Day to Talk About Debt

Douglas Hoyes | Posted 04.12.2014 | Canada Living
Douglas Hoyes

More than 1 in 3 people said they did not discuss their debt with their spouse prior to getting married. If you are starting a new life together would it not be a good idea to at least start a conversation about the debt burden that will impact you and your spouse's ability to buy a home and borrow for other purchases?

Would You Stay With A Cheating Spouse?

Erica Diamond | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erica Diamond

It's why I thank my mother and father for raising me with good self esteem and it's why we should raise our daughters with good self esteem. So she can stand on her own two feet without a man -- if ever need-be. So if ever she finds herself in a marriage where her hubby is parking his penis in another woman's garage, she has options.

Why Men and Women "Settle for Less" in Relationships

University of Toronto News | Posted 04.04.2014 | Canada Living
University of Toronto News

Ever wondered why your otherwise brilliant friends always seem to partner up with less-than-ideal mates? A new University of Toronto study could help explain why. One surprising finding was that those who feared being single seemed to recognize that they were making poor decisions about who to date.

Cohabiting Before Marriage Shouldn't Be About Sex or a Ring

AskMen.com | Posted 04.02.2014 | Canada Living
AskMen.com

I'm not personally a proponent of cohabitation before marriage. If you asked for my advice, I'd tell you not to. There's plenty of empirical research out there to suggest that it might not be the greatest idea. But you don't need to reduce men to sex-starved lunatics (or women to desperate shells who will whither and die if they don't get a ring) to get your point across.

"To Have and to Hold" -- That's What's Important

Noemi LoPinto | Posted 04.02.2014 | Canada Living
Noemi LoPinto

I was married two years ago. No one asked me to have or to hold my groom as per the traditional Anglican wedding vows at our wedding. I am half-Jewish and an atheist but growing up in Canada "to have and to hold" were the only marriage vows I heard. I think the author was talking about protecting a safe space no matter how heavy the abyss.

Don't Live With Your Boyfriend if You Want to Get Married

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.01.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Over the past decade or so, I've found there are a few common pitfalls that women who want to get married inadvertently fall into, and which decrease their chances of getting married while they're still young enough to walk down the aisle without stopping for breath. One of these pitfalls is living together before marriage.

Why I'm Thankful For My Parents' Divorce

Sue Nador | Posted 03.27.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

My parents could not have known it at the time but they did me a huge favour both through the dysfunction of their marriage and their subsequent divorce. Having a ring-side seat to the drama of their union allowed me to dissect and analyze their every move and motive. I learned a lot, and came to my own conclusions.