Married Sex

Are You Secretly Masturbating?

Trina Read | Posted 09.30.2013 | Canada Living
Trina Read

By the time this couple came to talk to me, they were in a pretty bad sexual rut. They had been married for 15 years and had two teenage kids. Both were masturbating almost daily, at about the same time in the evening without their partner knowing. To top it off, neither wanted the other to know what they were up to because they were too ashamed of their behavior.

Dear Men, Here's What You Need to Know About Sex

Trina Read | Posted 05.15.2013 | Canada Living
Trina Read

If I could write a letter to men (not all men, but many men) on behalf of many women, it would go something like this: Dear Men, Women want sex to have a beginning, middle, and end. Here are some ideas for the not-middle-part of sex.

Why is His Vasectomy My Responsiblity?

Trina Read | Posted 04.28.2013 | Canada Living
Trina Read

In my mind, the answer to our spontaneous sex woes is simple: a vasectomy. Such a minor thing to have in order for us to have a happy and healthy sex life. Or at least for me it is such a simple and minor thing. Problem is, it's been a year that my husband has been dodging the "you need to get a vasectomy" bullet. Why is birth control up to me and why do I have to be the nagging wife to get this done?

Is Being Too Tired for Sex Simply an Excuse?

Trina Read | Posted 04.06.2013 | Canada Living
Trina Read

Has "I'm too tired" become the new "I've got a headache"? Today's average couple is always on the go and busy. It's not surprising then that being tired gets in the way of them having good sex on a regular basis. But we can only hold our partner at arm's length for so long before the relationship starts to suffer.

Cyber Sex Can Be Relationship-Friendly

Trina Read | Posted 01.14.2012 | Canada Living
Trina Read

I believe it's the secrecy of your partner engaging in virtual sex that causes the majority of the difficulty -- if not devastation -- to a relationship. I appreciate that it's difficult to bring up that you want to dabble in cyber sex, but it's even more difficult to try and resolve an issue of mistrust.