Many people may think it's really just a matter of time until true equality for women and men is achieved. Saying it's a matter of time is too often an excuse for maintaining the status quo. We need to keep our eye firmly on the ball and put in place deliberate steps to change how things are, into how you want them to be.
As a mentor for teens with autism and their families, I am struck with the level of trust, humility and indomitable spirit that I see in these families weekly on their paths to rising above others limitations of them. I would like to share one story with you from one of my clients and his mom's perspective.
I'm coming up to my 19th anniversary of becoming clean and sober, and this time of the year for me is typically a moment of reflection. I'm still not sure how I went from standing alone on a subway platform with the intention of taking my life 20 years ago, to standing in front of an audience of 200 people looking to me for guidance and hope.
If you're a young woman just beginning her career, unfortunately there is no blueprint for success. No set of rules or guidelines to follow, no guarantee of "having it all." The truth is we all work at different companies and in different industries, report to different leaders, face different challenges and, most importantly, want different things.
What is radical generosity, exactly? It's a unique concept conceived by Vicki Saunders, founder of SheEO, a Toronto-based group that celebrates and supports women-led ventures. Her long-term vision is for this grassroots crowd-funding initiative to take hold not just in Canada, but all around the globe.
One very telling trait in a prospective candidate's makeup is their ability to ascribe whatever success they may have had thus far in their careers to the influence or assistance of others. Often they will speak of a mentor or a series of mentors as pivotal figures. One very special mentor and teacher of mine is the Honourable Irwin Cotler.
Each of us, male or female, form our identity using a combination of who we are inside and what the outside world feeds back to us. It's the latter that creates a problem for ambitious women. When people around us make it clear they don't see our gender as leaders, through actions or lack of action, it is more difficult for us to believe it as well.
It took me staying up all night and reaching near exhaustion to get fed up enough to seek a new solution to hiring. I hope you find you sleep easier knowing what I know now. You have to balance the great parts of the job you are offering with the truthful parts of both the job you are offering and what working for you can be like in order to find the right fit for a long term hire.
While we cannot make up for the experiences we lack, we can certainly draw from the knowledge of those who have lived before us. Regardless of your age or the stage you are in your life, I believe mentorship is an invaluable tool. There is a reason why maps were created. Imagine a road trip without the aid of a map?
The average Canadian spends a whopping four hours and 20 minutes a day watching TV (5 hours in the U.S. for comparison), and that doesn't include social media time. That's 30 hours a week or 1560 hours a year in which the average Canadian sits on a couch. So here's my challenge to you: Give up one sitcom, one iffy reality show to free up an hour of your time each week.