Motherhood

Motherhood Is A Constant Challenge - And Not Just On Facebook

Tara Mandarano | Posted 02.04.2016 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

At the end of the day, the Facebook motherhood challenge doesn't make us measure ourselves in an unfair way. We do enough of that on our own. Is there anything wrong with singling out your mum friends to tell them you think they're doing a great job? Hell no. Am I proud to be a mum? Hell yes.

5 Lessons Play Dates Have Taught Me About Life

Tara Mandarano | Posted 02.01.2016 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

As time went on and I grew more confident in my mothering, I began to open up more when I would randomly meet other families at the park or the store. I craved adult company and conversation, but something always stopped me from suggesting we meet up.

It's OK If You Aren't Enjoying Your Pregnancy

Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre | Posted 01.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre

People often talk about how much they enjoy being pregnant. The image of a smiling pregnant woman rubbing her belly comes to mind. However, I can't tell you how often women come into my office and talk about how they are not enjoying pregnancy; and that this feeling leaves them isolated.

What I Would Ask My Mom If She Were Still Alive

Hannah Spray | Posted 01.28.2016 | Canada Parents
Hannah Spray

The first time I carried a child, I suddenly had this intense urge to be closer to my mom. It was hard going through a pregnancy and a stressful birth experience without my mother's guidance and support (cancer can quit now, OK?), and I keep coming up against questions I really wish I could ask my mama, but that must be left unanswered.

Diets Are Stupid, And Other Things To Tell My Daughter

Deborah Fulsang | Posted 01.14.2016 | Canada Parents
Deborah Fulsang

On this second week of January when so many of us have thrown in the towel on our January 1 resolutions -- apparently only eight per cent of people actually manage to succeed with their New Year's goals -- I'm here to diss "The Diet" in favour of common sense, moderation and a few other nuggets of truth I want to pass on to my daughter.

5 Reasons Toddlers Are Actually Really Awesome

Hannah Spray | Posted 01.14.2016 | Canada Parents
Hannah Spray

Toddlers get a bad rap. Caused by communication frustrations, feeling helpless to control their own lives, experiencing an influx of new hormones and emotions, and constantly pounded with large quantities of new information to process to throw tantrums and test our limits many times, in many ways.

I'm Changing One Small Habit A Month

Shawna Scafe | Posted 01.11.2016 | Canada British Columbia
Shawna Scafe

There is a whole science to our habits, how they are triggered, carried out and the reward we get from them. There is a whole scientific method to shifting our habits so they stick and actually support real life changes. Part of that method is to start small with a new habit that you can't say no to.

Postpartum Depression Awareness Will Make Strides In 2016

Patricia Tomasi | Posted 01.11.2016 | Canada Parents
Patricia Tomasi

While tinsel town continues to generate buzz about PPD with new plot twists and more celebrity confessions, here's hoping that the trend of openness continues in the right direction towards greater awareness and better treatment.

How To Drive Your Daughter Bat-Crap Crazy

Lenora Thompson | Posted 01.04.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

If, by some miracle, she makes it to age eighteen still sound of mind, it's time to bask in her glory! Sure, throw the big graduation party, but make sure it's all about you, baby!

2016 Is The Year I Kick My Addiction To Work

Lenora Thompson | Posted 12.29.2015 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

Last night, my husband spoke the three most terrifying words in the English language. "Take a break." I was horrified. My blood ran cold. "But, but..." "No buts about it. Take the day off. Why don't you have some fun?" he suggested, smiling. Fun? Fun!? I drew a blank. And that's when I knew I had a problem.

Why I Choose To Be Alone At Christmas

Lenora Thompson | Posted 12.22.2015 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

Some are geographically distant from those they hold dear and raise a solitary glass to absent friends. Others have lost loved ones to the grave. But for many of us, "no contact" is a choice we consciously made. Loneliness is simply less painful than the agony of spending time with our toxic families.

What To Expect When Leaving Your Toddler Overnight

Bianca Bujan | Posted 12.22.2015 | Canada Parents
Bianca Bujan

There's one thing that sometimes comes with overnight separation that took me awhile to accept. When I returned from my time away, my children weren't always excited to see me - at first. They would reach for my parents, rejecting my outstretched arms in favour of Nana and Papa.

8 Myths To Bust For Stress-Free Hosting

Shawna Scafe | Posted 12.21.2015 | Canada Living
Shawna Scafe

Being hospitable is more about welcoming others, as they are, to come share your life with you, as it is. It is about opening up your doors, putting out an extra plate, sharing your space and time and relaxing enough to enjoy the company of another person.

The Moment I Lost My Toddler At The Mall

Tara Mandarano | Posted 12.21.2015 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

I darted the way she had gone, but there was no sign of her. I was praying for her little legs to appear under the hanging shirts and pants, but there was just empty space. As every excruciating second ticked by, I felt a little more hysterical.

Am I A Bad Mom For Not Going All-Out For The Holidays?

Scarlett Ballantyne | Posted 12.10.2015 | Canada Parents
Scarlett Ballantyne

I am not one of those moms that is stoked to decorate for the holidays. I am just not. I find it inconvenient. I find that it clutters up my house. I hate the colours green and red! I don't like the temporary nature of decorations, because as soon as you put them up, it's time to take them down.

Maintaining My Identity In Motherhood

Tara Mandarano | Posted 12.10.2015 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

I noticed a distressing new trend: whenever we visited friends and family, they didn't really see me anymore. It was all about the baby -- how she'd changed, which adorable outfit she was wearing, or who she happened to look like that week. It took a while to get used to this strange sense of invisibility.

Let's Stop Freaking Out When Company Is Coming

Lenora Thompson | Posted 12.08.2015 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

Company is coming! Get rid of the couches. We can't let people know we SIT! ...There cannot be any sign of LIVING in this house... I want this place looking like a new Mediterranean fusion restaurant by noon... This is a dishtowel. I need a hand towel. What are we? Barbarians!?!" Does this ring any bells?

Let's Stop Pretending We're Perfect Parents

Tara Mandarano | Posted 12.02.2015 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

Life with a child is rarely picture-perfect. Yes, there are flashes of unfiltered happiness to be captured and held close to the heart, but more often than not, there's also a lot of mess and chaos and crying behind the scenes.

We Need To Stop Exaggerating The Benefits Of Breastfeeding

Courtney Jung | Posted 12.02.2015 | Canada Parents
Courtney Jung

By exaggerating the benefits of breastfeeding, we make it all too easy to cross the line from making a personal decision to breastfeed to the fervent belief that all mothers should breastfeed. If breastfeeding really will protect a baby from everything from diabetes to cancer, it's hard to avoid the conclusion that feeding a baby formula represents some kind of parental failure.

As The Parent Of Identical Twins, This One Question Stopped Me In My Tracks

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 11.30.2015 | Canada Parents
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

We all have a journey towards our sense of self; for identical twins, the road to self-awareness both literally and figuratively, is particularly challenging. In the case of my kids and so many other identical twins.

The Other Side: Life As A New Parent

Megan Howarth | Posted 11.27.2015 | Canada Parents
Megan Howarth

The truth is, the birth of your baby will most likely be the most transformative and life-changing experience you will ever go through. You will enter the experience living in one dimension and you will exit feeling truly like you are on "The Other Side" of your life.

A Second Glance At First-Time Motherhood

Tara Mandarano | Posted 11.27.2015 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

I remember the anticlimactic feeling once the baby was born and everyone went home. Looking at that tiny, unfamiliar face and not recognizing the reality of the child in my arms. The possibilities of the dream child gone, the actual baby a monumental mystery.

Choose The Parenting Style That Suits You Best

Sharon Vinderine | Posted 11.19.2015 | Canada Parents
Sharon Vinderine

Over 50 years of research has revealed there are four main parenting styles, ranging from authoritative to hands-off. So, why the big range? The way we parent relates to the values we want our kids to have -- the things we want to instill in them most.

How To Insult Every Mother With A Single Phrase

Lynn Morrison | Posted 11.19.2015 | Canada Parents
Lynn Morrison

The phrase "I don't know how you do it!" really grates on my nerves. I know that the speaker means well, but I equally realize that they aren't thinking through the ramifications of what they are saying. "I don't know how you do it" is truly one of the most insulting phrases attached to motherhood.

10 Things Every Parent Of A Preemie Knows

Tiffany Grisdale | Posted 11.13.2015 | Canada Parents
Tiffany Grisdale

Preemie babies make feisty kids! They come into this world fighting for every breath. They struggle to survive each day and they work hard at simply growing one gram at a time. By the time my preemie twins could walk and talk they were ready to take on the world and tell everyone who's boss. They're strong willed and have proven that nothing and no one will stop them.