Motherhood

The Things That Haunt Me Now That I Am Sober

Keeley Milne | Posted 08.29.2016 | Canada Parents
Keeley Milne

Guilt and regret are the ugly Hyde to the Jekyll of sobriety, even years in. With new awareness, we relive past experiences---or in many cases bemoan what might have been. Pain and sorrow previously numbed by a drug or drink of choice is glaringly present, and strikes unpredictably---in the midst of a family gathering; alone, late at night; smack in the middle of an important work presentation, or during a particularly deep yoga class.

5 Reasons To Take Your Family To Centreville This Summer

Melanie Braga | Posted 08.16.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

Growing up in Toronto, there were many things to do as a family but one of my ultimate favourite places to go to was Centre Island, or more specifically Centreville. I remember loving the ferry ride to get to the island and then spending the day on all the fun rides. Those are the moments that I remember and cherish to this day.

Earning My MFA Has Forced Me To Examine My Insecurities

Erin Silver | Posted 08.12.2016 | Canada Living
Erin Silver

Perhaps the hardest part about being a mom is leaving your kids, tearing yourself in half, whether for an MFA residency, like I'm doing, or even just to travel or go to work each day. Parenthood is a juggling act, and some days we are better at balancing than others.

PMDD Symptoms Turned My Period Into An Emotional Write-Off

Tara Mandarano | Posted 08.03.2016 | Canada Living
Tara Mandarano

Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is like PMS on steroids; it's not just a bad mood or feeling over-emotional for a few hours. It's an ongoing pattern of severe premenstrual symptoms (both physical and psychological) that interfere with your daily life and relationships.

I'm Not A "Stay At Home Mom," I'm A "Family Manager"

Angie Campanelli | Posted 07.25.2016 | Canada Parents
Angie Campanelli

As I sit here writing this post, coated in the slick, stench of black licorice fennel oil (for breast milk production), I can honestly say I'm more stressed now than before parenthood. And I know I'm not alone in this.

My Post-Baby Body Doesn't Feel Like It Belongs To Me

Vedavati M. | Posted 07.25.2016 | Canada Parents
Vedavati M.

I love the child it bore. I am fascinated by everything it did for my baby when she was within and when she came out. I am still amazed by how much weight my knees bore in the last trimester and how heavy a load my arms can bear now. I am in awe of this body. But I don't love being in it.

To The Mother I Met At The Beach, Thank You

Lori Gard | Posted 07.22.2016 | Canada Parents
Lori Gard

As I watched you with your sweet babies, realizing how difficult this stage of life is for mamas like you, I felt a twinge of sadness come over me. Your children are still at that stage of life where they want YOU and you alone. You have the monopoly on their attention and love.

Parents, We All Need A Little Support Sometimes

Amanda Brennan | Posted 07.14.2016 | Canada Parents
Amanda Brennan

Everyone struggles. Some struggle more than others, but that doesn't mean we can't support other parents. If someone tells you about their problem, no matter how silly or trivial you think it is compared to your own, or what other people deal with, support them. Lift them up. Say you understand how hard it must be for them, and acknowledge their feelings.

An Open Letter To My Children: Please Don't Judge

Her Magazine | Posted 07.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Her Magazine

You're processing the world around you, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. And as your mom, I'm doing my best to show you (and remind myself each day) how to bring light into this world each of those days. In the grocery store, at the park, in the classroom. We're in this together. We'll learn together. We'll fall together. We'll get up together.

Kind Words Can Go A Long Way

Erin Silver | Posted 06.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

I thought we'd go to a cottage in the summer, take our own trip to celebrate our 10th anniversary. I'd wanted to go to Japan. Now it feels like I'm counting backwards. I'm in the negative numbers, counting how many years I've been divorced. How many years we could have been married if only...

One Day I Will Miss Every Frustrating Parenting Moment

Vanessa Heron | Posted 06.22.2016 | Canada Parents
Vanessa Heron

I know there are going to be many, many more hard moments when I ask myself how much longer a certain behaviour of my children's is going to last. But with each of those hard moments that I want to end, there are a dozen precious moments that I want to hold onto for a lifetime.

The Parenting Secrets We Don't Share

Rebecca Beck | Posted 06.15.2016 | Canada Parents
Rebecca Beck

We all have dirty little secrets. You know, the kind that you would be mortified if anyone were ever to find out. Most people's deepest secrets are well kept. My parenting secrets are not. I have an autistic son with no filter and he ensures that no secret is safe in our house.

5 Things New Moms (And Dads) Need To Know About New Grandparents

Rachel Schipper | Posted 06.08.2016 | Canada Parents
Rachel Schipper

Grandparents are also having their own identity crisis. Surprise and disappointment can come up during this time. It is normal to have disagreements and feel disconnected from members of your family sometimes.

From Fantastic Mom To Shitty Mom

Leigh and Meg | Posted 06.08.2016 | Canada Parents
Leigh and Meg

I was trying to recall a day when I was a fantastic mom all day, where I managed to stay patient, positive and in the zone. More often than not, I flop back and forth between extremes like a fish out of water, I'm a fantastic mom, wait, nope I'm a shitty mom. It's incredible how quickly I can go from nailing it to absolutely shitting the bed.

Beauty Is Your Name: A Letter To My Daughter

Linnie von Sky | Posted 06.08.2016 | Canada Parents
Linnie von Sky

Because my baby girl, you come from a proud line of loving, nurturing, loud laughing, often giggling, deeply feeling and wonderful women with curves who have been wounded by other people's aesthetic expectations and cheated by their own understanding of perfection. I want you to see me love myself for all the gorgeous, nurturing mamas that came before me.

I'm The Kind Of Mom Who Lets Her Kids Take Risks

Sarah Scott | Posted 06.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Sarah Scott

They should be able to confidently navigate independent situations. Being able to ask other adults for help, ordering fries from a fast food counter, helping a younger child at the playground, figuring out their own boundaries -- this all takes practice.

When Is It Time To Stop Trying For A Biological Child?

Her Magazine | Posted 06.02.2016 | Canada Parents
Her Magazine

Each week, I sit in my office counselling couples and consulting with them about loss. Loss of the idea that they will have a biological child. By the time couples come in to see me for counselling, often they have been trying unsuccessfully, for years, to conceive a biological child.

Parenting Is Not A Burden (No Matter What My So-Called Friends Say)

Vedavati M. | Posted 06.02.2016 | Canada Parents
Vedavati M.

During my pregnancy and right after birth there were a lot of "warnings" about the havoc my little monster would create. How I wouldn't be able to function without sleep. How I would have to recalibrate. How I'd need to discipline. Heaps upon loads of advice on how to keep the baby from inconveniencing my routine, at any cost.

How I'll Survive My Daughter's Transition To Daycare

Tara Mandarano | Posted 05.26.2016 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

One day I will turn around and you won't be sitting in the car seat behind me; you will be the one driving. That day is still far away, but this new path you are on is another step in that direction. Part of me wants to keep you close forever. I know this can't happen, but I feel the urge all the same.

Life With An Autistic Son Gave This Mom A Voice And Strength

Melanie Braga | Posted 05.17.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

Adele noticed changes in her youngest son, Aidan, who was only 14 months at the time. The changes she noticed were: he completely stopped talking; he would not respond to his name; had many night terrors; made no eye contact and he would get much more frustrated.

A Mental Ward Is No Place For Moms With Postpartum Depression

Patricia Tomasi | Posted 05.17.2016 | Canada Parents
Patricia Tomasi

I'm not saying we need helicopter rides, but we damn well need more than we have right now. We need screening, monitoring, therapy, child care and home care. And why not add PPD rehab to that list? I can't think of anything better to help moms who are severely suffering than a dedicated facility.

Embrace Your Children For Who They Are

Lisa Brookman | Posted 05.16.2016 | Canada Parents
Lisa Brookman

My son is not a "man's man." He's soft-spoken, creative, warm, demonstrative and sensitive teen. He's not rugged or tough and he doesn't excel at sports. He is extraordinarily artistic with an amazing flare for fashion and design. He is very demonstrative, a great listener and a wonderful friend.

Airplane Travel Tips For Expectant Moms

Posted 05.16.2016 | Canada Parents

Whether you’re on a red eye flight or a quick hour-long jaunt, here are four tips to help you and your tiny passenger along the way.

I Dream Of A Day All Mothers Are Entitled To PPD Rehab

Patricia Tomasi | Posted 05.13.2016 | Canada Parents
Patricia Tomasi

Wouldn't that be nice? I don't remember being given the option. I do remember getting a weird look, being brushed off, handed a script and sent home. I can only imagine (fantasize) what rehab for postpartum depression looks like. A limo arrives at my doorstep and out steps Ryan Gosling. "Hey girl," he says. "We're going to PPD rehab."

How To Hang On To Your Marriage When You Have A Kid

Tara Mandarano | Posted 05.13.2016 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

I never fully realized how much of a strain parenting would be on my relationship until my daughter arrived. Sure, in theory I knew that having a baby would change everything -- forever -- but I didn't really grasp just how much that extra person would alter the fabric and dynamic of our lives.