Motherhood

Would Your Daughter Want Your Job?

Dina Vardouniotis | Posted 11.12.2014 | Canada Living
Dina Vardouniotis

If you ask your daughter (or son for that matter), if they would want your job or your life and they pause, maybe you should too. Just because you can do the impossible, doesn't mean you need to. A wise woman said, "I wasn't there all the time but I was there when it mattered most."

What Happened to the Sisterhood of Mothers?

Naomi Elana Zener | Posted 11.11.2014 | Canada Living
Naomi Elana Zener

Wandering aimlessly through the hallways of a mall, down a street, or even through a museum, while pushing my baby stroller, I've come to notice the u...

What I Really Want To Tell You About Pregnancy

Vicki Murphy | Posted 11.16.2014 | Canada Living
Vicki Murphy

I'm torn because my family always comes first, but I also have these ideas and opportunities and the iron is hot and I'm not getting any younger and this is my time, bitch. I'm riddled with guilt just typing that, because society and my upbringing and all that bullshit has programmed me to believe I'm a mother now, so I'm supposed to sacrifice my own dreams for everyone else's. But I'm determined to try my best to fuck that noise and do it all, even if I don't do any of it perfectly. I'd rather live with failure than regret.

Dear New Mama With the Baby Blues

Maria Lianos-Carbone | Posted 10.13.2014 | Canada Living
Maria Lianos-Carbone

Oh the joys of becoming a new mom! Oh the bliss! You're the vision of beauty, a natural mom! The happy, helpful husband by your side! The overbearing grandparents and relatives who spoil your baby boy or girl with gifts and hugs and kisses! The perfect baby who sleeps all night and never cries! Who are we kidding?

Dear Daughter, You Can Be Whatever Kind of Mother You Want

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 10.08.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

You are entitled to feel fulfilled outside of the domestic sphere; you must never, ever feel guilty about this. You must love what you do or you will not be happy, at home or while you are working. You have so many wonderful choices ahead of you. Don't ever feel as though there is only one choice.

Is There A Good Time To Have Kids?

Heather Lin | Posted 10.04.2014 | Canada Living
Heather Lin

Did you ever see Toy Story 3? The kids licking toys, licking each other, sticking fingers in offensive places not on their own bodies? All true. They will get colds every other week, are constantly on antibiotics, and require multiple trips to the doctor or emergency room because they didn't have the decency to get really sick until Friday afternoon of a long weekend.

Give a Busy Mom a Break, And Be A Kid Again

Sylvia Forrest | Posted 08.16.2014 | Canada Living
Sylvia Forrest

Summer is finally here: Sunday barbecues, family vacations, and half-day Fridays. Everyone loves summer, right? Except every once in a while, you'll run into moms who dread summer -- at least a little. Give a busy and tired mom a break like I did. You'll be surprised at how much fun it can be!

Get Your Nose Out Of My Uterus: 10 Reasons Why You Should Never Ask A Woman If She's Pregnant

Vicki Murphy | Posted 08.05.2014 | Canada Living
Vicki Murphy

Reason #1: Because we might not be pregnant. And then we'll think you're calling us fat. As much as we treasure new reasons to question our appearance, maybe you should refrain from asking the question until there's a giant baby head dangling from our crotch.

I Chose My Kids Over Meeting David Sedaris (and I Still Regret it)

Kathleen Hogan | Posted 07.15.2014 | Canada Living
Kathleen Hogan

I could have been there. My son could have giggled for/at David. I don't know. I was yet another harried/perfect professional mum, holding it all together. Prioritizing naps over adult conversation, breastfeeding over tantrums, parenting over intellectual rigour. It would have been fine -- my kids would have been fine -- had I stayed that day.

[EXCERPT] The M Word: What Motherhood Taught Me About My Abortion

Kerry Clare | Posted 07.14.2014 | Canada Living
Kerry Clare

It is essential for my purposes that you be able to imagine the desperation of being pregnant when you don't want to be, of what it is to be staring into that gaping black hole with everything you've ever worked and longed for lost inside it. I am aware that some people will find themselves more inclined to empathize with the six-week-old fetus in this matter, he or she (still indeterminate) about the size of a lentil, and whether such an inclination represents a terrific failure of imagination or an incredible imaginative leap, I'm still not entirely sure. But I'd like such a person to shake their convictions for just a moment or two.

What I Really Want For Mother's Day

Kate Hilton | Posted 07.10.2014 | Canada Living
Kate Hilton

How many of us knew that we would love our children so much that it would terrify us, but that we would also resent the erosion of our independent personhood, and wonder why our husbands didn't feel similarly eroded? Or how much more often we would dwell on our failures than on our successes as wives and mothers

Let's Not Forget the Mothers of Child Labourers This Weekend

Cheryl Hotchkiss | Posted 07.09.2014 | Canada Living
Cheryl Hotchkiss

Many moms are wakened on Mother's Day by an ominous clattering in the kitchen: your loving-hearted children preparing to surprise you with coffee or hot chocolate in bed. There's also that cinnamon toast or oatmeal positively doused with sugar. What many moms don't realize is that such meals usually come courtesy of a whole crew of children.

How Becoming Mayor Would Affect My Family

Karen Stintz | Posted 07.08.2014 | Canada Living
Karen Stintz

It goes without saying, but I'll say it anyways. Being a working mother is a never ending balancing act. My children have always had a politician for a mom; I was elected to Toronto's city council before they were born. My chosen career -- and my choice to run for Mayor -- means that my life is, to a certain degree, public.

The Mother of All Mothers

Beverley Golden | Posted 07.07.2014 | Canada
Beverley Golden

Growing up in the 50's and 60's, my mother Lillian was primarily a "stay-at-home"mother. It's not that she didn't have high aspirations for her future, as she dreamed of being a dancer. However, times required she go to work directly after graduating high school as a bookkeeper for a dress manufacturer, her professional dancing dreams dashed.

A Technique to Help Expectant Mothers Meditate

Linda Lauren | Posted 06.30.2014 | Canada Living
Linda Lauren

My clients share many of life's events with me, but I'm never more excited than when they share the pending birth of a child. It's an exciting nine months for the parents as we embark on a spiritual journey to keep mommy calm and daddy focused. I always suggest meditating at the onset of the news.

When Did Being A Mom Become The 'World's Toughest Job'?

Melissa Carr | Posted 06.19.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

If you have time to watch a YouTube video and Facebook about it all damn day, motherhood hasn't completely swallowed you up -- you had enough time in your busy day for this, let's be honest, frivolity. Maybe, after all, it isn't the toughest job in the world.

Maybe My Kids Will Be More Tolerant People Because of My Depression

Sandra Charron | Posted 06.14.2014 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

Yes, during the most severe times in my life when I was bedridden for months, my body moulded into the mattress, not only did I not even know how to be a mother, but I didn't care. Strength and what little energy I had, was poured into staying alive. But during these worst of times, my children, the older ones aware of my illness, the younger one suspecting, were never very far from my side.

We Don't Want to Make the Same Mistakes Our Mothers Did

Katie Boland | Posted 05.07.2014 | Canada Living
Katie Boland

I think people my age, more than generations previously, have friendships with their parents. You talk about things you maybe shouldn't. For women our age, there is less of a physical and intellectual generation gap between mothers and daughters.

Why Hasn't the Working Mom Dialogue Evolved Yet?

Leah Eichler | Posted 04.10.2014 | Canada Living
Leah Eichler

Many women I have spoken to talk about their fears of being a working mother in hushed tones, as if the topic is taboo. But shouldn't the conversation about marrying work and motherhood have evolved by now?

The Top Five Things Parents Need To Know About Kids and Social Media

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 04.08.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

If your kids see you jostling to get the best shot of the most mundane moments of life, just so that you can post a picture of it on your Instagram account, they'll follow suit. If you post inappropriate images or comments on social media, the will be seen by your children, guaranteed. Limit and moderate your own social media activity.

Why I Hate the '80s Ninja Turtles

Vicki Murphy | Posted 02.01.2014 | Canada Living
Vicki Murphy

One day, I pressed play on the PVR and went about my bidness, Max on the couch pumped for some Turtle Power. A few minutes later, I heard this moaning and groaning coming from the television, with some bow-chicka-wow music in the background. What the. I ran to the TV and saw a commercial for a chat line, The Night Exchange.

Why is your kid the boss of you?

Melissa Carr | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

We've all heard about baby-led weaning. Even child-led potty training and child-led playing makes sense. But when did child-led-every-f*%king-thing in your life happen?

How I Dealt With My Adult Son's Visit Home (Right After He Quit Smoking)

Deborah Kimmett | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Deborah Kimmett

As the nicotine leached out of his system, the emotional outbursts started. Think of the terrible twos except with a terrible two-year-old that could bench press you. He was like someone suffering from Tourettes Syndrome. He would just started swearing and freaking out for no reason. No, I don't want to do the dishes. No, I don't want to go to bed. No. No. No.

If You Think About Being a Good Mother You Probably Are One

Lori Gard | Posted 12.30.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

There will always be somebody better than you at this. So stop trying so hard. Release the burden of being the best. And just settle for being good. Because if you are wondering, are CONTEMPLATING your role as a mother, then you probably don't have to worry any more about it.

The Writer's Writing Place

Vicki Murphy | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada
Vicki Murphy

Apparently most writers have a special place to, you know, write. George Bernard Shaw had a hut that he could rotate so he was always in the sun. Roal...