Motherhood

A Survival Guide To Bringing A Toddler To A Wedding

Melanie Braga | Posted 12.07.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

A beautiful envelope has arrived at your home addressed to the family and as you open it, you realize it's a wedding invitation. Now as parents of a toddler, you may have mixed feelings about the invite. You may not be sure whether you would like to bring your toddler with you or not -- and that's perfectly natural! But if you decide to bring your little one along, keep these tips in mind.

In A Hate-Filled World, What Can You Do?

Lauren Ross | Posted 12.05.2016 | Canada Living
Lauren Ross

In a time when hatred appears to be everywhere -- on Facebook and Twitter, in the suicide bombs of terrorists and the ugly politics of the United States -- I find solace in knowing we have the power to change. We have the power to erase hate, and instill understanding and acceptance, in the same way my mother did.

I Love My Children, But I'm So Tired And Angry All The Time

Christine Johnson | Posted 12.01.2016 | Canada Parents
Christine Johnson

Shouldn't I be happy? I have three healthy children, I have a wonderful husband, I have supportive friends and family, I have a roof over my head and a vehicle to drive, yet I'm so full of anger, so much anger. Every night I am mad at myself for yelling at my children, for losing my cool for reasons that don't warrant such anger.

Teaching The Spirit Of Giving

Melanie Braga | Posted 11.17.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

Growing up I saw how much my parents worked to ensure that my sister and I had everything we needed. I remember seeing the struggling times and then some better times; above all, I always saw them give to others. They had their own way of giving, and it would be subtle. "You give from your heart and no one needs to know," they would say.

Some Days, Parenting Just Really Sucks

Tara Mandarano | Posted 11.08.2016 | Canada Parents
Tara Mandarano

With a threenager in the house, there's nothing I enjoy more than having real conversations with other mums and dads about the shitty side of parenting. Because it does exist, despite what Facebook would have you believe. There's something incredibly comforting about hearing other parents' tales of woe and seeing how they've come out the other side.

Why You Should Date Your Friends

Shawna Scafe | Posted 11.07.2016 | Canada British Columbia
Shawna Scafe

It is like a marriage. You will fall in and out of love from time to time but you stay devoted to them. You will have periods where you don't talk much, or talk enough. You will lose yourself, you will lose touch. But true friends don't drift away during those lulls. In true friendships you let resentments melt, and find ways to show kindness, you help each other find your path again. Most importantly, you make a time and space to hang out with them for the purpose of simply hanging out with them.

Let's Appreciate The Common Ground Between Stay-At-Home And Working Moms

Melanie Braga | Posted 10.14.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

Before becoming a mom I didn't even know there were "mom groups." I don't mean the groups you can find on Facebook or at your local community centre. I mean the divide between stay-at-home moms (SAHM) and working moms. This got me thinking...How are my relationships with my working-mom friends? Was it different?

I Wish Someone Had Told Me This Truth About Motherhood

Hafsa Pathan | Posted 11.22.2016 | Canada Parents
Hafsa Pathan

The truth is, no one prepared me for any of this. Yes, I read about postpartum depression and I read about the sleepless nights, but no one told me that these fears and worries are common and can happen to anyone. I thought I'd be in the clear, and thought I was a bad mother because I was scared. But so many mothers feel the way I did; they just don't talk about it.

Relearning My Grandmother's Language Taught Me Where My Roots Lie

Hamza Khan | Posted 10.10.2016 | Canada Living
Hamza Khan

Learning my grandmother's life stories helped me to reconnect with my own Indian-American and Indian-Canadian identity in a way that Bollywood movies never could. If you're the first-generation child of immigrant parents, you owe it to yourself to learn the language of your grandparents. Spend some time with them and ask them about their life. Go deeper than the mere sequence of events you might've never ventured beneath because of language barriers. It could just be the key to unlocking dimensions of who you are. And if history is cyclical, perhaps who you might become.

Motherhood Has Given Me A Voice That Was Once Lost

Melanie Braga | Posted 10.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

Many times I would put work above anything else as I became the "job." I didn't realize then that I allowed my job to define who I was as a person. For some odd reason I lost myself in the process of being dedicated and it took starting a family and getting laid off to realize it.

Living With Mental Illness Makes Me Focus More On Parenting

Tina Moreau | Posted 10.05.2016 | Canada Living
Tina Moreau

I'm on medication that works for me. I exercise and eat healthy. I check in with my doctor and family health team. I sleep regularly and experience no lingering symptoms. My support system of friends, family and neighbours are always there. I work full time. I have a spouse who loves me for better or worse. I parent two wonderful little tyrants, whom I love dearly.

Some Days Are A Battle When You Live With Mental Illness

Tina Moreau | Posted 09.27.2016 | Canada Living
Tina Moreau

Almost ten years ago, at age 19, I landed myself in the local emergency room after swallowing an entire bottle of antidepressants. It wasn't an easy road to get there, and it hasn't been an easy road since.

What's The Best Age To Become A Mom?

Megan Howarth | Posted 09.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Megan Howarth

Confident, successful and amazing 20- to 40-something women can all that agree when it comes to having babies, we're all wondering the same things. Having babies earlier, or waiting a bit later -- what's best?

The Things That Haunt Me Now That I Am Sober

Keeley Milne | Posted 08.29.2016 | Canada Parents
Keeley Milne

Guilt and regret are the ugly Hyde to the Jekyll of sobriety, even years in. With new awareness, we relive past experiences---or in many cases bemoan what might have been. Pain and sorrow previously numbed by a drug or drink of choice is glaringly present, and strikes unpredictably---in the midst of a family gathering; alone, late at night; smack in the middle of an important work presentation, or during a particularly deep yoga class.

5 Reasons To Take Your Family To Centreville This Summer

Melanie Braga | Posted 08.16.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

Growing up in Toronto, there were many things to do as a family but one of my ultimate favourite places to go to was Centre Island, or more specifically Centreville. I remember loving the ferry ride to get to the island and then spending the day on all the fun rides. Those are the moments that I remember and cherish to this day.

Earning My MFA Has Forced Me To Examine My Insecurities

Erin Silver | Posted 08.12.2016 | Canada Living
Erin Silver

Perhaps the hardest part about being a mom is leaving your kids, tearing yourself in half, whether for an MFA residency, like I'm doing, or even just to travel or go to work each day. Parenthood is a juggling act, and some days we are better at balancing than others.

PMDD Symptoms Turned My Period Into An Emotional Write-Off

Tara Mandarano | Posted 08.03.2016 | Canada Living
Tara Mandarano

Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is like PMS on steroids; it's not just a bad mood or feeling over-emotional for a few hours. It's an ongoing pattern of severe premenstrual symptoms (both physical and psychological) that interfere with your daily life and relationships.

I'm Not A "Stay At Home Mom," I'm A "Family Manager"

Angie Campanelli | Posted 07.25.2016 | Canada Parents
Angie Campanelli

As I sit here writing this post, coated in the slick, stench of black licorice fennel oil (for breast milk production), I can honestly say I'm more stressed now than before parenthood. And I know I'm not alone in this.

My Post-Baby Body Doesn't Feel Like It Belongs To Me

Vedavati M. | Posted 07.25.2016 | Canada Parents
Vedavati M.

I love the child it bore. I am fascinated by everything it did for my baby when she was within and when she came out. I am still amazed by how much weight my knees bore in the last trimester and how heavy a load my arms can bear now. I am in awe of this body. But I don't love being in it.

To The Mother I Met At The Beach, Thank You

Lori Gard | Posted 07.22.2016 | Canada Parents
Lori Gard

As I watched you with your sweet babies, realizing how difficult this stage of life is for mamas like you, I felt a twinge of sadness come over me. Your children are still at that stage of life where they want YOU and you alone. You have the monopoly on their attention and love.

Parents, We All Need A Little Support Sometimes

Amanda Brennan | Posted 07.14.2016 | Canada Parents
Amanda Brennan

Everyone struggles. Some struggle more than others, but that doesn't mean we can't support other parents. If someone tells you about their problem, no matter how silly or trivial you think it is compared to your own, or what other people deal with, support them. Lift them up. Say you understand how hard it must be for them, and acknowledge their feelings.

An Open Letter To My Children: Please Don't Judge

Her Magazine | Posted 07.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Her Magazine

You're processing the world around you, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. And as your mom, I'm doing my best to show you (and remind myself each day) how to bring light into this world each of those days. In the grocery store, at the park, in the classroom. We're in this together. We'll learn together. We'll fall together. We'll get up together.

Kind Words Can Go A Long Way

Erin Silver | Posted 06.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Erin Silver

I thought we'd go to a cottage in the summer, take our own trip to celebrate our 10th anniversary. I'd wanted to go to Japan. Now it feels like I'm counting backwards. I'm in the negative numbers, counting how many years I've been divorced. How many years we could have been married if only...

One Day I Will Miss Every Frustrating Parenting Moment

Vanessa Heron | Posted 06.22.2016 | Canada Parents
Vanessa Heron

I know there are going to be many, many more hard moments when I ask myself how much longer a certain behaviour of my children's is going to last. But with each of those hard moments that I want to end, there are a dozen precious moments that I want to hold onto for a lifetime.

The Parenting Secrets We Don't Share

Rebecca Beck | Posted 06.15.2016 | Canada Parents
Rebecca Beck

We all have dirty little secrets. You know, the kind that you would be mortified if anyone were ever to find out. Most people's deepest secrets are well kept. My parenting secrets are not. I have an autistic son with no filter and he ensures that no secret is safe in our house.