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What I Learned From My 'Cute' Parenting Moment

Lori Gard | Posted 03.27.2014 | Canada
Lori Gard

I just had a moment. Until I turn 40, I will not refer to such as a senior's moment. No, this was merely a parenting moment. A realization. As in one ...

My Daughter Almost Died Before I Found a Balance Between a Career and Motherhood

Julie Rusciolelli | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Julie Rusciolelli

I desperately searched the surroundings but she had vanished. 'Someone took my child' was all I said when I dialled 911. Rescue crews were already curbside, when my neighbour saw a bright pink jacket floating in the water, he found my daughter, pulled her out of a pond in the nearby golf course our house backs onto.

Parenting Perspectives: Blink- and the Day is Done

Lori Gard | Posted 11.26.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

My life is pretty manic most of the time. I operate mainly on stress-mode. Push the fast-forward button. Live like there's no tomorrow. And there ...

All Moms and Dads Must Know About 'The Casserole Card'

Lori Gard | Posted 09.30.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

So...let's talk about one of the best kept secrets that the parenting advice books will never touch: the art of pulling "the casserole card." That's when I compile all the gross leftovers. If I was to serve this delectable delight on a night other than which we were about to have the TIME OF OUR LIVES, it certainly would not fly. However, all this changes when we are about to embark on an EXCITING adventure.

Thirteen Things I Know Because I'm the Mother of a Teenager

Lori Gard | Posted 09.28.2013 | Canada
Lori Gard

My son is celebrating his 13th birthday this month. Here are 13 things I now know, that I didn't know then...and all because of becoming Sam's Mama.

Proof I'm a Parent

Lori Gard | Posted 08.04.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

A recent tweet caused me to reflectively ponder my parenting skills (or lack thereof), and to ask myself: What evidence is there to prove my adequacy for this profound responsibility we call parenting? So here they are. Ten evidences that I have actually "parented" in the last 24 hours...in descending order.

I May not Be a "Good Mother", but I am Good Enough

Lori Gard | Posted 06.25.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Confession time. Along with many other like-minded mothers out there, I concur: Greatness should not be the standard when it comes to mothering. On the contrary, I think it is okay -- dare I say desirable -- to instead be a good enough mother.

Who Are We to Judge Moms Who Need a Break?

Lori Gard | Posted 05.28.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

There is a picture of a mama and her kids at the park. The kids are happily playing on the playground equipment while the mom checks a message on her phone. What could she be doing? Could a very important phone call just have come in? And who are we to judge?

International Women's Day: Keep on Keeping on, Soldier

Lori Gard | Posted 05.08.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

That moment when you look at your hands, at your feet; and they look...old. When you look at your body and it seems flabby. When you look at your eyes, and they seem tired. That, my dear Mama, is the moment you realize. That being a mother is the hardest gig you've ever had to do. Harder than anything. Keep on keeping on, soldiers.

People Don't Want a Real Answer

Lori Gard | Posted 05.01.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

In general, people don't really want to know the real answer to tough questions about life.

Why Blame an Innocent Mother for Her Children's Murder?

Jane Tolmie | Posted 01.28.2013 | Canada
Jane Tolmie

On October 25, Marina Krim returned from taking her three-year-old daughter to the pool, to find her other two children -- Lulu and Leo -- stabbed to death in the bathtub of the family apartment in the Upper West Side. The nanny has since been charged with the murders. Many Internet responses have focused on mother-blaming, and especially on the mother's part-time labour outside the home. The father's labour is not discussed, just as his parenting skills are not criticized. This is misogynist victim-blaming. Cyberbullying has politics and here they revolve around contempt for women.

When Philosophies Converge (Because Good Mothers Show Up)

Lori Gard | Posted 06.27.2012 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Being a mother is just part of a woman's persona, not the be all and end all of a woman's life. Mothers need not check their goals, dreams and aspirations at the hospital door when they go to deliver. And for one to suggest that you might have days where you'd rather not be around your children -- and actually admit it out loud -- is okay. Most importantly, moms don't always have to like the job of being a mother. Because quite frankly, many don't.