The competition isn't won on coronation night, or the preliminary. The competition is won in the months of preparation prior. It's won in the hours spent in the gym and in personal development and refinement. Perhaps the most important element of preparation is studying. Knowing what it takes to win and studying those that had won before is where half the battle is won.
Making a comeback is about reclaiming your authenticity. It's your chance to shine brighter than you did before, because you are embodying a better version of yourself -- the YOU you were meant to be. Sometimes those qualities get lost, sometimes they get buried and sometimes they just need to mature.
As we go through life, we are often told to open ourselves up to opportunities, to not limit ourselves, to say "yes" to new experiences, to meeting new people and to stepping out of our comfort zone. People tell us that there's joy in abundance and that it's good to have it all. But there's power in saying "no."
Everyone deserves to have a day to feel special. Luxury can be associated with expensive outings, taste and experiences; however it can also be inspired by a sense of self worth and the way people make us feel. A life of luxury may seem out of your reach; but money isn't the only way to make you feel like you are worth thousands.
I believe that deep inside, all of us have something that eats away at us, something that just doesn't sit right. Maybe it's some trauma from your past, or hurtful words that still resonate, or even some "dis" ease you are currently living with. For me, it was coming to terms with sexual abuse in my childhood.
Being in business reminds me of dating and marriage. When you are first considering going into business for yourself, I liken it to the dating phase. When you decide to take that leap of faith, explore the opportunity thoroughly, decide it is right for you and walk down the aisle to open your business it is akin to taking that next step and making a long-term commitment.
The enthusiasm requirement is a biggie, because excitement is infectious. Cheerleaders can get worn out just like the adventurer they're supporting. When you've been whining for two weeks straight or copping out on doing what you've got to do to make it happen, they need to be so keen on your success that they'll keep pushing you right on through it.
You really, really want to quit your job, go live in Paris, take up belly dancing, dye your hair pink, or jump out of an airplane (with a parachute). But you can't because...Whatever you've been dreaming of but not actually doing, chances are you've got some really solid reasons why. Which would be fine if they were actually true.
If we expect our children to not listen to us -- whether it's going to bed, eating a meal or not hitting their brother -- then I'm going to guess that, surprise, they're not going to listen to us. By the same token, if in the work world we expect our employees to keep doing the same things over and over again, in an inefficient way, that's exactly what they're going to do.
On my desk is a glass paperweight with an important question carved on one side. "What would you do if you had no fear?" it says. Seeing the inquiry, a friend asked for my response, and without hesitation I answered, "Give up perfectionism." She casually suggested that that would be a good New Year's resolution, and I felt the fear rise in my chest. Could I be successful in the world without trying to attain perfection?
We all make choices in our lives every day -- some big, some small. We need to decide where to live, who to date, what job to take, how to brand ourselves...and we often base these decisions on short-term gratifications like what makes us happy for the moment, what seems more exciting or what is most profitable at the time. But I believe the key to success is focusing on long-term LIFE goals instead.
Significantly, people who had more power in the office were less likely to report feeling dirty when it came to networking, and engaged in it more often. That effect can make it harder to penetrate existing power structures, because it means those already in power are more comfortable with networking and continue to reinforce and advance their positions.
Of course we get sucked in when the pretty nutritionist tells us that losing the weight is as simple as 1-2-3! Optimistic, we watch her video. But despite what we want to believe, we know that being told what or how to eat isn't the solution. Being told what and how to eat does not help us lose weight and keep it off. It just doesn't work. Period.
I sat down this morning to write out the top 20 things I have learned in my life so far, but after writing down four items, I started to cry deep, intense tears. I released the emotion and it felt amazing. Writing this blog reminded me of the pain and suffering I had endured to awaken to this wisdom. This is my gift to you. Here are my top 20 tips for living a better life.
We're tormented by our obsession with weight. Losing weight is hard to do, and the overwhelming majority of us gain back whatever weight we lose (and then some). Every failed weight loss effort drags us deeper into depression. Loving thoughts breed acceptance and patience. Sometimes I stray from my chosen path and eat something that triggers my food addiction. Because I love the body I once had and don't fear returning to it, I'm able to respond to these slips in a healthy way. I accept that I've gone off the path. I forgive myself.
One of the main reasons why, for instance, weight loss efforts fail to such a high degree is that dieters routinely start out with unrealistic expectations. They look at what's being presented to them by commercial weight loss programs or popular television shows and anticipate similarly spectacular outcomes in their own lives.
"You'll never amount to anything. You'll never be much. You're a problem child." So he was told. And I had all but forgotten when she reminded me yet again, as we were talking just the other day, about the cruelty of words and how shattering they can be when ill-spoken. And he'll never forget those words.
It's the time we clean our closets to get rid of things that no longer work, hoping to add something bright and colourful. By following that same practice with our behaviours we can live a more expansive and rewarding life. Start by learning to say yes to your passions and no to things that get in the way, especially items on another's agenda!