Narcissism

Dad, Your Cruel Criticisms Still Haunt Me

Lenora Thompson | Posted 06.17.2016 | Canada Parents
Lenora Thompson

I was just a little girl, but you had a barbed tongue. Oh, you always couched your cruelty in humour. As if comedy was a disinfectant that redeems meanness. Time and again, I asked Mommy, "Please, tell Daddy to stop teasing me. It hurts my feelings." But you wouldn't or couldn't stop.

Toxic Mothers Don't Deserve Your Time On Mother's Day

Lenora Thompson | Posted 05.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Lenora Thompson

Who doesn't want to be close to their mother, especially on Mother's Day? But for thousands it's just not possible. Being with Mom hurts too much. Her "love" is toxic. It causes too much emotional pain. No time is this more controversial and guilt-inducing than on Mother's Day.

A Love Letter To My PMS

Lenora Thompson | Posted 04.13.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

One time I heard that menopause is the last chance a woman has to straighten out whatever isn't right in her life. It's her last time of insight into the reality that "all is not well in the kingdom." I wonder, dear PMS, if you aren't a microcosm of that concept. My anger may actually be an insight into truth.

These Fill-In-The-Blanks Show The Darkest Side Of Narcissism

Lenora Thompson | Posted 03.15.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

What if narcissism isn't what we assume it is? Yes, narcissists project an über-confident, egotistical image but most researchers believe this is merely a smokescreen to disguise extremely low or even non-existent self-esteem. I thought why not demonstrate it because actions speak louder than words.

Parents Who Are Jealous Of Their Kids

Lenora Thompson | Posted 03.07.2016 | Canada Parents
Lenora Thompson

What normal parent would be insanely jealous of their own child?! I never expected it and I certainly didn't want it. But there it was: jealousy. As plain as the nose on my face. It all started just after puberty. I was fourteen when Mom first accused me of trying to "be cute" for my own father. Need I add that it wasn't true? But your Mommy is always right, isn't she?

My Parents Killed My Self-Esteem - Now I'm Done Taking Criticism

Lenora Thompson | Posted 02.03.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

I was 14 and shocked by all the criticisms suddenly blind-siding me. They ranged from making me believe I was an (almost) slut to something as vague as, "Shake my hand and commit to 'trying harder.'" To this day I wonder how much harder I could try. I already had a 4.0 GPA.

Being More Compassionate Can Help You Succeed In 2016

Erica Berman | Posted 01.05.2016 | Canada Living
Erica Berman

Here's the thing. If we can convince ourselves that most people are doing the best they can, then eventually we have to realize that about ourselves. That, my friends, is the key. Because if someone is doing the best they can, can you really ask anything more?

How To Drive Your Daughter Bat-Crap Crazy

Lenora Thompson | Posted 01.04.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

If, by some miracle, she makes it to age eighteen still sound of mind, it's time to bask in her glory! Sure, throw the big graduation party, but make sure it's all about you, baby!

Let's Stop Enabling The Meddlers In Our Lives

Lenora Thompson | Posted 12.17.2015 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

This Christmas, their laser-beam eyes are focused on you. You're the dish of the day. You're gonna be stuffed with advice and ladled with criticism. Because they can't stand themselves. Deep in their souls, they feel like failures. What better antidote than subtly belittling you via the mechanism of meddling.

Let's Stop Freaking Out When Company Is Coming

Lenora Thompson | Posted 12.08.2015 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

Company is coming! Get rid of the couches. We can't let people know we SIT! ...There cannot be any sign of LIVING in this house... I want this place looking like a new Mediterranean fusion restaurant by noon... This is a dishtowel. I need a hand towel. What are we? Barbarians!?!" Does this ring any bells?

Status Update: You're A Narcissist

Posted 05.26.2015 | Canada Living

You may want to think twice before hitting the update button on your next Facebook post. You might come across a little narcissistic. That’s accordi...

Overconfidence Works Even Better Than Confidence Does

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 08.29.2014 | Canada Living

Between two people of equal talent, over-confidence may be the deciding factor in who will be more influential, even if it's pure self-deception, acco...

Want To Figure Out If Someone Is A Narcissist? Just Ask

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 08.06.2014 | Canada Living

Researchers in the U.S. conducted 11 experiments involving a grand total of 2,200 participants and found that identifying narcissists is as simple as ...

These People Have A Big Advantage In Job Interviews

CBC | Posted 08.18.2014 | Canada Business

Narcissists or shameless self-promoters do better in job interviews than more modest personalities, a study by University of British Columbia research...

In Defense of Selfies

Lauren Messervey | Posted 06.10.2014 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

If I may be honest, I love taking selfies. I think if you like how you look one day, you have the right to show it. You have the right to like it on Facebook. By God, if others like it, they have the right to like it on Facebook too, and you have the right to like them for liking it. If a selfie makes you happy, take it and tweet, Instragram and Facebook the holy hell out of it!

Are Hovering Parents Breeding Narcissistic Kids?

BabyPost | Posted 05.20.2014 | Canada Living
BabyPost

A new study suggests that because we played outside, away from our parents' sight, we were likely a generation of fewer narcissists. That's because, according to the study, free play breeds empathy and lack of it removes a valuable learning opportunity for children to care about what other children think and feel.

How To Know If You're Dating A Narcissist

Natasha Koifman | Posted 04.20.2014 | Canada Living
Natasha Koifman

They often behave how they think they should, not how they really feel. This kind of pretense can include false modesty, politeness and courtesy... but also pompousness and extroversion. Narcissists surround themselves with sycophants and admirers. The flipside of this is that narcissists have incredible envy of other people's successes.

5 Signs Your Divorce Will be High Conflict (And How to Survive)

Susan Valentine | Posted 03.31.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

Divorce is ranked above going to jail or losing a family member as the second most stressful life event you can face. In fact, the death of a spouse or child are the only events considered more stressful. And yet, this doesn't even take into account what divorce is like for those who are separating from someone with a high-conflict personality.

SavvyMom Roundup: Tech Timeout, Social Media Narcissism and More

Minnow Hamilton | Posted 08.13.2013 | Canada Living
Minnow Hamilton

A tech family challenge, First World problems are not so bad, social media and narcissism, Father's Day and finding happiness -- that's what caught my attention this week.

Social Media: An Epidemic of Narcissism

Nicole Forrester | Posted 02.11.2012 | Canada Living
Nicole Forrester

The problem with social media is it's pretty narcissistic. The various social media channels seem to beckon for updates such as "What's going on? Where you have been?" But what is the motivation? Are we genuinely sharing? Or, is this our centre stage?

You Say Facebook, I Say Fakebook

Marc Skulnick | Posted 12.14.2011 | Canada
Marc Skulnick

If you're thinking, "Well, if Facebook bores you that much, don't use it," believe me, I've tried. I "deactivated" my account, but a couple of months later you're curious to see what everyone has been up to and log on, ostensibly to have a quick nose about.