It's sometimes easy to feel that our world favours those who are more extroverted, that we need to be outgoing and gregarious to succeed in the workplace and in our social lives. You see, I've always categorized myself as an introvert, which may seem at odds with my industry -- after all PR is about being "out there" a whole lot.
Nowadays, my purchases aren't governed by external ideas of what the "right" thing to buy is, but what feels right to me. As we start a new season, I think it's a perfect time to explore something new, to give yourself a fresh start, in some small way. For me, it's really about finding and following your own heart, listening to your own inner voice...
"Never give up!" "Work at it." "Pick yourself up, try again." We give such pep talks to encourage each other to overcome failure. On the other hand, sometimes the most liberating and empowering thing we can do is allow ourselves to give up on something that's simply not working. Quitting isn't always a negative thing.
When it comes to beauty products, it seems like we're inundated with new innovations and ingredients and -- frankly -- it can be difficult to keep up, and to know what's real and what's a lot of spin. I thought I'd share some of my own top picks that have made it into my medicine cabinet as trusted additions to my regimen!
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I often look to quotations for affirmation or comfort or inspiration. So, with that, I thought I'd share some of my favourite quotes! I hope they move and inspire you, as they do me every day. For example, "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."
Sex and the City has been on my mind lately. In particular, that season four episode where Carrie is asked to walk in a fashion show. Because I'm about to put myself in that exact position -- walking the runway for Dare to Wear Love! Now, the task of getting runway-ready!
We all go through phases with our career. No matter how much you love your job, there are times when a certain ennui sets in. But how do you rekindle the fire when you've gone through some career lows? Here are some of my tips.
It's no secret that I have built my wardrobe on renewed and renewable staples and a mostly monochromatic palette. The truth is that no matter how much you have got your style figured, it simply can't stay the same... even the most basic basics evolve over time and you could very quickly look outdated if you didn't adopt new cuts, materials, hemlines, heel height. So what's on my radar for Spring?
I have to admit, I am a through-and-through romantic and, although my love life has had its ups and downs (whose hasn't!?), I like Valentine's Day. But love isn't an easy concept. For me it's something that has changed as I myself have changed. In each relationship and decade of life, love plays a different role.
I travel a lot for work. One of the ways I've lessened the stress of all this flying is by only travelling with carry-on when I'm travelling for work or short trips. It takes discipline and, of course, there are rules and restrictions to follow, but it is doable! Here's how I pull it off.
It seems like the New Year and its associated resolutions are ruled by my head -- all the things I know I should be doing, whether they're external or internal changes. But my birthday is ruled by my heart -- I feel my way through it -- a whole year's worth of gratitude, support, optimism, love and friendship.
My beloved dog, my dear friend, Deecoy passed away last week. My heart is broken. If you have loved and lost a pet you will not need me to argue that this is a legitimate form of grief. Deecoy was part of my life for 11 years.
January can be a tough month for many people. Once the early optimism of fresh-starts and resolutions has faded, many feel like they've been unceremoniously dumped in the darkest month of the year. But I think it's a month you can make whatever you want. Here are some tips for avoiding those January blahs.
We traditionally associate the New Year with a fresh start. Many of us have bad habits we want to reform, or changes we found difficult to make in the normal course of our days. My own resolutions this year aren't about eating more protein or taking more spinning classes, they're about nurturing my very soul and being, and about creating a state of mind where I'll make better choices about everything.
The holidays are a time for many kinds of traditions. Whether it's the lighting of the menorah or the trimming of the tree or reuniting with friends too long unseen. And, of course, this is a time of year for watching movies and singing songs. And while we spend a lot of the rest of the year chasing the next "new thing," around the holidays, most of us revisit our old favourites... watching movies that take us back to our childhood.
The Christmas season is a time when our focus narrows to a shorter time-frame. Right now, we're all preparing for what happens between now and December 31. Maybe Christmas is a good time to practice living more in the present, being fully there at those gatherings of family and friends.
In stories and movies, in our own lives too, we make a big deal of romance. But while romance can ebb and flow, friendship is constant. I think as we get older we really grow to appreciate the qualities of good friends as something truly special. And yet, how often do we pause to really appreciate our friendships?
It's already November. Soon, we'll all begin looking forward to a new year, forming new hopes and goals around our calendar year. But, it's also a time to reflect on what we accomplished, to bank those new learnings and embrace the person we've become in 2012. Here are some of the things that I learned in 2012 and that I'll carry forward to the next year.
Every season in Canada has its positive side, but we all have one season that's more difficult for us -- whether it's summer's blistering heat, or winter's cruel cold. For me, it's the short, dark days of fall and winter. Here are some of the ways I stay positive and happy when the thermometer starts to dip and the sun's rays begin to wane.
Many of the women I know, myself included, spend their twenties and thirties struggling to live up to the ideal of having it all. When it's physically ideal to have children, most of us are off concentrating on other things: travelling, establishing careers and looking for that person to share it all with. Your twenties are really the time, if not to act, then to consider and make crucial decisions about what you want your family and future to look like. Instead, most of us defer those decisions, not realizing how fast time flies.
Let's be honest, sometimes we're given good advice but we ignore it. Other times, we put too much trust in the guidance of others at the risk of ignoring our own inner voice. With that said, I thought I'd share some of the best advice I've ever received and some advice I never received, or didn't listen to, that I really wish I had! Hopefully, some of you benefit from these!
I don't believe "balance" is a matter of compartmentalizing work and life, but of making the two integrate seamlessly. And while many find that technology is one of the major things hindering their work-life balance, for me it's a major tool in enabling a healthy work-life integration. If you're struggling to maintain relationships throughout your busy days, or over a long distance, here are some of my favourite things to do.
Much as we're wrapped up in the day-to-day, most of us think about the big picture: what we want to achieve and what a "good life" really means to us. In recent years, it seems everybody has been talking about their bucket list -- that laundry list of things they want to do before they "kick the bucket."
While the Toronto International Film Festival is a time for celebrating the best in film (and fashion!), it is also a time for artists and others within the industry to come together and show their support for causes that matter to them. For me, that cause is Artists for Peace and Justice -- a non-profit organization that encourages peace and social justice and addresses issues of poverty around the world.
If you're the kind of woman who literally wonders what to wear some days, maybe you're missing some of those anchor pieces that make it easy to build a variety of outfits from. Once you know what your staple pieces are, you'll have an easy foundation for dressing for any occasion, day or night.
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My fear of flying grew into a phobia and this phobia became an obstacle to living the kind of life I wanted for myself. I couldn't get on a plane without taking my anti-anxiety medication. My fear of flying no longer belonged in the "quirk" category -- it made me feel anxious and out-of-control. Those feelings of blind panic took over my whole mind and body and I was unable to override them with conscious thought or reason.
It may be over 30 degrees outside, but my mind has already turned to fall fashion. It's one of my favourite fashion seasons. Truth be told, I've already started making purchases. The early bird catches the worm after all! From leather, to lace and all the fun fall styles in between -- here's what is on my radar (and wish list!!)
If you were to give yourself a grade, what would it be? An A+? B-? Where are you falling short? I'm not talking about grading yourself against some imaginary version of yourself... we're talking about the real you. How good a version of yourself are you?
Smash hits come and go, and we all know about the one-hit wonder. But the music that really endures usually does so because it hits some kind of universal truth. The messages in the songs of the Rolling Stones have long resonated with me. Their 50th anniversary got me thinking about some of those classics, how they stand the test of time and still speak to me about those lessons we all need to learn in matters of love and life! Here are some of my favourites.
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Letting go of the past is easier said than done. So many of us are hung up on our past -- on the love we felt we had but lost, on past behaviour that has created a certain pattern in our life that is unhealthy or the opportunity that we missed out on. But, we also know it's an unproductive space to dwell in, not only because it leads nowhere, but because it might actually hold you back from a better future. Maybe even from your destiny.
I've always loved the idea of a signature scent, something that embodied me and became a personal statement. Fragrance reacts differently on different people, so how your signature scent smells on you and to you is different than how it smells in the bottle. That means that even a very popular fragrance can become highly personalized -- it won't smell the same on you as it does on other people.
We're told a lack of work-life balance is what causes stress, burn-out and in some cases the demise of marriages and relationships. What we need isn't better work-life balance but better work-life integration. It's not about either/or -- you really can have both!