We thrive happily and co-operatively in healthy social environments. As you think of how your family might be stronger in 2013, I suggest you invite all the stakeholders to participate in making your resolutions together, and here's how. Have a family meeting and ask the kids these questions.
I am not a strong believer in New Year's resolutions. However, it became clear to me as 2012 was winding down, that I had some cleaning up to do. 2013 is going to be the year that I truly show up for. Why don't we all make that deal with ourselves when the clock strikes midnight on Monday night?
One of the easiest ways we end up wasting time is when we thought our friends would feel bad if we didn't always make ourselves available to them when they were free. Setting limits is about giving people what they want at a time when it is good for both of you.
We spend much of our mental energy beating ourselves up for the things we are not, for the times we have failed or disappointed ourselves. I think we could put that energy to far better use by changing the focus to find some things we are proud of.
You create a lot of unhappiness for yourself out of your impatience. Why not give yourself a break, enjoy the present moment and have more reasonable, realistic expectations of how long things should take? You'll be much happier, less anxious and more competent if you do this.
As glittering decorations, twinkling lights and snow-and-ice displays roll out for the holidays, sparkling wines also add warm, fuzzy -- and, of course, fizzy -- feelings to the season. Here is a quick pre-season primer on what's out there for all bubbly budgets.