Feelings are great, when they're positive. We smile and high-five to share our exuberance. As co-parents after divorce, we're more in the negative territory at first -- anger, sadness, longing. Who wants to feel those? Easier to ignore them, or distract ourselves with a glass of wine or a movie until the feelings go away.
Experts say you shouldn't praise children. I'm no psychologist, but I think they're wrong. Kids absolutely need to be praised. They deserve to be celebrated -- for the right reasons. I don't beat on to my son about how smart or handsome he is (though of course I'm biased on both counts). But when I know he has done something especially challenging, I don't skimp on the praise.
As my professional life blossomed so did the work expectations and long hours that I needed to put into my demanding career. It was an inverse relationship in the making: the more I worked, the less time I had for personal things in my life like athletics, friends and relationships. Something had to give. And sadly it was volunteering.
Who hasn't gone through playground drama, right? What I didn't realize is how this situation was making daughter feel low about herself and her ability to handle her emotions on the playground. I think like most parents I wasn't sure how much to ask her about stress. Culturally, many of us grew up with more conversations about academics and marks than conversations about feelings and stress.
I believe that it is normal to eat candy in moderation any time of the year. It is also normal to eat a little more after collecting the spoils of Halloween. Sure, it contains no vitamins or minerals or added physical benefits to our lives but eating a treat isn't about maximizing antioxidant intake.
Let's be clear, when the glass is half-full, it is still half empty. Even when the glass is 100 per cent full, it is on it's way to being half-empty. I live by this mantra. So you won't find me posting inspirational quotes with sunrises in the background (up at sunrise -- blech), or putting a cheery face on an difficult situation.
No kid comes with a guidebook. Kids with developmental disabilities of all kinds, both physical and neurological, are as diverse in thought, behaviour, strengths and weaknesses as their neuro-typical peers. With the added anxiety of raising very different children from what is expected, stress levels are higher, parenting is harder and divorce runs rampant among special needs parents. That is why it is so important for them to remain on the same side.
Back to school is right around the corner, causing moms and dads across Canada to gear up for the big race -- the race against the clock! Any parent who has a child in school, knows that back to school mornings feel more like participating in a marathon than enjoying a relaxing start to the day. To help parents organize a stress-free back to school routine, Professional Organizers in Canada are offering five easy steps that will have your mornings running smoothly.