Parenting Advice

Why Do Moms Judge Each Other?

masalamommas | Posted 09.08.2013 | Canada Living
masalamommas

Having a child can be overwhelming, in every possible way. Especially if the child is your first born. You see, kids don't come with a manual. You have to mostly trust your gut, take some advice when needed and sometimes rely on the Internet for a huge chunk of information. I used the internet to Google "How to bathe a three-day-old" because I didn't have much help after my child was born.

Do My Kids Even Like Me?

Melissa Carr | Posted 08.27.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

Sometimes I think I must be a really nasty, boring, bee-otch to be around. They're growing up fast, I just want my kids to want to spend time with me. I want them to be excited when they know we have an entire day together. I want them to think I'm the best thing since sliced bread, but I think those times are starting to disappear.

Want to be a Great Dad? Kenny Rogers Will Tell You How

Melissa Carr | Posted 08.18.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

Having kids is a bit of a crap-shoot. Some people are born parents, others struggle significantly -- and a few (let's face it) can barely look after themselves, let alone another human being. What I think is one of the biggest gambles of becoming a new father, however, is not knowing how becoming a mother is going to affect your partner. It's funny because, the lyrics of Kenny Rogers' famous song, The Gambler, really apply here.

Overscheduled Kids and Parental Guilt

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 08.18.2013 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

The trend towards kids having rigorous schedules is a relatively new phenomenon. Perhaps a result of the pervasive guilt that so many of us share because of our need to work longer hours, we've put our kids in as many lessons as possible, some for practical reasons (after-school lessons and sports practice keeps our kids busy until we can leave work and pick them up) and some...well...not so much.

Real Men Play with Barbie Dolls

Steve Geyer | Posted 04.08.2014 | Canada Living
Steve Geyer

There we sat, changing their outfits, brushing their "hair," with me doing my best falsetto voice, as we all got ready for the prom. My daughter, Kirsten, was giggling at me not so much for the voices, but for the fact she had put a lovely purple bow in my hair that matched Malibu Barbie's hair ribbon. We were having a blast!

My Main Man, My Dad

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 08.16.2013 | Canada
Jennifer Pellegrini

I've been giving a lot of thought to Father's Day this year. A friend recently lost her dad. I'm sure Father's Day won't be an easy day for her and I ...

Today, I Reclaim My Boobs

Andrea Traynor | Posted 08.13.2013 | Canada Living
Andrea Traynor

Two summers ago I developed the rash of all rashes. There was only one medication the doctors told me would make it go away: prednisone. A steroid that crosses into breast milk. Breastfeeding was too important to me, so, I declined. That is -- until today. After almost 30 consecutive months of breastfeeding, I reclaimed my boobs.

Offering Mothering Advice to Myself

Lori Gard | Posted 07.30.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

When on a plane, they always tell you on the in-flight safety instructions to put your own gas mask on before you help the person next to you. And the same advice applies to parenting. Before you kill yourself being a parent, ask yourself this: "Have I brushed my own hair today?"

It Should Go Without Saying, But Don't Name Your Baby "Hitler"

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 07.27.2013 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

I'm all for uniqueness when it comes to naming a child. After all, no one wants to give their child a name that will be shared by three or more kids in their grade school classroom. That being said, parents still need to consider certain parameters when making a decision that will affect their child for many years to come. Case in point: the poor child incredulously named "Adolph Hitler Campbell."

How To Give Your Teen Dating Advice When You've Never Dated

masalamommas | Posted 07.21.2013 | Canada
masalamommas

Like many Indian girls, I wasn't allowed to date when I was a teenager. But today, it's been a different childhood for my 18-year-old. In fact things are very different in my household. My husband and I do our best to cope with the reality that she wants to date, even though we never had the same opportunity as teens.

Would The Circus Buy My Four-Year-Old?

Melissa Carr | Posted 07.08.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

There are days when I feel like there is an alien invading my little boy's body...who is this demon? His sister went through a bit of the same at this age. Willful. Stubborn. Naughty. My darling son is all this with the added bonus of also being completely irrational (no...you cannot wear your basketball shorts out in the freezing rain), disobedient (I already told you, you are not allowed to eat Easter eggs for breakfast) and violent (if I had a dollar for every time I've gotten a foot in the boob...).

A Letter to My Childless Self

Andrea Traynor | Posted 06.18.2013 | Canada Living
Andrea Traynor

Dear Andrea, circa 2007: You decided to wait until your 30s to have children. Good for you! You don't understand it yet, but one day you will be "that mom." The one who lets her kids watch TV for hours so she can get the house ready for a party. The one who gives up on wiping a snotty nose while out in public.

That's Right: I Yell at my Kids

Heather Korol | Posted 06.04.2013 | Canada Living
Heather Korol

Some families have a chore board or a swear jar -- we have a yelling chart. Some days I have the most blocks on the yelling chart but some days I win the best mommy ribbon. I know my mothering isn't prefect but I'm not failing either. I'm trying.

Words of Wisdom to My Teenager From a Been There, Done That Mom

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 05.16.2013 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

It's so hard to believe that 15 years ago, your father and I were introduced to someone who would change our lives in the most amazing way possible. Anyhow, what I'm doing here is putting together some things to keep in mind as you go through the next year -- and decade.

Give Me Drugs! The Great Epidural Debate

Melissa Carr | Posted 05.08.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

Getting an epidural is a very individual decision and probably one of the first ones that we, as mothers, feel conflicted about. I wonder if this is due to our actual expectations around our child's birth or if it is how we think we will be perceived if we opt in (or out) of using drugs to manage labour.

My Kid's a Sore Loser, and I Blame Myself

Sandra Charron | Posted 05.04.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

I take full accountability for the fact that my kids are hardly ever...nay...are NEVER able to take accountability for their failures. When my son came out of the dressing room, his first words were, "We lost because the refs weren't calling any penalties on the other team." My husband stopped in his tracks, turned to face our little forlorn, sore loser, and said, "No. You lost because you guys stopped skating in the second period."

People Don't Want a Real Answer

Lori Gard | Posted 05.01.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

In general, people don't really want to know the real answer to tough questions about life.

Bucket List For Kids: Are You F*#king Kidding Me?

Melissa Carr | Posted 04.28.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

This time last year, I read an article about a bucket list for kids. Are we, as parents, really so buttoned up, paranoid and regimented that our kids are really no longer just "going outside to play?" Not the case for my kids. My mom has a saying, "a dirty child is a happy child." I love this rule of thumb and it is so true.

Why Women Judge Other Women More Than Men

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.28.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

My stay-at-home friends and I are always ready to slay the reputation of our fellow women in the quintessential ploy to be the superior mothers. Why is it that in a male-dominated world, women are so quick to cut each other down, rather than speak up in defense of one another?

Were Parents Better Then or Now?

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.23.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

I grew up in the era of Tough Love. There was no pretending in my home. My mother called it as she saw it, and what she saw wasn't always pretty. I've spent years meticulously choosing politically correct ways of disciplining my children. Now I know exactly where I went wrong.

Why Are We Afraid to Teach Kids to Say Vagina?

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.20.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

Watching The View this morning the controversy whirred around reproductive parts, and what we, as parents, should be teaching our children to call them. The consensus: It just doesn't seem right to hear a little girl referring to her breasts. Boobies is much cuter. Because we're concerned about the cuteness of these body parts on a seven-year-old?

I Was Going to be a Perfect Parent...Until I Had Kids

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.14.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a list of all the "dos and don'ts" required for effectively achieving the status of perfect parent. As I swapped my hopes for a career in nursing, and instead chose countless hours of time bonding with my children, in those early days of motherhood when I was stumbling over the educational toys strewn about my home, nobody could have convinced me then that I would become what I am today.

A Mother's Story: How to Love Your Angsty Pre-Teen

Lori Gard | Posted 03.12.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

More words were exchanged between us two just the day before. Trying to sort out the tangled web of emotions from the days prior. He, with a hoodie pulled over his face. Me, raw emotions and bundled nerves pleading for answers. Both of us feeling raw and exposed. On a road of good intentions, going nowhere fast.

Savvy Parenting Resolutions to Keep in 2013

Minnow Hamilton | Posted 03.12.2013 | Canada Living
Minnow Hamilton

Lighten up, sister. Consuming yourself with keeping a super-clean house and the kids cutely dressed, you'll lose sight of what's really important. The kids won't remember the clean counters, but they will remember your belly laughs as they ran around the room naked.

Do I Have to Lose Myself to Be a Mother?

Emelia Symington Fedy | Posted 03.02.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Emelia Symington Fedy

I am trying to understand why my old, cool friends have gotten so high strung and opinionated after becoming parents. In fact they actually seem to be shells of their past selves. With no energy to do yoga, or write or think about creativity or their dreams because now they are intent on micro-managing their child's every interaction. Am I destined to do the same thing?