Parenting Advice

How To Give Your Teen Dating Advice When You've Never Dated

masalamommas | Posted 07.21.2013 | Canada
masalamommas

Like many Indian girls, I wasn't allowed to date when I was a teenager. But today, it's been a different childhood for my 18-year-old. In fact things are very different in my household. My husband and I do our best to cope with the reality that she wants to date, even though we never had the same opportunity as teens.

Would The Circus Buy My Four-Year-Old?

Melissa Carr | Posted 07.08.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

There are days when I feel like there is an alien invading my little boy's body...who is this demon? His sister went through a bit of the same at this age. Willful. Stubborn. Naughty. My darling son is all this with the added bonus of also being completely irrational (no...you cannot wear your basketball shorts out in the freezing rain), disobedient (I already told you, you are not allowed to eat Easter eggs for breakfast) and violent (if I had a dollar for every time I've gotten a foot in the boob...).

A Letter to My Childless Self

Andrea Traynor | Posted 06.18.2013 | Canada Living
Andrea Traynor

Dear Andrea, circa 2007: You decided to wait until your 30s to have children. Good for you! You don't understand it yet, but one day you will be "that mom." The one who lets her kids watch TV for hours so she can get the house ready for a party. The one who gives up on wiping a snotty nose while out in public.

That's Right: I Yell at my Kids

Heather Korol | Posted 06.04.2013 | Canada Living
Heather Korol

Some families have a chore board or a swear jar -- we have a yelling chart. Some days I have the most blocks on the yelling chart but some days I win the best mommy ribbon. I know my mothering isn't prefect but I'm not failing either. I'm trying.

Words of Wisdom to My Teenager From a Been There, Done That Mom

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 05.16.2013 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

It's so hard to believe that 15 years ago, your father and I were introduced to someone who would change our lives in the most amazing way possible. Anyhow, what I'm doing here is putting together some things to keep in mind as you go through the next year -- and decade.

Give Me Drugs! The Great Epidural Debate

Melissa Carr | Posted 05.08.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

Getting an epidural is a very individual decision and probably one of the first ones that we, as mothers, feel conflicted about. I wonder if this is due to our actual expectations around our child's birth or if it is how we think we will be perceived if we opt in (or out) of using drugs to manage labour.

My Kid's a Sore Loser, and I Blame Myself

Sandra Charron | Posted 05.04.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

I take full accountability for the fact that my kids are hardly ever...nay...are NEVER able to take accountability for their failures. When my son came out of the dressing room, his first words were, "We lost because the refs weren't calling any penalties on the other team." My husband stopped in his tracks, turned to face our little forlorn, sore loser, and said, "No. You lost because you guys stopped skating in the second period."

People Don't Want a Real Answer

Lori Gard | Posted 05.01.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

In general, people don't really want to know the real answer to tough questions about life.

Bucket List For Kids: Are You F*#king Kidding Me?

Melissa Carr | Posted 04.28.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

This time last year, I read an article about a bucket list for kids. Are we, as parents, really so buttoned up, paranoid and regimented that our kids are really no longer just "going outside to play?" Not the case for my kids. My mom has a saying, "a dirty child is a happy child." I love this rule of thumb and it is so true.

Why Women Judge Other Women More Than Men

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.28.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

My stay-at-home friends and I are always ready to slay the reputation of our fellow women in the quintessential ploy to be the superior mothers. Why is it that in a male-dominated world, women are so quick to cut each other down, rather than speak up in defense of one another?

Were Parents Better Then or Now?

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.23.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

I grew up in the era of Tough Love. There was no pretending in my home. My mother called it as she saw it, and what she saw wasn't always pretty. I've spent years meticulously choosing politically correct ways of disciplining my children. Now I know exactly where I went wrong.

Why Are We Afraid to Teach Kids to Say Vagina?

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.20.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

Watching The View this morning the controversy whirred around reproductive parts, and what we, as parents, should be teaching our children to call them. The consensus: It just doesn't seem right to hear a little girl referring to her breasts. Boobies is much cuter. Because we're concerned about the cuteness of these body parts on a seven-year-old?

I Was Going to be a Perfect Parent...Until I Had Kids

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.14.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a list of all the "dos and don'ts" required for effectively achieving the status of perfect parent. As I swapped my hopes for a career in nursing, and instead chose countless hours of time bonding with my children, in those early days of motherhood when I was stumbling over the educational toys strewn about my home, nobody could have convinced me then that I would become what I am today.

A Mother's Story: How to Love Your Angsty Pre-Teen

Lori Gard | Posted 03.12.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

More words were exchanged between us two just the day before. Trying to sort out the tangled web of emotions from the days prior. He, with a hoodie pulled over his face. Me, raw emotions and bundled nerves pleading for answers. Both of us feeling raw and exposed. On a road of good intentions, going nowhere fast.

Savvy Parenting Resolutions to Keep in 2013

Minnow Hamilton | Posted 03.12.2013 | Canada Living
Minnow Hamilton

Lighten up, sister. Consuming yourself with keeping a super-clean house and the kids cutely dressed, you'll lose sight of what's really important. The kids won't remember the clean counters, but they will remember your belly laughs as they ran around the room naked.

Do I Have to Lose Myself to Be a Mother?

Emelia Symington Fedy | Posted 03.02.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Emelia Symington Fedy

I am trying to understand why my old, cool friends have gotten so high strung and opinionated after becoming parents. In fact they actually seem to be shells of their past selves. With no energy to do yoga, or write or think about creativity or their dreams because now they are intent on micro-managing their child's every interaction. Am I destined to do the same thing?

SavvyMom Roundup: Remembering Sandy Hook

Minnow Hamilton | Posted 02.18.2013 | Canada
Minnow Hamilton

I planned to write about Christmas today. Specifically, what I want for Christmas. But it doesn't seem right when that's not at all what caught my attention this week. What's in my head and my heart, on my Facebook feed and Twitter stream, in my inbox and in so many conversations I have had is the horrors and devastation from the Newtown, Connecticut shootings of last Friday.

Don't Let Your Teens Text Something They'll Regret

Erika Katz | Posted 02.04.2013 | Canada Living
Erika Katz

The cyber world is new territory and for now, parents must improvise when dealing with these modern obstacles to raising a teen. Between the new culture of sexting and social media sites like Facebook, teen self-worth is in danger. Here's how you can help your child navigate the cyber world.

Let Your Child Handle the "Mean Girl"

Tracie Wagman | Posted 01.29.2013 | Canada Living
Tracie Wagman

It's completely normal want to protect your kids when they come home crying because someone was blatantly mean to them. But isn't it true that dealing with these situations helps build character? And if they can't deal with these situations and only rely on us, aren't we setting them up for failure in the future?

Are Parents Scared Their Punishments Will Go Viral?

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 01.20.2013 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

When it comes to discipline, many parents have taken a large step backwards, and technology is to blame. In this day and age of smart phone journalism, YouTube, Twitter and Facebook shares, parents have become wary and hesitant of punishing their children in case their actions at any moment are recorded and uploaded to a willing audience in a matter of seconds.

I'll Admit it: I Use Santa to Keep the Kids in Line

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 01.19.2013 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

I've been using the power of Santa Claus for a few weeks now, and things are looking good. For maximum effectiveness, the use of Santa and his omnipresence is good for the window directly following Halloween until December 25. During this time, I enjoy the increased attentiveness, dearth of meltdowns and general calm that precedes Christmas day.

What These 10 Classic Parenting Phrases Really Mean

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 01.14.2013 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

We've all heard them. Those annoying phrases that our parents said to us growing up and now that we're parents ourselves, we've decided to inflict them our own kids. The reality is that the true meanings behind these messages that parents tell their kids are often not as straightforward as they appear to be. Following are the top 10 phrases that parents use on their kids, and what they really mean.

10 Things Nobody Told Me About Having Boys!

Jenna Em | Posted 01.13.2013 | Canada Living
Jenna Em

I sometimes wonder if I was properly prepared for having five kids, four of whom are little boys. After all, no one handed me the instructions manual that explained what makes boys tick! So, I've decided to write the Cole's Notes version, just for you! Share it if you know someone who also never received the manual!

Getting Your Children to Do Their Homework -- Minus the Headache!

Jenna Em | Posted 12.25.2012 | Canada Living
Jenna Em

Our daily routine was very predictable: my son would arrive home from school, he and his siblings would be given a nutritious snack, and then it would be homework time. That's when the tantrums, rage and complaints would begin. Common complaints were that I was SO mean and unfair, or "torturing" him to do his homework! Here are some tips I have used to get my son to do his homework.

How Amanda Todd Affected Mothers

Minnow Hamilton | Posted 12.18.2012 | Canada Living
Minnow Hamilton

I don't really want to mention the horrifying tragedy of Amanda Todd's story, but I will because teen suicide and cyberbullying has to stop. These difficult issues have taken the mom media by storm lately, prompting discussion on how we can all help -- are legislative changes required or will more basic community changes make a difference