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Play to your strengths, always.
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And what you can do about it.
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The complex nature of parenting together is a universal experience.
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"Put away your cowbells. They don't belong in the arena."
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"Children need to be occupied, they need structure, they need predictability," the experts tell us. Heaven help you if you don't make sure to keep those sticky little hands busy between late June and Labour Day every year. After all, children need structure right? No they don't.
If your parenting needs to evolve, expert Alyson Schafer is here to help.
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Do your kids need to be scheduled every minute of the day or do you prefer they play in the grass and get a little dirty?
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Alyson Schafer takes a look at modern parenting, revealing what we're doing wrong.
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Over 50 years of research has revealed there are four main parenting styles, ranging from authoritative to hands-off. So, why the big range? The way we parent relates to the values we want our kids to have -- the things we want to instill in them most.
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Forget the mommy wars. Companies pit us against each other and sell more products. Once we realize that mommy wars don't exist and that we are all actually just trying to do whatever works best for us we can focus on talking about our differences and opening ourselves up to what others are doing and have to say.
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In a recent article, I described four personality priorities that dictate how we behave: comfort, control, mastery/excellence and approval. While each personality type has benefits to parenting, eac...
Parenting expert Alyson Schafer describes how your style helps your kids!
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We all thought starting a family was the most romantic thing we could do as a couple. Making a baby is the ultimate act of love. During our pregnancy our partners kiss our belly, as we assemble the nu...
Here we are now in 2014 with the pendulum having swung so far to one side that our kids are actually suffering from our over-involved parenting style. By looking back through history, we can see what works and what doesn't, but usually it's a trip down our own memory lane that can guide us best.
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You think that kids of celebrities have it easy? Think again. Sting's surprising announcement that he's not leaving any of his vast fortune to his children was a shock to many. How could this multimillionaire leave his kids to have to *gasp* work for a living? It just didn't seem right.
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Dolphin parents are not authoritarian pushing parents or hovering Tiger parents (who stifle internal motivation) nor are we permissive spineless Jellyfish (who fail to cultivate impulse control), we recognize we are authority figures and use guidance, role modelling, and a balanced lifestyle to ensure the development of internal motivation, impulse control, and independence.
My mom was not an over-controlling, overbearing tiger mom. Nor was she a permissive, directionless jellyfish mom. My mom was the balance of these extremes and was firm yet flexible. She had rules and expectations -- including clearly expecting us to do well in academics with respectful behaviour. Yet, she also valued our freedom to be kids, individual passions, and independent choices.
Being a good parent isn't always about supporting your child in their endeavours no matter what. Was it better that we showed our children our support even though we knew the probable outcome, or would it have been a more prudent decision to have been honest with them from the outset, saving them from wasting time and worse -- the inevitable disappointment of failure?
For those of us who have been there, the thought of your child spending the night at someone else's home can be quite anxiety-producing. After all, we won't be there to watch over them, make sure they're safe. Here are the five questions parents should ask before sending their child to a sleepover.
Children need to look up to their parents and have some degree of reverence and respect for them in order to truly take home the lessons that their mothers and fathers try so hard to teach them. For this and many other reasons, I won't be revealing my deepest, darkest feelings to my elementary-school aged child any time soon.
The fact of the matter is, perfection -- particularly in the area of parenting -- is impossible. There is no simple guidebook that will ease the way through the difficult baby years on up to the trials of adolescence. What is that expression about a road paved with good intentions?
Kids and parents alike are white-knuckling it until that last day of school. But wait, not so fast! This is the perfect time to check-in with your kids so they can start to see the bigger picture.
I tried to give my daughter the childhood and the mother I longed for, having grown up in turbulent circumstances. But there were challenges. Otherwise I would not have gone through four major relationships, with three different father figures marching in and then out the door.