#Parenting

Don't Make Santa Your Parenting "Fall Guy"

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 12.20.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

Sure, Santa may determine that a child's behaviour is not up to snuff and is therefore a reason to deny said child of gifts on Christmas Day. But why does Santa have to be the judge, jury and (figurative) executioner on December 25th? Whatever happened to parental responsibility and the ability to look one's child in the eye in an attempt to deliver the verdict?

Let's Stop Saying: "We Don't Care, as Long as our Baby's Healthy"

Sarah Sahagian | Posted 12.18.2014 | Canada Living
Sarah Sahagian

Ultimately, the refrain, "as long as they're healthy," makes it seem like individuals who are less healthy are less valuable and less loveable. In short, it's just a mean and untrue thing to say, so please, let's stop saying it.

True Stories of Tired Parent Style Fails

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 12.11.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

I made this dreadful realization after a meeting with a new client: half my face was covered with sparkles from my daughter's fairy princess costume and I had forgotten to brush my teeth. Yep, welcome to the world of personal hygiene and style for parents. So, for all you parents who are trying to look halfway decent during this crazy harried pre-Christmas month, this list is for you.

15 Tips for Managing a Divorce Over Christmas

Alyson Jones | Posted 12.11.2014 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

Children may worry they are being disloyal if they start to have too much fun with one parent. They also worry about the parent that they are not with, wondering if that parent is okay. Sometimes they just deeply miss the parent they are not with. The familiar traditions may be gone and this can leave the children feeling as though something or someone is missing.

How to Help Your Kids Relax this December

Kids Help Phone | Posted 12.11.2014 | Canada Living
Kids Help Phone

While the holiday season is often depicted as a special time of year -- so much so that many people strive to make their holidays "perfect" -- the reality is that the happiness that is widely portrayed can often be a myth for people across Canada, including young people.

What I Hear When You Call My Unborn Daughter a "Drama Queen"

Vicki Murphy | Posted 12.10.2014 | Canada Living
Vicki Murphy

"Good luck with the little drama queen," they say when they find out I'm expecting a girl. It seems we gals have a rep right out of the womb -- as dramatic, irrational whack-jobs. So, when one of us is assaulted and comes forward, many people instantly think: oh she's exaggerating, seeking attention or revenge or a payday. It's a pattern, after all.

Why It's Important I Bring My Kids To Vancouver For Christmas

Chris Taylor | Posted 12.08.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Chris Taylor

The West Coast is a part of who their father is. And that's an important thing for them to know.

Anthem of the Jellyfish Father: A Laid-Back Guide to Parenting

David Martin | Posted 12.07.2014 | Canada Living
David Martin

Looking back on my 18 years of parenting experience, I have concluded that it likely didn't matter what approach my wife and I took to raising our daughter. She's her own person. So stop worrying. Follow my seven simple rules for jellyfish parenting and save yourself a lot of grief and possibly a stress-induced stroke.

Want to Truly Enjoy Your Holidays? Let Go of Your Expectations

Alyson Jones | Posted 12.05.2014 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

That image of the family sitting at Christmas dinner, everyone smiling at each other and the ideal turkey perfectly placed on the platter, can quickly become a great disappointment if we make perfection our goal. If you want to get more out of the holidays you can follow a few simple guidelines that will assist you in staying grounded and present during the season.

When My Husband Was Diagnosed With Brain Cancer I Became a Caregiver

Heidi Wilk | Posted 12.05.2014 | Canada Living
Heidi Wilk

Six years ago, my husband Matthew was diagnosed with glioblastoma multiform, the most common and deadliest of brain cancers. As Matthew's primary caregiver, I've come to recognize that coping in the face of a terminal illness is a learned skill, and sometimes it takes a lot of trial and error to figure out what works.

The Gross Things Only a Parent Can Appreciate

Naomi Elana Zener | Posted 12.02.2014 | Canada
Naomi Elana Zener

In life, we get to experience so many firsts, which we look forward to with unbridled anticipation, wondering when they will happen. Our first crush. ...

Getting A Time Out in Paradise

Rania Walker | Posted 12.01.2014 | Canada Travel
Rania Walker

The Cove is an adult-only resort catering to couples and singles who want to vacation in class. Their private beach club CAIN boasts infinity pools with lounging beds, private two-room cabanas offering separate showers and butler services and do you hear that...No? Peaceful, kid-free relaxation.

Secrets For a Less Stressful Holiday Season

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 11.27.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

1995 was easily my worst Christmas. I was in my mid-20s, unemployed, living with my mom and in debt after quitting my job to backpack around Europe. ...

Bringing Kids To Protests Sends Mixed Messages

Alyson Jones | Posted 11.25.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Alyson Jones

The recent involvement of children in the Kinder Morgan protests on B.C.'s Burnaby Mountain has brought forth mixed feelings from many, and caused a debate on the merits and costs of involving children in protests and political actions.

Your Micro Mat Leave Is Nothing to Boast About

Lydia Lovric | Posted 11.19.2014 | Canada Living
Lydia Lovric

When the president of the Economic Club of Canada boasted about going back to work just two short weeks after giving birth, my ovaries hurt. Sadly, in our quest to prove ourselves to be equal to men, women are increasingly denying their maternal instinct.

The Torture of Leftover Halloween Candy

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 11.13.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

I had this thought as I secretly stuffed a third mini-Mars bar into my mouth: my daughters are going to smell chocolate on my breath. I better rinse m...

Four Words That Changed the Way I See My Children

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 11.11.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

I've repeated this phrase since then, on many occasions. During the good, the bad, and even the mundane and pedestrian parts of my parenting journey. Parenthood can often feel like a desperate race through the "phases," always hurtling forward, always wishing this current phase was over, that the children would be more independent, less clingy, less messy, less fidgety, less screamy, less whiney.

What Happened to the Sisterhood of Mothers?

Naomi Elana Zener | Posted 11.11.2014 | Canada Living
Naomi Elana Zener

Wandering aimlessly through the hallways of a mall, down a street, or even through a museum, while pushing my baby stroller, I've come to notice the u...

How I Deal With the Comments People Make About My Adopted, Special-Needs Child

The Purple Fig | Posted 11.10.2014 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

Sometimes people feel the need to come up to me and tell me how smart she is, as though that was ever in question. My daughter can recognize words on a 12th grade level so yes, she is smart -- but she can't tell when her shirt or pants are on backwards and that the tag almost always goes in the back.

Teach Your Kids That Perfection Is Out and Authenticity Is In

Brynn Harrington | Posted 11.17.2014 | Canada Living
Brynn Harrington

If we can reinforce it in schools and at home, our kids may be lucky enough to grow up wanting to be no one other than their beautiful selves. We can help them by encouraging them to fail, and hugging and kissing them after they do. We can teach them curiosity about the world and show them that difference is the one thing that makes us all the same.

7 Steps to Helping Your Children Manage Anxiety

Alyson Jones | Posted 11.04.2014 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

Anxiety is the number one mental health concern for children. Our children are growing up in a highly anxious world, surrounded by a massive amount of stimulation and information. Here are some practical and important tips to assist you with grounding your children in this anxious world, and helping them develop their self regulation capabilities.

Why Do Moms Feel So Guilty When Dads Do More Around the House?

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 10.30.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

Out of the blue, my daughter said: "Daddy, when I get up in the morning, you are always there. When I am hungry, it's you who puts food on the table. When I need someone to play with, you always play with me. Thank you, Daddy." This story should have made me feel utterly happy, but instead I felt like I was simultaneously kicked in the stomach and stabbed in the heart.

The Kind of Fertility We're Not Talking About

Erica Berman | Posted 10.29.2014 | Canada
Erica Berman

Next time you meet someone who is dealing with any kind of infertility, please remember this and be kind. Also, think twice before making any assumptions about a person based on how many children they have, whether its none or 10. Not everyone has the luxury of choosing what they end up with.

Trick-or-Treating is For Kids. Period.

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 10.28.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

It's fair to say that many teens love getting something for nothing. Free candy? It fits the bill. And every October 31, they fail to disappoint, showing up at the door, thrusting a bag in the direction of unwitting participants, sometimes without even uttering the agreed request -- sometimes, the words "Trick or Treat" aren't even mentioned.

5 Steps You Can Take If the News Scares Your Kid

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 10.27.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

With recent world events escalating in tandem with the ubiquitous 24/7 news cycle, it's almost impossible for a parent to completely limit the access to information that their children may have. Following are five tips for parents about how to calm their child's fears during these difficult times.