Parenting

Easter Isn't Christmas - Slow Down With the Gifts

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 04.18.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

It wasn't always this way. My oldest was shocked to discover that all Laura Ingalls got for Christmas one year was a rag doll, an orange, a piece of candy and some socks. My daughters' eyes pop out of their heads when their Granny tells them that when she was a little girl, Santa brought an apple, an orange and one toy for each child in her large family.

Why Making Mistakes Is Good For Your Kids

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 04.17.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

Children who are exclusively rewarded for right answers or who are shunned or punished for making mistakes may become afraid of trying new things. Children are more open to learning and more willing to try harder when they are praised and rewarded for their efforts, not their results.

How To Stay Friends With Your Friends After They Have Kids

Heather Lin | Posted 04.14.2014 | Canada Living
Heather Lin

It happens to everyone as we get older. Either you have kids or your friends have kids. But the one factor that a lot of people seem to forget is that children aren't for everyone. That doesn't mean your friendships are doomed. There are actually a few tricks you can do to look like a hero to your parenting friends, with limited child-you interaction.

Do All Only Children Secretly Wish For Siblings?

The Purple Fig | Posted 04.10.2014 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

Do only children pine for siblings? Most of the parenting world seems to think so. Parent-friends have warned me of the perils of leading my son down the dark and isolating path travelled by the only child. Armed with some incentive to find the truth, I began a very casual and non scientific study.

What Baby Books Don't Tell You About Breastfeeding

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.10.2014 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

Even though mothers are anxious to see their child latching well and feeding on the breast, to know that their particular experience is occurring in most every room on the ward, does help somewhat to dispel the belief that they have done something wrong, that there is something wrong with them, and/or that their baby will never breastfeed.

Why Family-Focused Policies Are Good for Everyone

Nicole Letourneau | Posted 04.08.2014 | Canada Living
Nicole Letourneau

On every metric, children from disadvantaged homes face greater challenges to success than their more privileged peers. As a result, they do worse in school, get poorer paying jobs and suffer disproportionately from violence, addiction and mental health issues.

I Want To Watch Olaf the Snowman Melt and Die

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 04.07.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

We've been trapped inside by icy concussion-inducing, deathtrap snow. I'm like a bear in hibernation, except I'm adding to my fat rather than living off it. I feel like I'm in some kind of dreary winter-induced coma. My youngest didn't wear socks to daycare during the last snowstorm, and I didn't even notice.

Have Access To a Measles Vaccine? Get It Now

Rebecca Cuneo Keenan | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada
Rebecca Cuneo Keenan

We wait until newborns are two months old before giving them their first shots. Some people have underlying medical conditions that prevent them from getting vaccinated. And in rare instances a vaccination just might not be effective in any given individual. So those of us who can vaccinate our children really should.

Disney Cage Match: Frozen vs. Brave vs. Tangled

Darlena Cunha | Posted 04.05.2014 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

I feel like it's time to put the modern Disney tale fight to an end. Let's take Frozen, Brave and Tangled, and gauge them component by component to ge...

What a Difference a Year Makes: The Unbearable Lightness of Being a Teen

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 03.31.2014 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

A year ago, I sat at my laptop at the dining room table and hammered out a long list of things I thought it was important for my daughter to know. W...

Five Things You Shouldn't Ask a South-Asian Stepmom

masalamommas | Posted 03.30.2014 | Canada Living
masalamommas

This question is similar to asking a married woman if she gets along with her husband's last long-term girlfriend. For most women the answer may be no. But for stepmothers the situation is much more complex. Your step children's mother's presence is deeply embedded in your lives because of the influence she has on them, even though you may rarely ever interact with her yourself.

Being a Good Parent Means Telling Kids It's OK to Give Up

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 03.27.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

Being a good parent isn't always about supporting your child in their endeavours no matter what. Was it better that we showed our children our support even though we knew the probable outcome, or would it have been a more prudent decision to have been honest with them from the outset, saving them from wasting time and worse -- the inevitable disappointment of failure?

I Want to Stop Smothering My Kids, But I Don't Know How

Rebecca Cuneo Keenan | Posted 03.28.2014 | Canada Living
Rebecca Cuneo Keenan

I've been reading about helicopter versus free range parenting for years now. They don't get the time or space to explore their neighbourhoods by themselves and learn independence in the process. If there was ever a question about which side I'd take, helicopter or free-range, I'd already long decided to be free-range. But it's not that easy.

Will My Kids Remember Me at My Best or My Worst?

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 03.25.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

Which memories will our children remember forever and which are they going to forget? Are they going to remember the few times I got upset when they spilled their milk or all the times I told them not to worry about it? Are they going to remember all the times I attended their school events or the few times I couldn't be there?

Are Hovering Parents Breeding Narcissistic Kids?

BabyPost | Posted 03.20.2014 | Canada Living
BabyPost

A new study suggests that because we played outside, away from our parents' sight, we were likely a generation of fewer narcissists. That's because, according to the study, free play breeds empathy and lack of it removes a valuable learning opportunity for children to care about what other children think and feel.

The Supernanny Is More Like a Substitute Mommy

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 03.19.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

Self-proclaimed "Supernanny" Jo Frost has recently released a book, in which she explains how to keep toddlers from running and ruining the lives of parents, and basic instructional advice about how to avoid complete meltdowns in public. Advising on how to discipline children when you don't have children at all, is sort of like me giving my teen son a few pointers on how to dress cool.

Who Has a More Satisfying Life: Parents or the Childfree?

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 03.19.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

A new report by Princeton University and Stony Brook University published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science has concluded that there is "very little difference" between the satisfaction of their lives between those with children, and those without. I like to think "satisfaction" is the absence of misery.

From Backstreet Boy To Backstreet Dad

HuffPost Canada Music | Leena Tailor | Posted 03.14.2014 | Canada Music

Last year was the year of Backstreet Boys, with the boy band celebrating their 20th anniversary, filming their upcoming documentary and receiving a co...

The Danger of Parents Who Police Other Parents

Stephanie Knaak | Posted 03.12.2014 | Canada
Stephanie Knaak

For my son's birthday, a parent wasn't comfortable with my husband and I driving her child from a gymnastics centre to our house. Fair enough. But what of the consequences of such vigilance towards our fellow parents? To what extent do these kinds of parent-against-parent preemptive risk aversion strategies threaten the fabric of mother-to-mother relations?

My Daugther's Math Homework Proves I'm Not Smarter Than a 5th Grader

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 03.10.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

My 10-year-old daughter brought math questions home from school that I struggled to answer. I drew a complete blank on how to calculate the perimeter of a rectangle. Yep, I can now conclusively answer the question, "Are you smarter than a fifth grader?" No. No, I am not.

Women and Work: Rethinking Parental Leave in Canada

Jennifer Hollett | Posted 03.08.2014 | Canada Business
Jennifer Hollett

A recent study found executives of both sexes consider the tension between work and family to be primarily a women's problem. The official theme for International Women's Day 2014 is "equality for women is progress for all." Let's do exactly that by supporting progressive policies for women, and new opportunities for men and families.

When Discipline Is Sandwiched in Love

Lori Gard | Posted 03.06.2014 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

You know those kinds of days. Another long day in a stream of long days. More issues to deal with, more meetings to be had. More testing to be done, m...

Dear Daughter, Let's Talk About Porn - Love, Mom

Erika Lust | Posted 03.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erika Lust

This is the porn talk. By now you know what sex is (and what fun THAT talk was!), and in all likelihood you know more about porn than I imagine. Sex is a universal human experience, and a private one, which means I wanted you to hear about it from the people closest to you. But over the decades, porn has increasingly become part of the sexual experience, and I don't want to ignore it. Even of it's of no interest to you, you should hear me out, if only to indulge dear old mom.

How to Have Compassion

Ken Rabow | Posted 03.04.2014 | Canada Impact
Ken Rabow

As a life coach, I work with all sorts of people in their teens and 20s. I learn from all of them. One of my most powerful learning lessons came from a 13-year-old client with Autism, who allowed me to see the dangers of people in power trying to "do the right thing." I am pleased to share with you now the inner workings of one the most interesting minds I have ever met.

A Parent's Guide to the Oscars

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 03.03.2014 | Canada
Dr. Shimi Kang

As a busy mom of three who just finished writing a book, I had little time to watch all the best picture nominated movies so I have been speed-watching what I can this last week. It is amazing what movies can teach us and make us come to terms with.