Parenting

If You're Going Through Infertility, You're Not Alone

Erica Berman | Posted 06.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erica Berman

Despite the fact that one in six couples in North America has difficulty conceiving, infertility is still something with a lot of stigma attached to it. Few people openly discuss their fertility struggles, and many people experience shame. As an infertility counsellor, I see many women whose identity, body image, and self-esteem erode as they struggle to conceive while, seemingly, everyone else gets pregnant with ease around them.

Get Your Nose Out Of My Uterus: 10 Reasons Why You Should Never Ask A Woman If She's Pregnant

Vicki Murphy | Posted 06.05.2014 | Canada Living
Vicki Murphy

Reason #1: Because we might not be pregnant. And then we'll think you're calling us fat. As much as we treasure new reasons to question our appearance, maybe you should refrain from asking the question until there's a giant baby head dangling from our crotch.

Why Do Our Kids Hate the Home Phone Line?

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 06.04.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

My girls have never wanted to answer the phone when it rings or make calls or be the voice on our recorded message. When I pass them the phone to chat with their grandmothers, they look at me like I handed them a grenade. I've reviewed some rules of phone etiquette with them (with obviously not enough emphasis on the consequences of prank calls!), but they need practise to feel confident.

Keep Gender Stereotypes Out of Raising Kids

Jenn Neilson | Posted 06.04.2014 | Canada Living
Jenn Neilson

With kids growing up surrounded by advertising, movies and TV, toys, books, and clothes that tell them that some things are for girls, and others are for boys, we're already fighting an uphill battle if our goal is to raise girls who know that they can solve tough, real world problems, and boys who are interested in collaboration, not just competition.

It's Okay To Be 'Just a Mom'

Darlena Cunha | Posted 06.01.2014 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

What's wrong with being moms? What's so awful about this that we feel we need to shout at the world that we are so much more than moms, that we are so much more than everyone else? Fighting fire with fire rarely works and this is yet another case of it. If you were truly proud to be a mom, you wouldn't have to validate your choice on Facebook.

Six Tips To Open Up Your Kids To Friends From Diverse Ethnicities

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 05.31.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

If we convey negative or suspicious attitudes about other cultures and ethnicities, our kids will pick up on these and replicate our behaviour. "Monkey see, monkey do" is real so keep this in mind and remember to convey a positive and open attitude about other cultures, particularly around your children.

Why It's Good to Have Arguments With Children

Amy Leask | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Amy Leask

While it's true that young people do need the guidance and direction authority figures provide, they also deserve to have people in charge who think rationally and are willing to explain themselves. If we're going to teach our children not to trust just anyone, we need to give them good reason to trust us.

Five Ways to a Happy Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Happy kids and a happy home hinges on one thing: a happy marriage between Mom and Dad. The quality of a couple's marriage sets the tone for family life. Below are five general qualities to strive for (or avoid, as the case may be). They aren't exhaustive, but they are a good start.

Six Reasons Why Business Trips Are Like Summer Camp for Moms

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

You go to bed exhausted and you wake up way too early. Campers love to stay up whispering to each other (about who sucked at field hockey, that sort of thing), just like moms jump at the chance to hang out with adults, whose food they don't have to cut up, and who don't argue with you about why you can have another glass of wine, but they can't have another pop.

A Simple Trick To Improve Your Sex Life

University of Toronto News | Posted 07.27.2014 | Canada Living
University of Toronto News

Research showed that couples who spent extra time together reported feeling more satisfied with both their sex lives and their relationship with their partner. The afterglow of post-sex affection proved to be long lasting for couples, with participants reporting higher levels of satisfaction with their sex lives and relationships in a follow-up survey conducted three months later.

Why Parents of Olympians Aren't Better Than the Average Mom or Dad

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.26.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

When the daughter you've been driving to ballet class every Saturday for 12 years tells you she wants to focus on the history of dance as her $20,000 a year university major, you might pause and point out the successful engineers you know. Most parents push academic over athletic when push comes to shove.

Get Your Kids Away From the TV and Outside To Play

Bill Bogart | Posted 07.26.2014 | Canada Living
Bill Bogart

The assessment compared our kids, in nine categories of activity, to those in 14 other countries. Canada received an overall grade of D- putting it behind nations such as Mexico, Kenya, and Nigeria. Our toddlers do pretty well: 84 per cent of kids 3 and 4 get the recommended 180 minutes of daily exercise. After that activity levels fall.

One Thing I Don't Want to Regret as a Mom

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 07.25.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

"Mom, will you snuggle with me?" my 10-year-old will ask, her arms outstretched from her bed, as I turn to leave her dark room. "Not tonight, sweetie." That's the answer I've been giving her all too often these days, even though I feel a stab of guilt every time I say it.

Are You Parenting 'The Dolphin Way'?

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 07.21.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

Dolphin parents are not authoritarian pushing parents or hovering Tiger parents (who stifle internal motivation) nor are we permissive spineless Jellyfish (who fail to cultivate impulse control), we recognize we are authority figures and use guidance, role modelling, and a balanced lifestyle to ensure the development of internal motivation, impulse control, and independence.

The Right Support For Children With Developmental Disabilities

Mitchell Parker | Posted 07.15.2014 | Canada
Mitchell Parker

There are simply not enough hours in the day for parents of children with developmental challenges to manage the complicated care needs of their sons and daughters. There are a number of ways in which "the system" can work well to support better outcomes for families dealing with developmental challenges.

I Chose My Kids Over Meeting David Sedaris (and I Still Regret it)

Kathleen Hogan | Posted 07.15.2014 | Canada Living
Kathleen Hogan

I could have been there. My son could have giggled for/at David. I don't know. I was yet another harried/perfect professional mum, holding it all together. Prioritizing naps over adult conversation, breastfeeding over tantrums, parenting over intellectual rigour. It would have been fine -- my kids would have been fine -- had I stayed that day.

Let's Not Forget the Mothers of Child Labourers This Weekend

Cheryl Hotchkiss | Posted 07.09.2014 | Canada Living
Cheryl Hotchkiss

Many moms are wakened on Mother's Day by an ominous clattering in the kitchen: your loving-hearted children preparing to surprise you with coffee or hot chocolate in bed. There's also that cinnamon toast or oatmeal positively doused with sugar. What many moms don't realize is that such meals usually come courtesy of a whole crew of children.

Thank You to My Dolphin (Not Tiger) Mom

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 07.08.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

My mom was not an over-controlling, overbearing tiger mom. Nor was she a permissive, directionless jellyfish mom. My mom was the balance of these extremes and was firm yet flexible. She had rules and expectations -- including clearly expecting us to do well in academics with respectful behaviour. Yet, she also valued our freedom to be kids, individual passions, and independent choices.

How Much Did My Depression Affect My Parenting?

Sandra Charron | Posted 07.08.2014 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

What I have always believed to be my "parenting style" is now an onslaught of question marks as I wrestle with the heartbreaking realizations that perhaps my depression and I have caused irreparable damage to one or all of my four children.

Prenatal Stress Causes More Harm to Babies Than We Think

Nicole Letourneau | Posted 07.05.2014 | Canada Living
Nicole Letourneau

Last month, it was reported that an Edmonton woman was badly beaten by her spouse. Though the attack put her in the hospital, the police offered a silver lining by stating that her unborn baby, at least, wasn't harmed. Sadly, this claim underestimates the profound effect severe stress can have on children's development in their first years of life, including while they're still in the womb.

We're Talking Sex at the Dinner Table, and I Couldn't Be Happier

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 07.05.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

Well, we've been having some interesting family discussions over dinner recently. Topics have included: marijuana, driver reaction time after consuming alcohol, how nicotine stains your fingers; the intense pain caused by Tasering; bras and body hair. One night, we even examined diagrams of male and female reproductive organs.

My Daughter Can Be A Princess If She Wants To

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 07.02.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

Here's what I have to say for those who worry their daughters might turn into princesses, as in helpless silly females who value the superficial only and have no problem-solving skills. Just don't be a princess yourself. Be assertive. Gain control over your emotions. Display strength and courage and resilience. Don't read women's magazines.

Children Are Parasites. How Do We Love Them So Much?

Heather Lin | Posted 06.27.2014 | Canada Living
Heather Lin

I'll be the first to admit that kids are time-sucks. They can literally consume every waking second you have by demanding all of your attention. And if you have more than one and they're young, good luck trying to "nap when the baby naps." What if they're on different nap schedules? What if that's the only time you get to have a shower or eat something that requires both hands?

Why Is This Writer Hated By So Many Mommy Bloggers?

Mitch Wolfe | Posted 06.27.2014 | Canada Living
Mitch Wolfe

Irate mommies chastise Rebecca Eckler for relying on nannies, encouraging Rowan to ditch school, outsourcing Rowan's bike lessons, and for avoiding changing Holt's smelly diapers for months. What these mommies don't get is that at the core of Eckler's unconventional parenting, is her extreme love for and devotion to her children.

How To Help Your Child Deal With Shyness

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 06.27.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

Start with displaying some empathy for your child -- which means putting yourself in your kid's shoes. Let them know you understand how they feel and you are not mad or disappointed in them for being shy. Perhaps state something like, "When I was a kid, I was shy too. I remember sometimes it was no fun and got in the way of things I wanted to do. Sometimes I even get shy now."