#Parenting

Why I'm Really Okay With Having Just Boys

Heather Lin | Posted 06.27.2014 | Canada Living
Heather Lin

Are you going to try for that girl? That is usually one of the top three questions I get whenever someone hears that I have two young sons. Don't get me wrong, if one of my two boys had been a girl, I would have been over the moon happy, but am I any less sad that I have two boys? Are you kidding?

5 Tips To Transition From School to Summer

Alyson Jones | Posted 06.26.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Alyson Jones

Routine is important for adults as well, and as a parent I must admit I have come to rely heavily upon the school schedule to guide the transition to summer. It is human nature to mark our changes with beginnings, middles and endings. A common complaint is that June is busy with closing ceremonies, awards nights, and all sorts of wind up parties -- nonetheless both the parents and children benefit from these rites of closure.

I Don't Need Anyone To Tell Me What Mothers Should Do All Day

Darlena Cunha | Posted 06.25.2014 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

I'm writing this because I often complain about and worry about my new line of work / not work. I feel like I'm missing out on real life by not punching a clock. That I've perhaps sacrificed my career and will never get it back. I want to remind myself that even if I don't get it back, I haven't been wasting my time here. If anything, I've become a better worker, not a worse one.

Five Things To Do For a Family Dealing With Autism

Jonathan Alderson | Posted 06.24.2014 | Canada Living
Jonathan Alderson

It is reinforcing to be acknowledged for accomplishing a goal, but for many parents of children with autism the steps toward goals are mini and slow. Take the time to let them know that you notice their parenting efforts and the positive development you see in their child. In other words, be a cheerleader of the process not just the end goal.

5 Easy Ways to Keep From Running Over Children With Your Car

Rebecca Cuneo Keenan | Posted 06.23.2014 | Canada Living
Rebecca Cuneo Keenan

I live in the city of Toronto with three young children. I am a driver and I am a pedestrian. But I am a pedestrian first. Unfortunately, many of the drivers in this city do not share my love of pedestrianism. They do not, in fact, seem to care about the safety and well-being of my children at all. So I put together a few simple rules to help them avoid running over kids with their cars.

How Will Kids Learn Patience When Everything Is Just One Click Away?

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 08.20.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

Patience seems to have fallen by the wayside. In its place, anxiety and frustration have taken hold. In the digital era, patience is no longer a virtue; it is seen as an unnecessary vestige of a bygone era with little value. After all, why wait when instant gratification is just a few clicks away?

Camp Is Like School...For Life!

Sylvia Forrest | Posted 08.17.2014 | Canada Living
Sylvia Forrest

Summer is a time for play, and kids know it. The pressure is off, and it's time to relax! Homework and tests are replaced with bike-riding and swimming. If you're lucky, you even get to go to camp. What the kids don't realize is, there's as much to learn at camp as at school, and those lessons can't be taught with books. What they're learning is how to deal with life.

Give a Busy Mom a Break, And Be A Kid Again

Sylvia Forrest | Posted 08.16.2014 | Canada Living
Sylvia Forrest

Summer is finally here: Sunday barbecues, family vacations, and half-day Fridays. Everyone loves summer, right? Except every once in a while, you'll run into moms who dread summer -- at least a little. Give a busy and tired mom a break like I did. You'll be surprised at how much fun it can be!

Lessons I Learned in My Dad's Taxi Cab

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 08.16.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

Growing up, I was often embarrassed that my dad sometimes drove a taxi because I thought it was not "prestigious." Ironically, it was during my research on motivation at the prestigious Harvard Medical School Addiction Research Program that I realized that much of what motivates me (and all people) comes from lessons I learned from him in that taxi. Here are some of them.

To My Four-Year-Old Daughter: I'm Sorry

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 08.16.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

My dearest little girl, sometimes I forget that you're only four years old. Actually, a month ago you were just three. Maybe I expect too much from you at times because you're a big sister now. Maybe it's because I just haven't taken the time and effort to see things from your bright little eyes. But my darling, I am slowly learning to do exactly this, and I'm sorry I sometimes forget.

Top 10 Ways to Be a Contagious Parent

masalamommas | Posted 08.11.2014 | Canada Living
masalamommas

Each child is different, gifted uniquely, and those moments of celebration, even if all you do is take them out for Dollar Menu sundaes, builds their confidence. Teaching them not to give up. And helps them to expect more of themselves. And in the end, they need to know that they are loved, accepted, and treasured, apart from their accomplishments. Simply because they are yours.

This Father's Day I'll Think of the Families of the Fallen RCMP Officers

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 08.11.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

The families left behind -- that's what is hitting me the hardest in the wake of last week's tragedy in Moncton that saw three RCMP officers -- three fathers -- gunned down. This weekend is Father's Day -- the first in a series of terrible 'firsts' that these will families have to face without husbands and fathers.

Home Alone: When Is It Safe to Leave Your Child?

Dr Dina Kulik | Posted 08.11.2014 | Canada Living
Dr Dina Kulik

Busy parents eagerly anticipate the day when their children can be trusted to stay safe on their own. It frees parents up to stay a little longer at work, head to an appointment or go for dinner. But when is a good time to start leaving your child home alone? Ultimately the decision comes down to when you think your child is ready for this responsibility.

Even When Baby's in the Womb, Dads Have an Influence

Nicole Letourneau | Posted 08.10.2014 | Canada Living
Nicole Letourneau

It's no secret that dads are important, and that their role as caregivers has, for many families, broadened in the last 50 years. But there's one period of our development where dads tend to take a back seat -- the first nine months, to be precise.

If You're Going Through Infertility, You're Not Alone

Erica Berman | Posted 08.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erica Berman

Despite the fact that one in six couples in North America has difficulty conceiving, infertility is still something with a lot of stigma attached to it. Few people openly discuss their fertility struggles, and many people experience shame. As an infertility counsellor, I see many women whose identity, body image, and self-esteem erode as they struggle to conceive while, seemingly, everyone else gets pregnant with ease around them.

Get Your Nose Out Of My Uterus: 10 Reasons Why You Should Never Ask A Woman If She's Pregnant

Vicki Murphy | Posted 08.05.2014 | Canada Living
Vicki Murphy

Reason #1: Because we might not be pregnant. And then we'll think you're calling us fat. As much as we treasure new reasons to question our appearance, maybe you should refrain from asking the question until there's a giant baby head dangling from our crotch.

Why Do Our Kids Hate the Home Phone Line?

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 08.04.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

My girls have never wanted to answer the phone when it rings or make calls or be the voice on our recorded message. When I pass them the phone to chat with their grandmothers, they look at me like I handed them a grenade. I've reviewed some rules of phone etiquette with them (with obviously not enough emphasis on the consequences of prank calls!), but they need practise to feel confident.

Keep Gender Stereotypes Out of Raising Kids

Jenn Neilson | Posted 08.04.2014 | Canada Living
Jenn Neilson

With kids growing up surrounded by advertising, movies and TV, toys, books, and clothes that tell them that some things are for girls, and others are for boys, we're already fighting an uphill battle if our goal is to raise girls who know that they can solve tough, real world problems, and boys who are interested in collaboration, not just competition.

It's Okay To Be 'Just a Mom'

Darlena Cunha | Posted 08.01.2014 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

What's wrong with being moms? What's so awful about this that we feel we need to shout at the world that we are so much more than moms, that we are so much more than everyone else? Fighting fire with fire rarely works and this is yet another case of it. If you were truly proud to be a mom, you wouldn't have to validate your choice on Facebook.

Six Tips To Open Up Your Kids To Friends From Diverse Ethnicities

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 07.31.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

If we convey negative or suspicious attitudes about other cultures and ethnicities, our kids will pick up on these and replicate our behaviour. "Monkey see, monkey do" is real so keep this in mind and remember to convey a positive and open attitude about other cultures, particularly around your children.

Why It's Good to Have Arguments With Children

Amy Leask | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Amy Leask

While it's true that young people do need the guidance and direction authority figures provide, they also deserve to have people in charge who think rationally and are willing to explain themselves. If we're going to teach our children not to trust just anyone, we need to give them good reason to trust us.

Five Ways to a Happy Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Happy kids and a happy home hinges on one thing: a happy marriage between Mom and Dad. The quality of a couple's marriage sets the tone for family life. Below are five general qualities to strive for (or avoid, as the case may be). They aren't exhaustive, but they are a good start.

Six Reasons Why Business Trips Are Like Summer Camp for Moms

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

You go to bed exhausted and you wake up way too early. Campers love to stay up whispering to each other (about who sucked at field hockey, that sort of thing), just like moms jump at the chance to hang out with adults, whose food they don't have to cut up, and who don't argue with you about why you can have another glass of wine, but they can't have another pop.

A Simple Trick To Improve Your Sex Life

University of Toronto News | Posted 07.27.2014 | Canada Living
University of Toronto News

Research showed that couples who spent extra time together reported feeling more satisfied with both their sex lives and their relationship with their partner. The afterglow of post-sex affection proved to be long lasting for couples, with participants reporting higher levels of satisfaction with their sex lives and relationships in a follow-up survey conducted three months later.

Why Parents of Olympians Aren't Better Than the Average Mom or Dad

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.26.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

When the daughter you've been driving to ballet class every Saturday for 12 years tells you she wants to focus on the history of dance as her $20,000 a year university major, you might pause and point out the successful engineers you know. Most parents push academic over athletic when push comes to shove.