#Parenting

Why It's Good to Have Arguments With Children

Amy Leask | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Amy Leask

While it's true that young people do need the guidance and direction authority figures provide, they also deserve to have people in charge who think rationally and are willing to explain themselves. If we're going to teach our children not to trust just anyone, we need to give them good reason to trust us.

Five Ways to a Happy Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Happy kids and a happy home hinges on one thing: a happy marriage between Mom and Dad. The quality of a couple's marriage sets the tone for family life. Below are five general qualities to strive for (or avoid, as the case may be). They aren't exhaustive, but they are a good start.

Six Reasons Why Business Trips Are Like Summer Camp for Moms

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.28.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

You go to bed exhausted and you wake up way too early. Campers love to stay up whispering to each other (about who sucked at field hockey, that sort of thing), just like moms jump at the chance to hang out with adults, whose food they don't have to cut up, and who don't argue with you about why you can have another glass of wine, but they can't have another pop.

A Simple Trick To Improve Your Sex Life

University of Toronto News | Posted 07.27.2014 | Canada Living
University of Toronto News

Research showed that couples who spent extra time together reported feeling more satisfied with both their sex lives and their relationship with their partner. The afterglow of post-sex affection proved to be long lasting for couples, with participants reporting higher levels of satisfaction with their sex lives and relationships in a follow-up survey conducted three months later.

Why Parents of Olympians Aren't Better Than the Average Mom or Dad

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.26.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

When the daughter you've been driving to ballet class every Saturday for 12 years tells you she wants to focus on the history of dance as her $20,000 a year university major, you might pause and point out the successful engineers you know. Most parents push academic over athletic when push comes to shove.

Get Your Kids Away From the TV and Outside To Play

Bill Bogart | Posted 07.26.2014 | Canada Living
Bill Bogart

The assessment compared our kids, in nine categories of activity, to those in 14 other countries. Canada received an overall grade of D- putting it behind nations such as Mexico, Kenya, and Nigeria. Our toddlers do pretty well: 84 per cent of kids 3 and 4 get the recommended 180 minutes of daily exercise. After that activity levels fall.

One Thing I Don't Want to Regret as a Mom

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 07.25.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

"Mom, will you snuggle with me?" my 10-year-old will ask, her arms outstretched from her bed, as I turn to leave her dark room. "Not tonight, sweetie." That's the answer I've been giving her all too often these days, even though I feel a stab of guilt every time I say it.

Are You Parenting 'The Dolphin Way'?

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 07.21.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

Dolphin parents are not authoritarian pushing parents or hovering Tiger parents (who stifle internal motivation) nor are we permissive spineless Jellyfish (who fail to cultivate impulse control), we recognize we are authority figures and use guidance, role modelling, and a balanced lifestyle to ensure the development of internal motivation, impulse control, and independence.

The Right Support For Children With Developmental Disabilities

Mitchell Parker | Posted 07.15.2014 | Canada
Mitchell Parker

There are simply not enough hours in the day for parents of children with developmental challenges to manage the complicated care needs of their sons and daughters. There are a number of ways in which "the system" can work well to support better outcomes for families dealing with developmental challenges.

I Chose My Kids Over Meeting David Sedaris (and I Still Regret it)

Kathleen Hogan | Posted 07.15.2014 | Canada Living
Kathleen Hogan

I could have been there. My son could have giggled for/at David. I don't know. I was yet another harried/perfect professional mum, holding it all together. Prioritizing naps over adult conversation, breastfeeding over tantrums, parenting over intellectual rigour. It would have been fine -- my kids would have been fine -- had I stayed that day.

Let's Not Forget the Mothers of Child Labourers This Weekend

Cheryl Hotchkiss | Posted 07.09.2014 | Canada Living
Cheryl Hotchkiss

Many moms are wakened on Mother's Day by an ominous clattering in the kitchen: your loving-hearted children preparing to surprise you with coffee or hot chocolate in bed. There's also that cinnamon toast or oatmeal positively doused with sugar. What many moms don't realize is that such meals usually come courtesy of a whole crew of children.

Thank You to My Dolphin (Not Tiger) Mom

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 07.08.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

My mom was not an over-controlling, overbearing tiger mom. Nor was she a permissive, directionless jellyfish mom. My mom was the balance of these extremes and was firm yet flexible. She had rules and expectations -- including clearly expecting us to do well in academics with respectful behaviour. Yet, she also valued our freedom to be kids, individual passions, and independent choices.

How Much Did My Depression Affect My Parenting?

Sandra Charron | Posted 07.08.2014 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

What I have always believed to be my "parenting style" is now an onslaught of question marks as I wrestle with the heartbreaking realizations that perhaps my depression and I have caused irreparable damage to one or all of my four children.

Prenatal Stress Causes More Harm to Babies Than We Think

Nicole Letourneau | Posted 07.05.2014 | Canada Living
Nicole Letourneau

Last month, it was reported that an Edmonton woman was badly beaten by her spouse. Though the attack put her in the hospital, the police offered a silver lining by stating that her unborn baby, at least, wasn't harmed. Sadly, this claim underestimates the profound effect severe stress can have on children's development in their first years of life, including while they're still in the womb.

We're Talking Sex at the Dinner Table, and I Couldn't Be Happier

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 07.05.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

Well, we've been having some interesting family discussions over dinner recently. Topics have included: marijuana, driver reaction time after consuming alcohol, how nicotine stains your fingers; the intense pain caused by Tasering; bras and body hair. One night, we even examined diagrams of male and female reproductive organs.

My Daughter Can Be A Princess If She Wants To

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 07.02.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

Here's what I have to say for those who worry their daughters might turn into princesses, as in helpless silly females who value the superficial only and have no problem-solving skills. Just don't be a princess yourself. Be assertive. Gain control over your emotions. Display strength and courage and resilience. Don't read women's magazines.

Children Are Parasites. How Do We Love Them So Much?

Heather Lin | Posted 06.27.2014 | Canada Living
Heather Lin

I'll be the first to admit that kids are time-sucks. They can literally consume every waking second you have by demanding all of your attention. And if you have more than one and they're young, good luck trying to "nap when the baby naps." What if they're on different nap schedules? What if that's the only time you get to have a shower or eat something that requires both hands?

Why Is This Writer Hated By So Many Mommy Bloggers?

Mitch Wolfe | Posted 06.27.2014 | Canada Living
Mitch Wolfe

Irate mommies chastise Rebecca Eckler for relying on nannies, encouraging Rowan to ditch school, outsourcing Rowan's bike lessons, and for avoiding changing Holt's smelly diapers for months. What these mommies don't get is that at the core of Eckler's unconventional parenting, is her extreme love for and devotion to her children.

How To Help Your Child Deal With Shyness

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 06.27.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

Start with displaying some empathy for your child -- which means putting yourself in your kid's shoes. Let them know you understand how they feel and you are not mad or disappointed in them for being shy. Perhaps state something like, "When I was a kid, I was shy too. I remember sometimes it was no fun and got in the way of things I wanted to do. Sometimes I even get shy now."

Spanking Your Kids Doesn't Make You a Child Abuser

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 06.24.2014 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

Apparently, I'm a victim of child abuse. And a child abuser. How did that escape me? At least I might be, if you believe a new study that redefines what it means to be abused -- and an abuser. I can tell you for certain is each of the times I used corporal punishment, it was in those moments that I failed most as a parent. But does that make me an abuser?

The Stigma Of Mental Health Cost This 23-Year-Old His Life

Abigail Cukier | Posted 06.22.2014 | Canada Living
Abigail Cukier

Bruce and Lynn drove to their youngest daughter Emily's school to tell her that her brother had died by suicide. They next drove to London to pick up their other daughter, Aimee from university. Their cries filled the car along the highway. Lynn climbed in the backseat to hold Emily in her arms. At first, Aimee did not believe the news but slowly came to understand.

It's Finally Cool For Girls to Geek Out

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 06.22.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

Back when I was a kid, it wasn't cool to be uncool. To be called a "nerd" was to elicit scorn and its accompanying exclusion. How the tables have turned and the tides have shifted. There is a new trend towards teaching kids -- girls in particular -- coding skills in a growing number of cities.

Attention Parents: Mother Nature Needs Us

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 06.21.2014 | Canada
Dr. Shimi Kang

Given the state of the world and the tasks of the next generation, our survival depends on how we parent our children right now. We need to focus on the values we are encouraging for our children, and questioning whether or not our individual actions are helping our kids become the environmental stewards the world desperately needs.

When Did Being A Mom Become The 'World's Toughest Job'?

Melissa Carr | Posted 06.19.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

If you have time to watch a YouTube video and Facebook about it all damn day, motherhood hasn't completely swallowed you up -- you had enough time in your busy day for this, let's be honest, frivolity. Maybe, after all, it isn't the toughest job in the world.

Easter Isn't Christmas - Slow Down With the Gifts

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 06.18.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

It wasn't always this way. My oldest was shocked to discover that all Laura Ingalls got for Christmas one year was a rag doll, an orange, a piece of candy and some socks. My daughters' eyes pop out of their heads when their Granny tells them that when she was a little girl, Santa brought an apple, an orange and one toy for each child in her large family.