Parenting

Spanking Your Kids Doesn't Make You a Child Abuser

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 06.24.2014 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

Apparently, I'm a victim of child abuse. And a child abuser. How did that escape me? At least I might be, if you believe a new study that redefines what it means to be abused -- and an abuser. I can tell you for certain is each of the times I used corporal punishment, it was in those moments that I failed most as a parent. But does that make me an abuser?

The Stigma Of Mental Health Cost This 23-Year-Old His Life

Abigail Cukier | Posted 06.22.2014 | Canada Living
Abigail Cukier

Bruce and Lynn drove to their youngest daughter Emily's school to tell her that her brother had died by suicide. They next drove to London to pick up their other daughter, Aimee from university. Their cries filled the car along the highway. Lynn climbed in the backseat to hold Emily in her arms. At first, Aimee did not believe the news but slowly came to understand.

It's Finally Cool For Girls to Geek Out

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 06.22.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

Back when I was a kid, it wasn't cool to be uncool. To be called a "nerd" was to elicit scorn and its accompanying exclusion. How the tables have turned and the tides have shifted. There is a new trend towards teaching kids -- girls in particular -- coding skills in a growing number of cities.

Attention Parents: Mother Nature Needs Us

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 06.21.2014 | Canada
Dr. Shimi Kang

Given the state of the world and the tasks of the next generation, our survival depends on how we parent our children right now. We need to focus on the values we are encouraging for our children, and questioning whether or not our individual actions are helping our kids become the environmental stewards the world desperately needs.

When Did Being A Mom Become The 'World's Toughest Job'?

Melissa Carr | Posted 06.19.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

If you have time to watch a YouTube video and Facebook about it all damn day, motherhood hasn't completely swallowed you up -- you had enough time in your busy day for this, let's be honest, frivolity. Maybe, after all, it isn't the toughest job in the world.

Easter Isn't Christmas - Slow Down With the Gifts

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 06.18.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

It wasn't always this way. My oldest was shocked to discover that all Laura Ingalls got for Christmas one year was a rag doll, an orange, a piece of candy and some socks. My daughters' eyes pop out of their heads when their Granny tells them that when she was a little girl, Santa brought an apple, an orange and one toy for each child in her large family.

Why Making Mistakes Is Good For Your Kids

Dr. Shimi Kang | Posted 06.17.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Shimi Kang

Children who are exclusively rewarded for right answers or who are shunned or punished for making mistakes may become afraid of trying new things. Children are more open to learning and more willing to try harder when they are praised and rewarded for their efforts, not their results.

How To Stay Friends With Your Friends After They Have Kids

Heather Lin | Posted 06.14.2014 | Canada Living
Heather Lin

It happens to everyone as we get older. Either you have kids or your friends have kids. But the one factor that a lot of people seem to forget is that children aren't for everyone. That doesn't mean your friendships are doomed. There are actually a few tricks you can do to look like a hero to your parenting friends, with limited child-you interaction.

Do All Only Children Secretly Wish For Siblings?

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.10.2014 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

Do only children pine for siblings? Most of the parenting world seems to think so. Parent-friends have warned me of the perils of leading my son down the dark and isolating path travelled by the only child. Armed with some incentive to find the truth, I began a very casual and non scientific study.

What Baby Books Don't Tell You About Breastfeeding

Sandra Charron | Posted 06.10.2014 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

Even though mothers are anxious to see their child latching well and feeding on the breast, to know that their particular experience is occurring in most every room on the ward, does help somewhat to dispel the belief that they have done something wrong, that there is something wrong with them, and/or that their baby will never breastfeed.

Why Family-Focused Policies Are Good for Everyone

Nicole Letourneau | Posted 06.08.2014 | Canada Living
Nicole Letourneau

On every metric, children from disadvantaged homes face greater challenges to success than their more privileged peers. As a result, they do worse in school, get poorer paying jobs and suffer disproportionately from violence, addiction and mental health issues.

I Want To Watch Olaf the Snowman Melt and Die

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 06.07.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

We've been trapped inside by icy concussion-inducing, deathtrap snow. I'm like a bear in hibernation, except I'm adding to my fat rather than living off it. I feel like I'm in some kind of dreary winter-induced coma. My youngest didn't wear socks to daycare during the last snowstorm, and I didn't even notice.

Have Access To a Measles Vaccine? Get It Now

Rebecca Cuneo Keenan | Posted 06.06.2014 | Canada
Rebecca Cuneo Keenan

We wait until newborns are two months old before giving them their first shots. Some people have underlying medical conditions that prevent them from getting vaccinated. And in rare instances a vaccination just might not be effective in any given individual. So those of us who can vaccinate our children really should.

Disney Cage Match: Frozen vs. Brave vs. Tangled

Darlena Cunha | Posted 06.05.2014 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

I feel like it's time to put the modern Disney tale fight to an end. Let's take Frozen, Brave and Tangled, and gauge them component by component to ge...

What a Difference a Year Makes: The Unbearable Lightness of Being a Teen

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 05.30.2014 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

A year ago, I sat at my laptop at the dining room table and hammered out a long list of things I thought it was important for my daughter to know. W...

Five Things You Shouldn't Ask a South-Asian Stepmom

masalamommas | Posted 05.29.2014 | Canada Living
masalamommas

This question is similar to asking a married woman if she gets along with her husband's last long-term girlfriend. For most women the answer may be no. But for stepmothers the situation is much more complex. Your step children's mother's presence is deeply embedded in your lives because of the influence she has on them, even though you may rarely ever interact with her yourself.

Being a Good Parent Means Telling Kids It's OK to Give Up

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 05.27.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

Being a good parent isn't always about supporting your child in their endeavours no matter what. Was it better that we showed our children our support even though we knew the probable outcome, or would it have been a more prudent decision to have been honest with them from the outset, saving them from wasting time and worse -- the inevitable disappointment of failure?

I Want to Stop Smothering My Kids, But I Don't Know How

Rebecca Cuneo Keenan | Posted 05.27.2014 | Canada Living
Rebecca Cuneo Keenan

I've been reading about helicopter versus free range parenting for years now. They don't get the time or space to explore their neighbourhoods by themselves and learn independence in the process. If there was ever a question about which side I'd take, helicopter or free-range, I'd already long decided to be free-range. But it's not that easy.

Will My Kids Remember Me at My Best or My Worst?

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 05.25.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

Which memories will our children remember forever and which are they going to forget? Are they going to remember the few times I got upset when they spilled their milk or all the times I told them not to worry about it? Are they going to remember all the times I attended their school events or the few times I couldn't be there?

Are Hovering Parents Breeding Narcissistic Kids?

BabyPost | Posted 05.20.2014 | Canada Living
BabyPost

A new study suggests that because we played outside, away from our parents' sight, we were likely a generation of fewer narcissists. That's because, according to the study, free play breeds empathy and lack of it removes a valuable learning opportunity for children to care about what other children think and feel.

The Supernanny Is More Like a Substitute Mommy

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 05.19.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

Self-proclaimed "Supernanny" Jo Frost has recently released a book, in which she explains how to keep toddlers from running and ruining the lives of parents, and basic instructional advice about how to avoid complete meltdowns in public. Advising on how to discipline children when you don't have children at all, is sort of like me giving my teen son a few pointers on how to dress cool.

Who Has a More Satisfying Life: Parents or the Childfree?

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 05.19.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

A new report by Princeton University and Stony Brook University published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science has concluded that there is "very little difference" between the satisfaction of their lives between those with children, and those without. I like to think "satisfaction" is the absence of misery.

From Backstreet Boy To Backstreet Dad

HuffPost Canada Music | Leena Tailor | Posted 03.14.2014 | Canada Music

Last year was the year of Backstreet Boys, with the boy band celebrating their 20th anniversary, filming their upcoming documentary and receiving a co...

The Danger of Parents Who Police Other Parents

Stephanie Knaak | Posted 05.12.2014 | Canada
Stephanie Knaak

For my son's birthday, a parent wasn't comfortable with my husband and I driving her child from a gymnastics centre to our house. Fair enough. But what of the consequences of such vigilance towards our fellow parents? To what extent do these kinds of parent-against-parent preemptive risk aversion strategies threaten the fabric of mother-to-mother relations?

My Daugther's Math Homework Proves I'm Not Smarter Than a 5th Grader

Kathy Kaufield | Posted 05.10.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Kaufield

My 10-year-old daughter brought math questions home from school that I struggled to answer. I drew a complete blank on how to calculate the perimeter of a rectangle. Yep, I can now conclusively answer the question, "Are you smarter than a fifth grader?" No. No, I am not.