Should parents just stop trying to explain such inexplicable behaviour to children? Most adults don't understand it, how in the world can we be expected to explain it to our children. Is ignoring these types of utterly incomprehensible acts a better course of action to preserve the 'childhood innocence' that appears increasingly to be fleeting?
Lying isn't bad when you want to save someone from pain or confusion because they are too little to understand that the world can be ugly and bad. They have time to watch the news when they are bigger, to learn about terrorist attacks and shootings, about cheating and even strip clubs. But I promise, it won't be from me.
Being an adult, a parent, grandparent, caregiver, teacher or other adult who interacts with children is very hard work. If we are doing our job, we must tread in dangerous waters. How can we do this in a diverse and multi-layered society? Can we nurture, protect and educate children, all at the same time?
Kindness matters, I know this, I coach this, I speak about the power of kindness, and yet -- in my primary relationship (you know, that relationship with my husband), being kind seems to be in a wrestling match with being right. Being right just feels so good. It is a lustful emotion, an instinctual one, a need that can be sort of addiction.
I was trying to recall a day when I was a fantastic mom all day, where I managed to stay patient, positive and in the zone. More often than not, I flop back and forth between extremes like a fish out of water, I'm a fantastic mom, wait, nope I'm a shitty mom. It's incredible how quickly I can go from nailing it to absolutely shitting the bed.
Because my baby girl, you come from a proud line of loving, nurturing, loud laughing, often giggling, deeply feeling and wonderful women with curves who have been wounded by other people's aesthetic expectations and cheated by their own understanding of perfection. I want you to see me love myself for all the gorgeous, nurturing mamas that came before me.
His unwavering principle is something to marvel at. Principle supported by action. He didn't just talk the talk (which in itself he was highly-skilled it and evidenced in a litany of piercing quotes). He backed it up with action -- which was usually followed by some degree of conviction and courage -- cause being your own man is usually a road riddled with potholes, even in the best of times.
During my pregnancy and right after birth there were a lot of "warnings" about the havoc my little monster would create. How I wouldn't be able to function without sleep. How I would have to recalibrate. How I'd need to discipline. Heaps upon loads of advice on how to keep the baby from inconveniencing my routine, at any cost.
June 1 is the Global Day of Parents. Beyond traditional life lessons (think tying your shoes and learning to ride a bike), parents are also responsible for imparting good money management skills to their children. Traditionally it was men who were largely responsible for long term investing and financial planning for their families. But that's so 1960s. Good financial habits are something everyone can develop, and for many people, that starts with learning from their parents -- from Mom or Dad.
Shopping for dad is two-fold: the gift requires the right amount of meaning combined with practicality/function. When dealing with a new dad -- whether that refers to your brother, son, husband, cousin or friend -- the gift tends to carry even more weight. It's an exciting time in his life and you want to mark it with something perfect!
I have nothing but sympathy for the poor mother, so I was stunned to read comment after comment on Facebook condemning her for not keeping her son safe. What? How could she have anticipated that? Who would think a child could be capable of getting anywhere near a gorilla at a zoo? And any parent can tell you that when it comes to escaping your watchful eye, Houdini had nothing on a typical four-year-old.
If you're a caring parent, of course you want the best for your children. You think about their future and want them to be happy, healthy and successful in life. You want them to have good relationships when they grow up; meaningful pastimes and success in whatever job or career they eventually choose. When it comes to their future work life, they'll need important guidance from you, their parents.
You want whatever you're doing to be perfect, and you get so disappointed and annoyed when the vision in your head doesn't match the reality. I know you, my love, and I know that it's so frustrating for you when things don't go right, when you are not living up to your own very high expectations for yourself.