Parenting

On McDonald's, Electronics and Moderation...

Melissa Carr | Posted 08.04.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

There we were, enjoying our salty fries and other deep fried goodness, when I noticed a family sitting close by. Mom on her iPhone, kid one on an iTouch (with headphones on) and kid two on an iTouch (also with headphones on). There they were, eating their food, playing their games and uttering not a single word to one another. I'd never seen anything like it. And I could feel a little judgement of my own rising within.

Practicing for Three

Darlena Cunha | Posted 08.04.2013 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

Before your children get to three years old, you may want to practice, you know, so you don't accidentally eat them at some point during that rewardin...

Offering Mothering Advice to Myself

Lori Gard | Posted 07.30.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

When on a plane, they always tell you on the in-flight safety instructions to put your own gas mask on before you help the person next to you. And the same advice applies to parenting. Before you kill yourself being a parent, ask yourself this: "Have I brushed my own hair today?"

What Are the Rules of Being a Mother?

Lori Gard | Posted 07.30.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

I don't know about you, but every time I turn around, there it is. A message about what I, The Mother, should be doing. Or rather, shouldn't be doing. Enlighten me, if you will. What are The Rules?

It Should Go Without Saying, But Don't Name Your Baby "Hitler"

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 07.27.2013 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

I'm all for uniqueness when it comes to naming a child. After all, no one wants to give their child a name that will be shared by three or more kids in their grade school classroom. That being said, parents still need to consider certain parameters when making a decision that will affect their child for many years to come. Case in point: the poor child incredulously named "Adolph Hitler Campbell."

Porn Is Too Serious For Kids of Any Age

Lianne Castelino and Andrea Howick | Posted 07.26.2013 | Canada Living
Lianne Castelino and Andrea Howick

Why is porn not being policed on the net? Regardless of your opinion on the existence of porn in the world at large, children of any age SHOULD NOT have access to it. This is serious stuff. It deserves our undivided attention. Especially because kids, by and large, learn much by modelling behaviour they see.

Parenting Isn't a Competition

Lianne Castelino and Andrea Howick | Posted 07.24.2013 | Canada Living
Lianne Castelino and Andrea Howick

If we celebrate each others' successes rather than use them as a lightning rod for competition, our kids may actually understand the idea that what you have is really not important at the end of the day. What is important is who you are and how each of us treats each other.

Great Expectations In the Business World

Lianne Castelino and Andrea Howick | Posted 07.24.2013 | Canada Living
Lianne Castelino and Andrea Howick

Several years ago now, I learned a term within a business setting, taught by a consultant who was brought in to educate us on a bunch of different thi...

Do you Spend More Time Teaching Your Daughter Than Your Son?

r/ally | Posted 07.24.2013 | Canada Living
r/ally

Daughters get a lot more parental time investment than sons in reading, storytelling, and teaching of letters and numbers. This was the finding of a study done by Michael Baker of the University of Toronto and Kevin Milligan of the University of British Columbia.

The Art of Slowing Down After My Double Mastectomy

Naomi Angel | Posted 07.22.2013 | Canada Living
Naomi Angel

It has only been a couple weeks since the surgery, a double mastectomy, and my body is still in recovery mode. On some mornings, I can hear Nate playing downstairs with his dad and I feel my heart swell with happiness. "How lucky I am to be a part of this family," I think. On other mornings, on those when the pain is bad, I think how sad it is that I am in this bed and missing out on the cuteness that is surely happening downstairs. My chest is sore, but mostly it is numb. Watching Nate run and play and laugh reminds me that the surgery may have (temporarily) broken my body, but it certainly did not touch my heart, nor my capacity to feel love.

How To Give Your Teen Dating Advice When You've Never Dated

masalamommas | Posted 07.21.2013 | Canada
masalamommas

Like many Indian girls, I wasn't allowed to date when I was a teenager. But today, it's been a different childhood for my 18-year-old. In fact things are very different in my household. My husband and I do our best to cope with the reality that she wants to date, even though we never had the same opportunity as teens.

Tell Your Daughters They're Beautiful

Darlena Cunha | Posted 07.20.2013 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

I don't think that complimenting a little girl on her looks chips away at her self-esteem. I cannot see how simply telling a girl she's pretty somehow translates into telling her she's not pretty enough.

If You Think Having Three Kids Is Hard, Try Four, Five and Six

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.15.2013 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

A study by Today.com that suggests three is the most stressful number of children to have. A mom of three explains that the stress level increases when it comes to things like crossing the street, versus two kids. But I have four kids, and to the best of my recollection, I don't recall sprouting an extra arm when that last child arrived.

The Magic and Mayhem of Modern Mummyhood

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 07.12.2013 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

In my life, I have enjoyed 15 Mother's Days. The first one got off to a bit of a rocky start, (let's just say there's a certain man in my life who wil...

Would The Circus Buy My Four-Year-Old?

Melissa Carr | Posted 07.08.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

There are days when I feel like there is an alien invading my little boy's body...who is this demon? His sister went through a bit of the same at this age. Willful. Stubborn. Naughty. My darling son is all this with the added bonus of also being completely irrational (no...you cannot wear your basketball shorts out in the freezing rain), disobedient (I already told you, you are not allowed to eat Easter eggs for breakfast) and violent (if I had a dollar for every time I've gotten a foot in the boob...).

The Mother I Am Is Different Than the Mother I Thought I'd Be

Terri Coles | Posted 07.09.2013 | Canada Living
Terri Coles

I'm starting to accept that all the research in the world can't prepare you for the day-to-day realities of parenting, and that the parent you hope to be isn't necessarily the parent you will be when you are faced with the child you end up with -- who is, after all, an individual in his or her own right. What matters is that I am the right mother for him, and he is the perfect child for me.

Baby, I Have Breast Cancer: Breaking the News to a Child

Natacha V. Beim | Posted 07.07.2013 | Canada Alberta
Natacha V. Beim

As a parent, there is nothing more disconcerting than having to take something from your child. I've had parents call me late in the evening to ask me to open the school doors so they can recover their child's blanket.

What Do You Do When Your Kid Is Being Bullied?

Stephanie Knaak | Posted 07.04.2013 | Canada Living
Stephanie Knaak

"My daughter is 11 years old.The boys and the girls at school call her names that shouldn't even exist. They tell her she's ugly, that her face is like a pancake smothered in poop. They have created a 'We hate Brittany' club. I tell myself all the time -- 'this has to stop. And it has to stop now. Today.' But it never does."

Why I'm Not Hiding The Ugly Truth Of My Eating Disorder From My Kids

Marci Warhaft-Nadler | Posted 07.02.2013 | Canada Living
Marci Warhaft-Nadler

Recently I was asked if I ever worried that I was putting my children at risk for developing eating disorders by being so open and honest about my own. The truth is that they always knew their mom was a bit "different," they just didn't know why. I may have convinced myself that they were oblivious to my disorder, but how could that be true when we'd be walking out the door to go for dinner and one of them would ask, "Are you eating today, Mommy, or just watching?" or they'd shout, "Look, Mommy's a dinosaur!" because the bones of my spine would poke out so sharply from under my skin.

You Are Four Years Old Today

Vicki Murphy | Posted 06.30.2013 | Canada Living
Vicki Murphy

Max James Murphy, you sneaky rascal. How are you growing up so darn fast? You are four years old today. I am in awe. When people asked how old you...

Be the Mother You Wish You'd Had

Sylvia Forrest | Posted 06.30.2013 | Canada Living
Sylvia Forrest

No pain could have cut deeper than when my son told me he didn't know how it felt to be happy, when I was doing everything in my power to give him the best life I could. You just can't prepare for that. My job was to love him desperately, and never to give up hope. I did the best I could.

Reject "Girl Things" and "Boy Things" -- Sex Organs Don't Dictate Nurturing Or Adventure

Anupreet Sandhu Bhamra | Posted 06.27.2013 | Canada
Anupreet Sandhu Bhamra

"Look mom, Kabir is pretending to be a mommy!" My then four-year-old daughter pointed enthusiastically at her year-old brother, who lovingly pushed a ...

Trying to Balance Parenthood, My Work and My Passion

Vicki Murphy | Posted 06.28.2013 | Canada
Vicki Murphy

Oh look, a couple hours of spare time to blog. It was hiding behind the creative brief I brought home from the office, which was behind the dog's dand...

We're Done Having Kids: Knowing When To Stop Making Babies

Melissa Carr | Posted 06.27.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Melissa Carr

My daughter keeps asking for a little sister. At first it was cute...then it started to evolve into a daily request, which became harder and harder to address. I can relate. I also wanted a sister growing up. But now, I can't deny the fact that after 4.5 years postpartum, I finally feeling like I have my body "back." I am quite certain that I don't want to go down the pregnancy path again.

A Reminder to Live Life Large and in Colour

Lori Gard | Posted 06.20.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Oh! how easy it would be to just hide under the covers and ignore the bad guys. Pretending it would all go away it we just make a simple wish. But life is far better lived in 3-D. Lived in colour. Lived out loud, and very, very large.