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Using the principles I have developed over the years I have found a path to exceptional living. As a professional therapist I have been able to apply these principles to the clients I work with and have assisted them in achieving an exceptional life as well.
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As an elite athlete, I'm hyper attuned to my body and what it's trying to tell me. One of the privileges of being a high-profile athlete is that I have the opportunity to speak to many organizations, school groups, and fitness classes. I'm often asked what motivates me to sacrifice so much in order to train at the level I do.
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You want whatever you're doing to be perfect, and you get so disappointed and annoyed when the vision in your head doesn't match the reality. I know you, my love, and I know that it's so frustrating for you when things don't go right, when you are not living up to your own very high expectations for yourself.
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Social media has trained us to search for problems, in our lives and ourselves, where none exist. And unfortunately, this is a perfect storm for causing serious depression. Here's how to be mindful of that.
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Through the daily observation of your friends' "perfect" lives and the subsequent pressure to look like you're also living the ultimate life, you're essentially being trained to adopt a perfectionistic standard for what life is supposed to look like. And that is not good for you, ever.
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Last week I worked with a client who prides himself on his strong work ethic. Hard work and excellence matter to him (which is awesome!). The problem? He's burning himself out with 14-hour workdays. And he's calling it "strong work ethic."
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Changing something about your life is a big deal. You might not nail it the first time you try. In fact, you may never be perfect at this thing you want. That's a good thing! A serious mark of strength in a person is the ability to get up off the ground and try again and again.
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If, by some miracle, she makes it to age eighteen still sound of mind, it's time to bask in her glory! Sure, throw the big graduation party, but make sure it's all about you, baby!
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Last night, my husband spoke the three most terrifying words in the English language. "Take a break." I was horrified. My blood ran cold. "But, but..." "No buts about it. Take the day off. Why don't you have some fun?" he suggested, smiling. Fun? Fun!? I drew a blank. And that's when I knew I had a problem.
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Company is coming! Get rid of the couches. We can't let people know we SIT! ...There cannot be any sign of LIVING in this house... I want this place looking like a new Mediterranean fusion restaurant by noon... This is a dishtowel. I need a hand towel. What are we? Barbarians!?!" Does this ring any bells?
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Perfectionism is a BEAST. So are its cousins, approval-seeking and overachieving. If you've ever struggled with these issues, you know they wreak havoc on your career and your personal life. Armed with love, understanding, these books will help you chill the heck out so you can have a happier life.
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When it comes to academic achievement, many high achievers run into an annoying paradox -- they are highly motivated to succeed, but the resulting anxiety and pressure actually decreases their motivation and concentration, and ultimately causes problems with achievement.
If you're a frenzied striver (and lord knows I have lots of experience in this department), you struggle and push and rage to get more, but before you take a moment to appreciate what you have, it's on to the next thing. Better. Higher. More stuff. More accomplishments. More accolades. Enough. You have enough. Notice it. Appreciate it.
One way or the other Valentine's Day can create expectations, and more often than not the higher the expectation the bigger the disappointment. As a therapist I have noted that the most romantic people often end up the most disappointed people.