We seem, as a culture, so willing to deny and rationalize the very things that we inherently know are not good for us now, and certainly pose problems for our future. I'll admit easily that change is hard, especially in our busy lives, but what's the alternative?

I realize that holding on to something or someone for longer than necessary, does not make them or it "belong" to you. It actually has the opposite effect. The stronger and longer you hold on to them, the more they will wish for freedom. They will desperately want to seek air outside of you.

What three words would I choose? After much thought and deliberation, I came up with health, acceptance, and authenticity. What three words would you choose?

You create a lot of unhappiness for yourself out of your impatience. Why not give yourself a break, enjoy the present moment and have more reasonable, realistic expectations of how long things should take? You'll be much happier, less anxious and more competent if you do this.

Take time to regularly tune into your thoughts. What story are you telling yourself, and how well is that story serving you? When you notice a negative story and a negative feeling associated with it, stop and fill your brain with other thoughts that will serve you better.

When my marriage fell apart about a year ago, I knew there were only two ways to cope: I could be super melodramatic about how unfair life was or I could do something I'd never done before -- I could let my relationship epically fall apart as honestly and gracefully as possible.