Rape

For Raping a Little Girl, Five Years in Prison Isn't Enough

Anne Theriault | Posted 09.09.2014 | Canada Politics
Anne Theriault

I'm sorry, I didn't realize that a person required a previous criminal record in order to receive adequate sentencing for years of abuse and rape of a minor. This story has received almost no attention. A friend of mine in Halifax tried to contact the national media, but they just took her name and number and said they would call her back. They never called her back. They either just weren't interested or else felt that it was too contentious -- but given the high-profile treatment other rape cases have received in the media, the latter doesn't seem very likely, does it?

Many Things in Life Are Grey, But Rape Is Black and White

Lauren Messervey | Posted 08.29.2014 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

If a woman says "no" to you, you are a rapist. If at any point during sexual contact she says "no," you are a rapist. If the woman expresses a desire for you to stop in any way, including words such as "this is not OK," you are a rapist. If the woman is too far under the influence to verbally give consent to a sexual act, you are a rapist. There is no colour in these rules. These are the black and the white.

Laws Don't Rape Women. Men Do

Michelle Brock | Posted 08.23.2014 | Canada Politics
Michelle Brock

While some women would no doubt make plenty of money by running escort services or choosing a few well-paying clients, the majority of those in prostitution do not have that kind of relative bargaining power. And considering that we share a border with the U.S., not only will decriminalization lead to increased demand from Canadian citizens, but also from our southern neighbours.

Pray for the Kidnapped Nigerian Schoolgirls

Debbie Wolfe | Posted 07.10.2014 | Canada
Debbie Wolfe

With every day that passes, the Nigerian schoolgirls could be moving further into dangerous territory of all kinds. Exploitation like the kinds they may be facing can have intensely disturbing effects on a child's social, emotional cognitive and spiritual well-being -- as well as their long-term development.

It's Been One Year to the Day Since I Last Saw Rehtaeh Alive

Glen Canning | Posted 06.02.2014 | Canada Living
Glen Canning

Today marks one year since I last saw my daughter Rehtaeh alive. The last time we spoke, the last good bye, and the last "I love you." She got out of my car and walked into her mom's house. On the way home she asked if we could stop at McDonald's. How I wish we did, one last time. Rae passed away April 7, 2013. It's been a year-long nightmare but I try to keep hold of myself. Now that I'm outspoken about our daughter's struggles I've unfortunately attracted the attention of the worst society has to offer. They send messages reminding me Rehtaeh is "worm food," she's dead because I failed as a father. But it's mainly through talking that I've learned the difference Rehtaeh made and the impact she's had on others.

Miss World Becomes Rare Public Face Of Sexual Assault

CP | Aron Heller, The Associated Press | Posted 05.21.2014 | Canada Impact

NETANYA, Israel - When 18-year-old Israeli beauty queen Linor Abargil was crowned Miss World in 1998, the tears streaming down her cheeks appeared to ...

A "Rape Culture" Tutorial for the Naysayers

Toula Drimonis | Posted 05.06.2014 | Canada Living
Toula Drimonis

First off, and since International Women's Day is around the corner, can we take a minute to define 'rape culture' for those who seem to think it's an irrational and highly charged blanket statement that seeks to vilify all men for all sins? Even men who consider themselves feminists don't often get it, because they too come from a place of unconscious privilege.

Men Should Stand Up to Rapists, Not Befriend Them

Glen Canning | Posted 04.27.2014 | Canada
Glen Canning

Rapists rely on other men to excuse and justify their crimes against women. Other men who'll laugh at their jokes, invite them to parties, play sports with them, introduce them to other women. Men who'll give them jobs, feed them, and help them blame their victims even if it's by indifference. Men, good men, need to stand up and do to rapists and their supporters what we do to child molesters. Imagine the difference it would make if a man who jokes about rape and always doubts victims entered a room to silence, whispers, stares, and looks of disgust from other men. There is no difference between a man who rapes and a man who befriends and defends him.

A Letter To Proud Men Who Think "No" Means "Yes"

Eternity E Martis | Posted 04.08.2014 | Canada Living
Eternity E Martis

Dear proud men who have taken a woman's "No" to sexual activity, touching, or intercourse as a "Yes" instead of respecting her wishes; to men who have...

How To Undermine a Rape Victim: Woody Allen Edition

Anne Theriault | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada Living
Anne Theriault

Do not treat the victim as if they are a person with agency and thoughts and feelings. Tell yourself that it's rational and logical to want to know all sides of the story, though you never want to know the other side, the perpetrator's side, when your house is broken into or your wallet is stolen or your child is hit by a car. Tell yourself that we can never know for sure what happened and since a man's life can be destroyed by accusations of rape, it's best to err on the side of caution. Do not think about the girl whose life was destroyed when she was seven. Above all, never, ever, ever think about the ways that you might be complicit in this.

Should We Reintroduce "Rape"?

Michael Plaxton | Posted 03.26.2014 | Canada Politics
Michael Plaxton

Rob Anders, a Conservative Member of Parliament in Calgary, has announced that he will introduce a private members' bill seeking to reintroduce the crime of "rape." The proposal has met with some enthusiasm in some circles. That is not surprising. Well before the language of "rape" was excised from the Criminal Code, in 1983, the idea of collapsing all forms of non-consensual sexual touching into an all-encompassing offence of "sexual assault" was deeply controversial. One of the concerns raised is that, by restoring "rape" to the Criminal Code, other forms of sexual assault will be perceived as less significant.

Talking to My Son About #Rapeface

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Sandra Hawken Diaz

Last week my 12-year-old son and his friends used a term I hadn't heard before: "rape face." So we sat down to talk. He was emphatic that #rapeface wasn't actually about rape and rolled his eyes with a "mom, what's the big deal?" We need to be having these conversations with our kids and with our own peers about reclaiming words like rape if we want to start making a big deal about putting an end to rape culture.

4 Convicted In India Bus Rape Case

AP | KATY DAIGLE and SHIVANI RAWAT | Posted 11.10.2013 | Canada

NEW DELHI — An Indian court convicted four men Tuesday of the fatal gang rape of a young woman on a moving New Delhi bus, an attack that set off wav...

Hey SMU, There's No Funny in Rape

Toula Drimonis | Posted 11.06.2013 | Canada Living
Toula Drimonis

When 80 student leaders (both men and women) at Saint Mary's University stand up to chant an utterly despicable chant about non-consensual sex with minors to a group of 300 freshmen, sorry, but that's crossing the line, and I absolutely fail to see the humour in it. To casually dismiss what happened at SMU as an isolated issue with a flippant shrug of the shoulders is to negate the very real fact that we don't live in a post-feminist world, and there continues to be a very strong link between how women are perceived and the disrespect and violence actively and routinely shown to them in everyday life.

A Victory for Victims of Sexual Violence

Senator Mobina Jaffer | Posted 11.03.2013 | Canada Politics
Senator Mobina Jaffer

Over the past several years, hundreds of Kenyan girls have gone to the police in the town of Meru to report that they had been raped. The officers responded with disbelief and refused to take action. In May 2013, the girls won a striking victory. In a landmark decision, the court ordered the police to enforce the rape laws and take action against the perpetrators.

Read Rehtaeh's Story Then Tell Me My Daughter Wasn't Raped

Glen Canning | Posted 10.10.2013 | Canada
Glen Canning

I truly hope you read this with an open mind and just try to forget everything you know or think you know about this case. When you're finished you can conclude for yourself if you believe my daughter was telling the truth when she told the police she was raped.

Banning Child Porn Won't Hide it From Pedophiles

Graham Templeton | Posted 09.30.2013 | Canada Politics
Graham Templeton

Try to find some child pornography. Go on. Head to Google, or Bing, or even a porn-specific search engine, and try to devise a search string capable of returning pedophilic images or video. I'll wait. Once you're done, we'll meet back up in the next paragraph. In reacting to the story of murdering pedophile Mark Bridger, who was an avid viewer of child pornography, Cameron leapt to abandon his conservative ideals and swing the hammer of censorship without stopping to ask the single most pertinent question: How did Mark Bridger find this child pornography in the first place?

Consensual Rape and the Culture of Victim Blaming

Shannon McClennan | Posted 09.25.2013 | Canada Alberta
Shannon McClennan

This isn't the blog post I intended to write as my first contribution to Huffington Post Alberta. A lover of the arts, I wanted to be lightness and color, attempting--in my own way--to bring more much deserved attention to Calgary's burgeoning arts and culture scene. But then, things happen that derail me. Things like the 2013 Wimbledon women's champion--Marion Bartoli--being verbally assaulted online because she's "too ugly to win"(more on that later) and Marte Deborah Dalelv, of Norway, being acquitted of consensual rape following a business trip to Dubai, United Arab Emirates.

"You Will Get Raped in That Dress"

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 09.11.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Hawken Diaz

According to a recent study, nearly one-quarter of adults aged 18 to 34 said women may provoke sexual assault by being drunk and 17 per cent believe women invite assaults by wearing short skirts. These antiquated attitudes are not held by the old-fashioned or aging demographic but by younger Canadians who. Why?

The One Thing "Don't Be That Girl" Got Right

Graham Templeton | Posted 09.11.2013 | Canada Living
Graham Templeton

Rape education and prevention currently gives precisely no thought to appealing to its actual audience, and approaches men in a way that immediately puts them in a defensive frame of mind. Perhaps it's time to consider that what we need is not more anti-rape initiatives, but smarter ones.

What Would You Do if Your Spouse Was Your Rapist?

Lawrence D. Elliott | Posted 08.11.2013 | Canada Living
Lawrence D. Elliott

This week, I had a drink with a very good friend. He's currently in a relationship with a wonderful woman whose ex-husband, the father of her children also happens to be the man who raped and brutally sodomized her for the last four years of their nine-year marriage. No one believed the story of her ordeal. No one in her family. Not one of her friends. Disbelief is a cruel after-effect of rape. It's also the trump card of the rapist. The burden is all too often placed on the victim, not the perpetrator. And when it's a spouse, he knows how to make the victim feel so worthless, guilty and low, that she'll avoid doing what is necessary.

Rape Jokes on Facebook Aren't Funny, Zuckerberg

Glen Canning | Posted 07.28.2013 | Canada Living
Glen Canning

Are there no fathers working at Facebook? No brothers or husbands? Where are the men and why are they silent about a company policy that jokes about rape and violence against women are not wrong so long as they appear in the humour section? Allowing for rape jokes puts Facebook on the same level as all the other women-hating garbage out there in cyberspace. I can't image working for a company that would allow for something as sick as rape jokes. Not in my position. Not after seeing what rape did to my beautiful, talented daughter. I can still hear her cry and see the hurt on her face. Man to man, Mr. Zuckerberg, I need your help.

Teaching My Kids to Stand Up for the Underdog

Debra Goldblatt-Sadowski | Posted 07.09.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Goldblatt-Sadowski

As I sit here, almost seven months pregnant, I'm faced with thinking about what the future holds for generations to come. I want to teach my children to do the right thing -- always. But with the layers of social media, experimentation with sex and drugs earlier than ever before, and the apparent lack of support from our justice system, how can I make sure they are safe?

Rape Culture Knows No Borders

Anne Theriault | Posted 06.27.2013 | Canada Living
Anne Theriault

In India, a five-year-old girl was kidnapped, raped, tortured and left for dead. This, on the heels of the brutal gang rape in India that happened back in December. And a story about a six-year-old Indian girl who was raped. And a story about 11- and 13-year-old sisters who were raped by their mother's boyfriend. All of these rapes happened within a week's span. Rape culture knows no borders. We all live in it. We all participate in it.

Why These Five "Solutions" Won't End Rape Culture

Anupreet Sandhu Bhamra | Posted 06.24.2013 | Canada Living
Anupreet Sandhu Bhamra

Last month, I wrote how patriarchy and racism give birth to rape culture, not a drunk woman or her miniskirt. But it is baffling to see the dialogue outside of these platforms going off on a tangent, in random directions. This needs to stop, now. Here are five "solutions" that aren't stopping rape culture.