Canada Rape

Nate Parker's Past Won't Be Why I Boycott The Birth Of A Nation

Lauren Bialystok | Posted 09.13.2016 | Canada Living
Lauren Bialystok

Survivors of sexual violence may not be able to watch Parker's work for similar reasons, and that's fine. But don't sit it out on principle. In the year of Black Lives Matter, #HollywoodSoWhite and a certain presidential candidate, Parker's questionable past doesn't disqualify him from advancing urgent conversations about race and American history.

McGill Must Change The Way It Handles Sexual Assault

Paniz Khosroshahy | Posted 09.06.2016 | Canada Living
Paniz Khosroshahy

I'm going to provide some gruesome details of rape to get the attention of the people who need to listen. I have tried more "respectable" ways of demanding accountability from McGill, ways that honour my own dignity, and they failed. At this point, I know nobody will listen unless I put my body on the line and make a scene.

Self-Love For Sexual Trauma Survivors Is The Key To Healing

Nydia Dauphin | Posted 09.01.2016 | Canada
Nydia Dauphin

My personal journey reconnecting with myself after sexual trauma was long and sinuous. I went through different phases as I'm sure most of us do: outr...

Montreal Puppet Show Plays Song Called 'Prison Bi***' To Children

CP | The Canadian Press | Posted 09.01.2016 | Canada

Apparently it was, "the result of a series of small mistakes."

Beautiful And Brainy: 6 Inspiring Women

Posted 07.09.2016 | Canada Living

Seven women who are embracing their own unique beauty and proving that behind their "pretty faces" is a powerful, intelligent, person.

An Open Letter To The Father Of Stanford Rapist Brock Turner

Lauren Messervey | Posted 06.08.2016 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

In the days following a heart-breaking letter from the victim, Brock Turner, promising frat boy, now rapist, has had the public in an uproar over the disgustingly light sentence he received. It was bad enough that a judge was more worried about the life of a rapist than he was about the life of a victim, but Turner's father, Dan, made the world even more sick to their stomachs. In a statement to the court, Mr. Turner said that Brock would, "Never be his happy go lucky self with that easy going personality and welcoming smile," and that a heavy punishment would not match his son's "20 minutes of action."

Moms And Dads, Teach Consent Along With The Birds and Bees

Jessica Holmes | Posted 03.30.2016 | Canada Parents
Jessica Holmes

I know this makes you uncomfortable to talk about. I sure don't want to hear it, either. But I need to. You're the people I trust most, and my first line of defence against regrettable or unwanted sexual encounters. Don't limit the sex talk to periods and how babies are made. Tell me EVERYTHING!

As A Counsellor, Here's Why I Think We Should Believe Survivors

Sandy Kiaizadeh | Posted 03.26.2016 | Canada Living
Sandy Kiaizadeh

There is no one common reaction to sexual assaults. Survivors' behaviours following such traumatic events can vary from minimizing the incident and pretending everything is fine (e.g. kissing and cuddling in the park, or writing gushing love letters, as DuCoutere did following the assault); to suppressing the incident altogether, essentially blocking it from your memory; to blaming yourself, somehow, in an attempt to rationalize the trauma. It is not unusual in my caseload to see women, years after the fact, still believing they were somehow responsible for the incident.

I Understand The Women Who Accused Ghomeshi, I've Been There

Lauren Messervey | Posted 03.30.2016 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

This is the first time I have ever spoken publicly about what happened to me. It wasn't the first time I'd had an experience like this, but I pray to God that it was the last. I have been through countless hours of therapy and am now in a very healthy relationship with the greatest human being anyone could have the pleasure of knowing, and for that, I consider myself to be very lucky. Even though I felt better, I stayed silent, but the reason why I kept my silence for so long is not because it didn't happen. I kept my silence because of what happened during the Jian Ghomeshi trial.

A Rape Survivor's Reaction To The Jian Ghomeshi Verdict

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 03.24.2016 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

I was overcome with an immense feeling that can only be described as grief -- knowing that when the lights of the cameras dim, when the trial is no longer part of the news cycle, and when Jian Ghomeshi puts all of this in his rearview mirror, the loss and trauma will continue to reverberate in the lives of these three incredibly brave women, just as it echoes in the lives of survivors across the country and around the world.

These Fill-In-The-Blanks Show The Darkest Side Of Narcissism

Lenora Thompson | Posted 03.15.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

What if narcissism isn't what we assume it is? Yes, narcissists project an über-confident, egotistical image but most researchers believe this is merely a smokescreen to disguise extremely low or even non-existent self-esteem. I thought why not demonstrate it because actions speak louder than words.

Why Is Kesha Being Punished?

Marcia Sirota | Posted 02.24.2016 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

Sexual assault against women is rampant. Thousands of women are subject to it, every day, all over the world. Here in North America, where we pride ourselves on fairness and justice, women who make claims of sexual assault are often denied justice and even more often, they're raked over the coals by the lawyers of the men who've been accused.

Society Still Guilts Sexual Assault Victims For Defending Themselves

Donald D'Haene | Posted 02.12.2016 | Canada Living
Donald D'Haene

I grew up with men and women of faith telling me that a woman who does not physically fight off a rapist is guilty of fornication, yet she must not fight off a physical attack because violence is a sin. Methinks only the accused comes out of these scenarios without blame. Am I right?

Focusing On Sexual Assault Victims Helps A Perpetrator Disappear

Guila Benchimol | Posted 02.11.2016 | Canada Living
Guila Benchimol

Many assumptions have been made about the contact that all three complainants initiated with Jian Ghomeshi following their alleged assaults, which they neglected to mention to the police or the Crown. Henein, Ghomeshi's counsel, has implied that this means the victims were never assaulted, a suggestion which both women deny. In sexual assault trials, evidence is often brought forth of victims communicating with the perpetrator or making statements that seem to downplay what went on. Such actions are in fact consistent with how victims often rationalize what was done to them.

Lucy DeCoutere, I Believe In You

Danila Botha | Posted 02.08.2016 | Canada Living
Danila Botha

I read about the way you came forward against a man who you allege has sexually assaulted you. I don't know if everyone who hears about you appreciates the importance of you waiving your anonymity and giving your name and face to the case. For a person as clearly dignified and graceful as you, a captain in the Royal Canadian Air Force no less, it must have been a nightmare. You had everything to lose, and nothing to gain. I don't know if people appreciate the complexity of what you're presenting to them, but statistically, 80 per cent of sexual assaults occur with a person women know.

5 Things I've Learned From Being A Survivor Of Rape

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 02.02.2016 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

As I suspect is the case with many other people across the country, I am closely watching the Jian Ghomeshi trial. There were times yesterday when I found myself holding my breath, wishing that this very public trial might be a pivotal moment in our society -- one in which we can finally begin to openly and honestly address the prevalence of sexual violence in our communities.

Revealing I Was Sexually Abused Lost Me The Mother I Never Had

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 01.15.2016 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

After what feels like a lifetime of battling drug and alcohol addiction, and my own tenuous mental health issues, three years ago -- at the age of 47 -- I finally found the strength to tell my wife and adult son that I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Like too many other survivors of childhood sexual violence who decide to go public with their disclosure, I have lost contact with my mother and my siblings as a result. If you really want to know how to destroy an already fragile soul, take away the one thing that a survivor of sexual violence needs most -- connection, which equates as validation and worthiness.

Ontario Needs To Do More About Doctors Who Abuse Patients

Lorian Hardcastle | Posted 01.08.2016 | Canada Living
Lorian Hardcastle

Ontario's College of Physicians and Surgeons receives numerous deeply concerning reports of doctors sexually abusing their patients each year despite the adoption of a "zero tolerance" approach to such abuse 20 years ago. This persistent problem has eroded public trust in doctor self-regulation.

3 Important Questions About The Bill Cosby Charges

Lauren Messervey | Posted 12.31.2015 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

It finally happened. After months of accusations from over 50 women with horrific tales of sexual assault, Bill Cosby's luck has run out. On December 30th, 2015, Cosby stood before a judge, faced charges of indecent assault, and paid more money in bail than most people see in their lifetimes. If convicted, Cosby could face a mere $25,000 fine and ten years in prison. These are charges from only ONE of the women, Andrea Constand, who says she became friends with Cosby when she worked at Temple University.

Bill Cosby's Charges Show Us How The Legal System Fails Women

Marcia Sirota | Posted 12.31.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

I've been writing about the politics of sexual assault for a while now, and it seems apparent that for a woman who's been sexually assaulted, the decision to go to the police and to press charges is fraught with complications. She not only has to consider the discomfort of her assault becoming public knowledge, but she must face the daunting possibility that her reputation will be dragged through the mud by the defendant's attorney; that the DA will choose, as Mr. Coster did, not to prosecute; or that the judge will find for the defendant.

A Canadian Is The Woman Named In Cosby Sex Assault Charge

The Huffington Post Canada | Emma Paling | Posted 12.30.2015 | Canada Living

Andrea Constand was the first woman to come forward with allegations against Cosby.

This Year Has Gone A Long Way Toward Ending Our Culture Of Sexual Violence

Reva Seth | Posted 12.05.2015 | Canada Living
Reva Seth

You can know a statistic -- even be horrified by it -- but when those statistics become stories, and those stories are coming from women you've known, worked with, are related to or voted for and then the stories just keep coming -- the frame on the issue shifts.

Can Social Media Be Considered A Safe Place To Talk About Rape?

Lauren Messervey | Posted 12.02.2015 | Canada
Lauren Messervey

When we talk about something that not everyone wants to hear, there is going to be backlash as much as there will be support. There are no guarantees that the internet is a safe place to talk about anything, let alone rape. But that does not mean that we should stop talking.

UBC Failed Its Sexual Assault Victims On Every Level

Michael Stewart | Posted 11.27.2015 | Canada British Columbia
Michael Stewart

The women Mordvinov allegedly assaulted made multiple complaints at the departmental level, at UBC's Equity Inclusion Office, to Associate Vice-President of Equity and Inclusion Sara-Jane Finlay, the UBC ombudsperson and Student Conduct and Safety Services. There were likely more. Every office failed these women.

The Path To Freedom Starts With Recognizing We Are Not Free

Diane Hill | Posted 11.23.2015 | Canada Living
Diane Hill

The park is almost dark. As I watch my shadow, I notice my hips swaying back and forth as I walk. I wonder if my walk is provocative. I am alone on the path. I wish there was someone else around, then I think: "But what if it's a guy? Or two guys?" These are women's thoughts. These thoughts spring from the subconscious knowledge that we are never safe. At any moment, we might be targeted, perhaps hunted like an animal. We are always potential prey. In our attempts to stay safe, we behave. We speak politely and avoid eye contact. We twist our lives and stay small. In the process, we can become completely detached from who we might have been.