Your partner wants you to stop checking your Facebook feed at the movie theatre. To stop getting that glazed-over look in your eye, the one you get when you're in the middle of an actual face-to-face conversation, but you feel that itch to check your phone. Your partner really, really wants you to stop ignoring them or half-listening as you check your emails for the gazillionth time that day. Your partner wants you to stop texting your "friend" while you're lying in the privacy of your bed.
Just less than ten years ago if someone you knew was in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, they didn't discuss it, and neither did you. Most people went by the notion of once you were married, you were married for better or for worse. Therefore most people who were in unhealthy relationships stayed in these relationships, and if the relationship did somehow end in most cases it was due to the death of one of the people in the relationship.
Throughout the teen years, vulnerabilities crop up. That, in turn, makes them susceptible to controlling friends. To identify negative relationships your teen needs to clearly understand the attributes of possessiveness, isolation and jealousy. These are strategies used by others to control a person.
When does a wife become an Alpha Parent? When they become the person who hovers over her husband when he changes the baby's diaper or prepares a meal, just waiting for him to do something wrong -- or rather, something different than she does -- so that she can correct him, criticize him or just take over with an exasperated, "Oh, I'll do it."
The truth is, many opposite-sex friendships are sustained because of a simmering attraction between two people. If circumstances were different, they could easily be sexual partners. And they know it. This underlying current of attraction makes talking, texting and spending time together as "just friends" all the more exciting. It has an erotic edge to it.
Ever get this nagging feeling that your man is pulling away from you, but you don't know why? Your mind creates vivid images about him spending time with another woman because somewhere deep down inside you don't feel good enough for him. If this is something you're experiencing, then your man is dating an insecure woman.
Kindness matters, I know this, I coach this, I speak about the power of kindness, and yet -- in my primary relationship (you know, that relationship with my husband), being kind seems to be in a wrestling match with being right. Being right just feels so good. It is a lustful emotion, an instinctual one, a need that can be sort of addiction.