Relationship Advice

When's the Right Time to "Put Down" Your Relationship?

Sue Nador | Posted 03.15.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Fourteen months. Fourteen months is the time I have in my head for how long I would try to save my marriage if things started to go south (hopefully it will never come to that). But once we limp past the one year mark, I think I would rationally assess whether something has shifted so irrevocably in our relationship that it was time to take it off life support.

Wish Your Man Understood You Better? Team Therapy May Help

Susan Valentine | Posted 03.12.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

We put our team therapy approach into action -- three of us working with one client at the same time. Over time we've come to understand why men seem to prefer this team approach to therapy. Not only can we help navigate rough emotional terrain, and get to the root cause, but we can help translate and teach them the emotional language of their spouse.

Patti Stanger, The Millionaire Matchmaker, Shares Tips For How To Find Love After 40

Sacha DeVoretz | Posted 03.05.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Sacha DeVoretz

The motivator for me to try online dating in the first place was Patti Stanger. Stanger is an American matchmaker and television personality, known for starring in the reality series The Millionaire Matchmaker. Stanger shared with me the top tips for women over 40 looking for love.

Men: Such Simple Creatures

Sue Nador | Posted 03.04.2014 | Canada
Sue Nador

My husband buys an average of nine magazines per month, subscribes to three daily newspapers, and owns about five million books. He has a strong emoti...

How to Recover From 'Relationship Trauma'

Susan Valentine | Posted 02.16.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

You need to see that your partner has suffered too, not from your anger, but from the weight of his or her own actions. If you believe your partner deeply regrets his actions, knows he was wrong, and even feels he violated his own personal standards, you will feel more trusting and open to forgiveness.

Is It Love .. Or Is It Loneliness?

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 12.09.2013 | Canada Living

A new study on loneliness may force some people to take a good honest look at their relationship and reevaluate their choice of partner. Because ac...

The One Thing All Couples Should Do in Bed

Susan Valentine | Posted 02.04.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

Sure, you may still end up fighting, but it won't be nearly as acute. And haven't you noticed how much easier everything seems when you and your loved one are close? How life feels better? Deadlines seem less daunting, children seem less demanding, and other stressors become more manageable.

Wanna Get the Girl? Date Like it's 1946

Debra Macleod | Posted 02.04.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If my email inbox is any indicator, it's clear that modern men and women are clueless about how to behave on a first date. If you want to attract a quality person, you need to behave like a quality person. So check out these 1940s-inspired dating tips that might bring a little timeless sophistication to your dating M.O.

How To Stay Married For 78 Years

CBC | Posted 02.01.2014 | Canada Living

For a country where four out of ten first marriages end in divorce, Bertie and Bill Nickerson have some professional tips. The Liverpool, N.S., coup...

Advice to Step-Parents From My Inner Teen

Sue Nador | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

My inner teen would like to offer some "don'ts" to step-parents-in-training. Let's face it. If parenting teenagers is hard work, step-parenting them is even harder. It takes a whole lot more patience, tolerance and sensitivity to get through the teenage years with kids that are not of your own making.

Could A Bracelet Help Your Long Distance Relationship?

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 11.14.2013 | Canada Living

If texting, emailing, and Skype weren't enough, couples in long-distance relationships can now wear matching TapTap wristbands, which send vibrational...

Wives Hold The Key To Happy Marriages, Says New Study

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 11.07.2013 | Canada Living

When it comes to a happy marriage, in both the long and short term, a new US study says that wives hold the power. University of Berkeley researche...

With Housework, There Are No "Pink" or "Blue" Jobs

Sue Nador | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

I was nattering on about the inequalities of housework to my lesbian friend Marsha. Most hetero couples experience conflict about who does what around the house, and how much of it. But Marsha had some wise advice for us heteros on how to avoid chore wars. Don't categorize jobs as "pink" or "blue."

The Secret to Why Couples Fight -- And It's Not What You Think

Susan Valentine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada
Susan Valentine

With our couple, Robyn feels insecure about their connectedness. She wants to feel close. So when he comes home late, she turns that into, "I'm not important. He doesn't care." She feels hurt or abandoned, and that's why she gets upset. On the other hand, Blair needs validation. His sense of identity and confidence are important.

We Had a Great First Date But I Never Heard From Him Again. Sound Familiar?

Collette Gee | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Collette Gee

I examined many books on the market designed to help women to attract Mr. Right. I researched lessons on how to make it past the first date, what to say and not to say, how to dress, and when and how to ration out the first kiss. The more I read and compared notes, the stronger the question became: When is it okay to stop pretending?

Can "Oil Patch Marriages" Ever Work?

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Alberta
Debra Macleod

Since the oil boom of the 1970's, many Alberta wives have called themselves "oil patch widows" due to work rotations that require their husbands to be away for weeks or months at a stretch. It is understandable how this physical separation can lead to an emotional disconnection between two people who are often leading separate lives.

Why a Husband Might Miss His Dog More Than He Misses His Wife

Sue Nador | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Jessie is more unconditionally loving and far less bitchy than me (even though she is technically the only real bitch in our family). For her, it's not a question of, "you scratch behind my ears, and I'll scratch behind yours". Nope, she will give unlimited affection and not expect a thing in return (although she won't say no to a liver treat).

If You Think All Women Are "Crazy," Take a Look at Yourself

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

I recently saw a man in my office who asked me why all the women he dated turned out to be "crazy." If all the women you date eventually go off the deep end, perhaps it's time to tune-up your relationship skills. To some extent, I had to agree -- there are some lipsticked loonies out there. Then again, the male gender has its share of jerks and mama's boys. Perhaps it's time to stop pointing fingers at the opposite sex and start engaging in a little self-reflection, especially if you're re-living the same dysfunctional relationship over and over again.

A Married Man's Take On Why Men Cheat

AskMen.com | Posted 10.30.2013 | Canada Living
AskMen.com

Cheating is about one thing, and that's the transgressor's inability or unwillingness to reconcile the feeling of love with the decision to love. Feeling love is easy, because it's a largely chemical affair. But, once we cross that bridge into a serious, committed monogamous relationship, those feelings aren't enough. The decision to love is another matter entirely, and one that many cannot come to terms with.

20 Things You Should Tell Your Wife

2life | Neil Morton | Posted 08.22.2013 | Canada Living

Sometimes it's hard to know exactly what to say. We're often told what not to say — anything about your partner's weight, their habits or th...

My Marriage Is Like a Refrigerator Delivery

Sylvia Forrest | Posted 10.16.2013 | Canada Living
Sylvia Forrest

It struck me that our marriage has functioned a lot like the arrival of the new fridge. Like the delivery men, David and I have managed heavy burdens by sharing the load, reaching out towards each other, and moving carefully in the same direction. A cracked fridge doesn't even hit the radar.

Why We Still Tell Women to Sell Themselves

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 09.25.2013 | Canada Business
Sarah Vermunt

I was recently dismayed by a piece of advice given from one businesswoman to another. an entrepreneur sought advice on how to get mental and emotional support from her husband as she worked to grow her new business. In short, she was told the solution was to verbally appreciate her husband more, to "tell him he's your hero", and to orally appreciate her husband more... if you know what I mean. The advice is delivered in cute and quirky way, but it's impossible to miss the message. We're supposed to patronize our men, tell them they're our heroes, and then follow up with sexual favours? Ouch.

Canada's Best Date Spots

Posted 07.23.2013 | Canada Living

Whether you’re long term with the love of your life or recently found the date of your dreams, step up your dating game and explore new romantic te...

13 Easy Ways To Make Your Partner Feel Special

2life | Kate Drummond | Posted 07.12.2013 | Canada Living

Your partner is the most important person in your life -- but how often do you make them feel that way? Surprising your significant other with...

Living With Psoriasis: Six Tips for a Happy Relationship

Kimberly Moffit | Posted 08.27.2013 | Canada Living
Kimberly Moffit

Every relationship has its challenges, whether it's penciling-in quality time together or trying to reignite a flame. But for Canadians living with a chronic illness, engaging in relationships can be especially tough, particularly because their conditions make intimacy so much more difficult.