Relationship Advice

Why I Quit My PhD to 'Strip'

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 05.24.2014 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

Three months ago I quit my PhD to become a stripper. Of course, I was afraid of what people would think, but my old life wasn't working for me, and so I decided to change it. I'm not taking my clothes off, but this stripping of mine makes me feel free and, yes, naked and vulnerable, too. Layer by layer, I'm stripping away thoughts and beliefs that were toxic.

Why I Love My Long-Distance Relationship

Sue Nador | Posted 05.06.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

It is 5:30 a.m. I am watching my husband pack his suitcase, scrambling to make a 7 a.m. flight. For the past three years his work has taken him out of town more than half the time by my conservative estimate. But here's my dirty little secret: I love my long distance love affair.

Let's (Really) Talk About Sex

Carlen Costa | Posted 04.25.2014 | Canada Living
Carlen Costa

You've just woken up from a deep sleep and then remember that you've been romping all night with the Sandman who may also happen to be your Ex. That's when the WTF moment kicks in. Sex dreams happen to everyone. Sometimes they are as pleasurable as riding white horses in the meadow with George Clooney or getting naughty with Mila Kunis' legs wrapped around your waist.

5 Tips For Finding True Love This Year

Elle Canada | Marie Vaillancourt and Marie-Claude Marsolais | Posted 04.03.2014 | Canada Living

All dressed up and no one to celebrate date night with? We list 5 tips on how to find (and keep!) true love that go well beyond Valentine's Day. H...

Relationship Trouble? Try 'Radical Honesty' and These Other Tools

Kaitlyn Kochany | Posted 04.09.2014 | Canada Living
Kaitlyn Kochany

Being a good partner sometimes means renegotiating communication strategies so that the question "What's wrong?" isn't perpetually sloughed off. It sometimes means breathing through a bad few months and saying, "I accept this, I can do this, I don't have to fight it," even as you keep fighting for the relationship itself.

Don't Live With Your Boyfriend if You Want to Get Married

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.01.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Over the past decade or so, I've found there are a few common pitfalls that women who want to get married inadvertently fall into, and which decrease their chances of getting married while they're still young enough to walk down the aisle without stopping for breath. One of these pitfalls is living together before marriage.

How to Talk About Money With Your Partner (and Keep Your Cool)

Anita Saulite | Posted 03.18.2014 | Canada Living
Anita Saulite

Do you talk about money with your partner, better half, significant other? Many of us don't have this conversation and struggle just to address the topic. If we find the courage to reach out and engage in conversations about money how do we keep our emotions in check?

Sorry Parents -- Your Kids Are Probably Ruining Your Marriage

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living

New research from Open University in the U.K. finds that couples without children are more satisfied with their relationships than couples with kids. ...

When's the Right Time to "Put Down" Your Relationship?

Sue Nador | Posted 03.15.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Fourteen months. Fourteen months is the time I have in my head for how long I would try to save my marriage if things started to go south (hopefully it will never come to that). But once we limp past the one year mark, I think I would rationally assess whether something has shifted so irrevocably in our relationship that it was time to take it off life support.

Wish Your Man Understood You Better? Team Therapy May Help

Susan Valentine | Posted 03.12.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

We put our team therapy approach into action -- three of us working with one client at the same time. Over time we've come to understand why men seem to prefer this team approach to therapy. Not only can we help navigate rough emotional terrain, and get to the root cause, but we can help translate and teach them the emotional language of their spouse.

Patti Stanger, The Millionaire Matchmaker, Shares Tips For How To Find Love After 40

Sacha DeVoretz | Posted 03.05.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Sacha DeVoretz

The motivator for me to try online dating in the first place was Patti Stanger. Stanger is an American matchmaker and television personality, known for starring in the reality series The Millionaire Matchmaker. Stanger shared with me the top tips for women over 40 looking for love.

Men: Such Simple Creatures

Sue Nador | Posted 03.04.2014 | Canada
Sue Nador

My husband buys an average of nine magazines per month, subscribes to three daily newspapers, and owns about five million books. He has a strong emoti...

How to Recover From 'Relationship Trauma'

Susan Valentine | Posted 02.16.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

You need to see that your partner has suffered too, not from your anger, but from the weight of his or her own actions. If you believe your partner deeply regrets his actions, knows he was wrong, and even feels he violated his own personal standards, you will feel more trusting and open to forgiveness.

Is It Love .. Or Is It Loneliness?

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 12.09.2013 | Canada Living

A new study on loneliness may force some people to take a good honest look at their relationship and reevaluate their choice of partner. Because ac...

The One Thing All Couples Should Do in Bed

Susan Valentine | Posted 02.04.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

Sure, you may still end up fighting, but it won't be nearly as acute. And haven't you noticed how much easier everything seems when you and your loved one are close? How life feels better? Deadlines seem less daunting, children seem less demanding, and other stressors become more manageable.

Wanna Get the Girl? Date Like it's 1946

Debra Macleod | Posted 02.04.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If my email inbox is any indicator, it's clear that modern men and women are clueless about how to behave on a first date. If you want to attract a quality person, you need to behave like a quality person. So check out these 1940s-inspired dating tips that might bring a little timeless sophistication to your dating M.O.

How To Stay Married For 78 Years

CBC | Posted 02.01.2014 | Canada Living

For a country where four out of ten first marriages end in divorce, Bertie and Bill Nickerson have some professional tips. The Liverpool, N.S., coup...

Advice to Step-Parents From My Inner Teen

Sue Nador | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

My inner teen would like to offer some "don'ts" to step-parents-in-training. Let's face it. If parenting teenagers is hard work, step-parenting them is even harder. It takes a whole lot more patience, tolerance and sensitivity to get through the teenage years with kids that are not of your own making.

Could A Bracelet Help Your Long Distance Relationship?

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 11.14.2013 | Canada Living

If texting, emailing, and Skype weren't enough, couples in long-distance relationships can now wear matching TapTap wristbands, which send vibrational...

Wives Hold The Key To Happy Marriages, Says New Study

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 11.07.2013 | Canada Living

When it comes to a happy marriage, in both the long and short term, a new US study says that wives hold the power. University of Berkeley researche...

With Housework, There Are No "Pink" or "Blue" Jobs

Sue Nador | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

I was nattering on about the inequalities of housework to my lesbian friend Marsha. Most hetero couples experience conflict about who does what around the house, and how much of it. But Marsha had some wise advice for us heteros on how to avoid chore wars. Don't categorize jobs as "pink" or "blue."

The Secret to Why Couples Fight -- And It's Not What You Think

Susan Valentine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada
Susan Valentine

With our couple, Robyn feels insecure about their connectedness. She wants to feel close. So when he comes home late, she turns that into, "I'm not important. He doesn't care." She feels hurt or abandoned, and that's why she gets upset. On the other hand, Blair needs validation. His sense of identity and confidence are important.

We Had a Great First Date But I Never Heard From Him Again. Sound Familiar?

Collette Gee | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Collette Gee

I examined many books on the market designed to help women to attract Mr. Right. I researched lessons on how to make it past the first date, what to say and not to say, how to dress, and when and how to ration out the first kiss. The more I read and compared notes, the stronger the question became: When is it okay to stop pretending?

Can "Oil Patch Marriages" Ever Work?

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Alberta
Debra Macleod

Since the oil boom of the 1970's, many Alberta wives have called themselves "oil patch widows" due to work rotations that require their husbands to be away for weeks or months at a stretch. It is understandable how this physical separation can lead to an emotional disconnection between two people who are often leading separate lives.

Why a Husband Might Miss His Dog More Than He Misses His Wife

Sue Nador | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Jessie is more unconditionally loving and far less bitchy than me (even though she is technically the only real bitch in our family). For her, it's not a question of, "you scratch behind my ears, and I'll scratch behind yours". Nope, she will give unlimited affection and not expect a thing in return (although she won't say no to a liver treat).