Relationship Advice

In a Relationship, It's Not If You Fight, But How You Fight

Natasha Koifman | Posted 07.30.2013 | Canada Living
Natasha Koifman

Anger rarely ever brings out the best in us. When we feel our blood boiling, we often regress to a state that's childlike, emotional and even tantrum-y. What's more, conflicts are further complicated by the fact we don't all handle conflict the same way. I've come up with four conflict styles as I see them.

Marriage 101: Eight Classes I Wish Existed

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.10.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Divorce rates are nasty and too many women find themselves in unhappy, unhealthy marriages. I've compiled a list of eight subjects that, if I found myself Dean of Spouse School, I would recommend as prerequisites to marriage.

10 Tips for a Spring Romance

Debra Macleod | Posted 06.30.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Ah, springtime -- the skies are blue and love is in the air. Every year around this time, my Inbox fills with questions from those looking for love. In response, I've compiled a short list of dating tips that you may want to tape to your fridge if you're a single-and-seeking.

Survey Says, Half of Us Lie on First Dates

29Secrets | Posted 06.26.2013 | Canada Living
29Secrets

According to a recent survey, 49 per cent of Canadians tell lies about themselves in the early stages of a relationship. Whether it's your age, salary, or hair colour, are some truths just too compromising to tell the people we're trying to impress?

Vegas "Sex" Casino: Would You Go With Your Spouse?

Debra Macleod | Posted 06.11.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

M.S. Shadlock's controversial sexual thriller, The Inferno, is about a "sex hotel and casino" in Las Vegas where you gamble with sex, not money. It explores -- among other things -- what happens when couples push the limits of their sexuality in an effort to spice-up their marriages. Would couples really go to a place like this?

Creating New Horizons: Paradigms at Work

Heron Free | Posted 05.20.2013 | Canada Alberta
Heron Free

Some paradigms support us better than others. 'The world is flat' was believed to be true until Christopher Columbus proved it otherwise. And though we need paradigms to help us make sense of the world, the minute we turn them into concrete truths we become enslaved by them.

Five Ways to Mend a Broken Heart

Natasha Koifman | Posted 05.07.2013 | Canada Living
Natasha Koifman

When things don't work out in a relationship, it's that early hope and optimism that stands in stark contrast with feelings of heartbreak and disappointment. As with all falls in life, it's important that you acknowledge you've been hurt, but also help yourself get back up again. Here's how.

Surprising Number Of Canadians In These Kinds Of Relationships

CBC | Posted 05.05.2013 | Canada Living

Almost two million Canadians who are involved in a relationship live at separate addresses, according to a new report by Statistics Canada that looks ...

Infidelity, Part 2: How to End an Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 05.04.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Time heals all wounds, right? Wrong. If a couple who has suffered through infidelity does not properly recover and heal from it, time only makes the scar more visible. The wound may even re-open now and then. But if a couple uses time smartly, it can soothe the pain and the scar can begin to fade.

Part 1: How Technology Has Enabled Cheating

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.23.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Dating and social networking sites provide low-risk, high-excitement ways to connect with strangers and/or reconnect with past friends or lovers. The payoff -- a rush of adrenaline and arousal -- is instantaneous and people often mistakenly believe that they have made an authentic, meaningful connection with someone they have either never met or barely know.

The Most Common Relationship Pet Peeves — Kind Of Solved

The Huffington Post Canada | Rebecca Zamon | Posted 02.19.2013 | Canada Living

In the weeks following Valentine's Day, couples seem to come undone more than they're brought together. As the New York Daily News reported, Februa...

Could Your Marriage Survive a Cruise Ship Disaster?

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.16.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Bumps in what should be a smooth road are unavoidable. And as most of us know, sometimes the journey -- even an unexpected and unpleasant one -- can have more to offer in the long-term than the destination. Admittedly, that's going to be a tough sell to the 4,000 passengers on the Triumph. But what about when things go wrong in a marriage?

In a Sex Rut? From Fat Cat to Sex Kitten in Eight Steps

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.04.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

As a couples mediator, I can state with certainty that marriage problems often show up in the bedroom first. For that reason, it's important for a woman to stay sexual. Women often complain that they "don't feel sexy" any more. Weight gain, normal aging and other body changes. If this sounds like you, here are eight steps to go from feeling like a fat cat to purring like a sex kitten.

The Top Five Dating Deal Breakers

Carlen Costa | Posted 04.02.2013 | Canada Living
Carlen Costa

If you're struggling to get over your ex, be upfront about this and be clear that you need to take things slow. But no one wants to date the Debbie downer at the derby. If strong feelings are still resonating, that might be a sign that you need some "me" time before trying to get into some "we" time again.

4 Deadly Dating Mistakes Men Make

Nicole Forrester | Posted 03.30.2013 | Canada Living
Nicole Forrester

The problem is when it comes to dating there are many "fish in the sea." So, while you may be fortunate to attract the attention of a certain girl -- it is up to you handle it with care and know that if you drop the ball she has other options.

10 Signs You're the Spouse From Hell

Debra Macleod | Posted 03.11.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If you think your partner is to blame for your relationship troubles, scroll through these 10 signs and ask yourself: Am I turning into the spouse from hell? While this list isn't exhaustive, it does highlight some of the more problematic behaviours that many of us show in marriage. Life's too short for that.

Some Modern Love Advice From Cleopatra

Debra Macleod | Posted 03.04.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

As a couples' mediator, I see many women who have stopped having fun in their relationships. This year, I'm going back a couple thousand years to excavate some ancient advice from history's most cunning women, such as Cleopatra. How'd she do it? If it worked for the Queen of Egypt in 41 BC, it may work for you in 2013 AD.

Is Your Marriage Counsellor a Home-Wrecker?

Debra Macleod | Posted 02.13.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

In many cases, couples' counselling can be the final nail in the marital coffin. Why? Because counselling is a practice that focuses on the self. This "all about me," approach is the precise opposite of what struggling spouses need to save a marriage in crisis. It's naïve to think that an individual's personal experience with marriage doesn't factor into the relationship advice they dispense.

Eight Ways to Make Your Husband Want You Again

Debra Macleod | Posted 02.03.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

It's a devastating thing for a woman to admit -- that her husband seems to have lost his desire for her. Women often jump to the conclusion that unsatisfying sex is the reason for the chilly temperatures. Yet as often as not, men withdraw from their wives for non-sexual reasons. Check out these eight Do's and Don'ts to see whether any of them might help reignite his spark for you.

Have We Forgotten To Compliment Men?

Christine Hart | Posted 01.06.2013 | Canada Living
Christine Hart

A few months ago I gave a male date-coaching client of mine a compliment. After a few seconds of silence, he said: "No one has ever called me handsome...Thank you." I later consulted a few male friends on the topic and this is what one of them shared with me.

7 Realities Of Shacking Up

AskMen.com | Kathryn Jezer-Morton | Posted 10.29.2012 | Canada Living

Moving in with your girlfriend is a huge deal. In life-change terms, it's a bigger transition than getting married. Though you don't get the recog...

Guess Who Says 'I Love You' First

The Huffington Post Canada | Posted 09.12.2012 | Canada Living

It's the three little words that can either be a relationship milestone or prove to be the exact opposite: I love you. And guess what — men are...

I Will Always Be Connected to My Lover's Ex

Alina Kulesh | Posted 10.31.2012 | Canada Living
Alina Kulesh

That's the thing about exes; it's impossible to keep them in the past. Whether their lingering trail is on your Facebook wall or on your couch, they still appear hauntingly and unexpectedly, like ghosts. At the end, in some twisted way we are all connected to one another -- I to his ex-lovers and he to mine -- trying to make sense of love and life.

Five Techniques To Handle Getting Dumped

Barbara Aleks Hecht | Posted 10.20.2012 | Canada Living
Barbara Aleks Hecht

A smart girl knows that getting dumped by your boyfriend is rarely a pleasant experience. It leaves some women angry, jaded and bitter. But that shouldn't justify committing these five breakup no-noes. Instead here are five alternatives to express how you really feel after getting dumped. After all, there's only one way for a smart girl to handle a breakup: with dignity, style and class.

Are You in a Toxic Relationship?

Dr. Ayshe Talay-Ongan | Posted 10.08.2012 | Canada Living
Dr. Ayshe Talay-Ongan

Below, I have some basic questions to determine the strength of a relationship and how nurturing and honouring it may be. I invite you to rate your relationship. You can quit while you are ahead, or give him your all for a very long time. As for the middle ground, such is our force of belief in love and positive outcomes!