Relationship Advice

We Had a Great First Date But I Never Heard From Him Again. Sound Familiar?

Collette Gee | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Collette Gee

I examined many books on the market designed to help women to attract Mr. Right. I researched lessons on how to make it past the first date, what to say and not to say, how to dress, and when and how to ration out the first kiss. The more I read and compared notes, the stronger the question became: When is it okay to stop pretending?

Can "Oil Patch Marriages" Ever Work?

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Alberta
Debra Macleod

Since the oil boom of the 1970's, many Alberta wives have called themselves "oil patch widows" due to work rotations that require their husbands to be away for weeks or months at a stretch. It is understandable how this physical separation can lead to an emotional disconnection between two people who are often leading separate lives.

Why a Husband Might Miss His Dog More Than He Misses His Wife

Sue Nador | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Jessie is more unconditionally loving and far less bitchy than me (even though she is technically the only real bitch in our family). For her, it's not a question of, "you scratch behind my ears, and I'll scratch behind yours". Nope, she will give unlimited affection and not expect a thing in return (although she won't say no to a liver treat).

If You Think All Women Are "Crazy," Take a Look at Yourself

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

I recently saw a man in my office who asked me why all the women he dated turned out to be "crazy." If all the women you date eventually go off the deep end, perhaps it's time to tune-up your relationship skills. To some extent, I had to agree -- there are some lipsticked loonies out there. Then again, the male gender has its share of jerks and mama's boys. Perhaps it's time to stop pointing fingers at the opposite sex and start engaging in a little self-reflection, especially if you're re-living the same dysfunctional relationship over and over again.

A Married Man's Take On Why Men Cheat

AskMen.com | Posted 10.30.2013 | Canada Living
AskMen.com

Cheating is about one thing, and that's the transgressor's inability or unwillingness to reconcile the feeling of love with the decision to love. Feeling love is easy, because it's a largely chemical affair. But, once we cross that bridge into a serious, committed monogamous relationship, those feelings aren't enough. The decision to love is another matter entirely, and one that many cannot come to terms with.

20 Things You Should Tell Your Wife

2life | Neil Morton | Posted 08.22.2013 | Canada Living

Sometimes it's hard to know exactly what to say. We're often told what not to say — anything about your partner's weight, their habits or th...

My Marriage Is Like a Refrigerator Delivery

Sylvia Forrest | Posted 10.16.2013 | Canada Living
Sylvia Forrest

It struck me that our marriage has functioned a lot like the arrival of the new fridge. Like the delivery men, David and I have managed heavy burdens by sharing the load, reaching out towards each other, and moving carefully in the same direction. A cracked fridge doesn't even hit the radar.

Why We Still Tell Women to Sell Themselves

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 09.25.2013 | Canada Business
Sarah Vermunt

I was recently dismayed by a piece of advice given from one businesswoman to another. an entrepreneur sought advice on how to get mental and emotional support from her husband as she worked to grow her new business. In short, she was told the solution was to verbally appreciate her husband more, to "tell him he's your hero", and to orally appreciate her husband more... if you know what I mean. The advice is delivered in cute and quirky way, but it's impossible to miss the message. We're supposed to patronize our men, tell them they're our heroes, and then follow up with sexual favours? Ouch.

Canada's Best Date Spots

Posted 07.23.2013 | Canada Living

Whether you’re long term with the love of your life or recently found the date of your dreams, step up your dating game and explore new romantic te...

13 Easy Ways To Make Your Partner Feel Special

2life | Kate Drummond | Posted 07.12.2013 | Canada Living

Your partner is the most important person in your life -- but how often do you make them feel that way? Surprising your significant other with...

Living With Psoriasis: Six Tips for a Happy Relationship

Kimberly Moffit | Posted 08.27.2013 | Canada Living
Kimberly Moffit

Every relationship has its challenges, whether it's penciling-in quality time together or trying to reignite a flame. But for Canadians living with a chronic illness, engaging in relationships can be especially tough, particularly because their conditions make intimacy so much more difficult.

In a Relationship, It's Not If You Fight, But How You Fight

Natasha Koifman | Posted 07.30.2013 | Canada Living
Natasha Koifman

Anger rarely ever brings out the best in us. When we feel our blood boiling, we often regress to a state that's childlike, emotional and even tantrum-y. What's more, conflicts are further complicated by the fact we don't all handle conflict the same way. I've come up with four conflict styles as I see them.

Marriage 101: Eight Classes I Wish Existed

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.10.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Divorce rates are nasty and too many women find themselves in unhappy, unhealthy marriages. I've compiled a list of eight subjects that, if I found myself Dean of Spouse School, I would recommend as prerequisites to marriage.

10 Tips for a Spring Romance

Debra Macleod | Posted 06.30.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Ah, springtime -- the skies are blue and love is in the air. Every year around this time, my Inbox fills with questions from those looking for love. In response, I've compiled a short list of dating tips that you may want to tape to your fridge if you're a single-and-seeking.

Survey Says, Half of Us Lie on First Dates

29Secrets | Posted 06.26.2013 | Canada Living
29Secrets

According to a recent survey, 49 per cent of Canadians tell lies about themselves in the early stages of a relationship. Whether it's your age, salary, or hair colour, are some truths just too compromising to tell the people we're trying to impress?

Vegas "Sex" Casino: Would You Go With Your Spouse?

Debra Macleod | Posted 06.11.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

M.S. Shadlock's controversial sexual thriller, The Inferno, is about a "sex hotel and casino" in Las Vegas where you gamble with sex, not money. It explores -- among other things -- what happens when couples push the limits of their sexuality in an effort to spice-up their marriages. Would couples really go to a place like this?

Creating New Horizons: Paradigms at Work

Heron Free | Posted 05.20.2013 | Canada Alberta
Heron Free

Some paradigms support us better than others. 'The world is flat' was believed to be true until Christopher Columbus proved it otherwise. And though we need paradigms to help us make sense of the world, the minute we turn them into concrete truths we become enslaved by them.

Five Ways to Mend a Broken Heart

Natasha Koifman | Posted 05.07.2013 | Canada Living
Natasha Koifman

When things don't work out in a relationship, it's that early hope and optimism that stands in stark contrast with feelings of heartbreak and disappointment. As with all falls in life, it's important that you acknowledge you've been hurt, but also help yourself get back up again. Here's how.

Surprising Number Of Canadians In These Kinds Of Relationships

CBC | Posted 05.05.2013 | Canada Living

Almost two million Canadians who are involved in a relationship live at separate addresses, according to a new report by Statistics Canada that looks ...

Infidelity, Part 2: How to End an Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 05.04.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Time heals all wounds, right? Wrong. If a couple who has suffered through infidelity does not properly recover and heal from it, time only makes the scar more visible. The wound may even re-open now and then. But if a couple uses time smartly, it can soothe the pain and the scar can begin to fade.

Part 1: How Technology Has Enabled Cheating

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.23.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Dating and social networking sites provide low-risk, high-excitement ways to connect with strangers and/or reconnect with past friends or lovers. The payoff -- a rush of adrenaline and arousal -- is instantaneous and people often mistakenly believe that they have made an authentic, meaningful connection with someone they have either never met or barely know.

The Most Common Relationship Pet Peeves — Kind Of Solved

The Huffington Post Canada | Rebecca Zamon | Posted 02.19.2013 | Canada Living

In the weeks following Valentine's Day, couples seem to come undone more than they're brought together. As the New York Daily News reported, Februa...

Could Your Marriage Survive a Cruise Ship Disaster?

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.16.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Bumps in what should be a smooth road are unavoidable. And as most of us know, sometimes the journey -- even an unexpected and unpleasant one -- can have more to offer in the long-term than the destination. Admittedly, that's going to be a tough sell to the 4,000 passengers on the Triumph. But what about when things go wrong in a marriage?

In a Sex Rut? From Fat Cat to Sex Kitten in Eight Steps

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.04.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

As a couples mediator, I can state with certainty that marriage problems often show up in the bedroom first. For that reason, it's important for a woman to stay sexual. Women often complain that they "don't feel sexy" any more. Weight gain, normal aging and other body changes. If this sounds like you, here are eight steps to go from feeling like a fat cat to purring like a sex kitten.

The Top Five Dating Deal Breakers

Carlen Costa | Posted 04.02.2013 | Canada Living
Carlen Costa

If you're struggling to get over your ex, be upfront about this and be clear that you need to take things slow. But no one wants to date the Debbie downer at the derby. If strong feelings are still resonating, that might be a sign that you need some "me" time before trying to get into some "we" time again.