Sometimes it feels as though there are three parties in my relationship -- my husband, me, and Autism. For a long time autism ate up every minute my spouse and I spent together. I'm by no means an expert, but here are a few pearls I've gleaned after 15 years' married about making a relationship work when you have a child with special needs.
I'm not saying that if you have similar taste in food, health and romance that your relationship is doomed. What I am saying however is that those similarities are not enough to hold your relationship together. Two dear friends of mine, John and Sandy, have been married for over 15 years. They couldn't be more opposite from one another.
Cheating is about one thing, and that's the transgressor's inability or unwillingness to reconcile the feeling of love with the decision to love. Feeling love is easy, because it's a largely chemical affair. But, once we cross that bridge into a serious, committed monogamous relationship, those feelings aren't enough. The decision to love is another matter entirely, and one that many cannot come to terms with.
It's a devastating thing for a woman to admit -- that her husband seems to have lost his desire for her. Women often jump to the conclusion that unsatisfying sex is the reason for the chilly temperatures. Yet as often as not, men withdraw from their wives for non-sexual reasons. Check out these eight Do's and Don'ts to see whether any of them might help reignite his spark for you.
There are three common relationship mistakes that many of us make, which can get in the way of our happiness and success in love. Understanding what these mistakes are and why we're prone to making them can help us learn to avoid them in the future. If we recognize and let go of these, we're likely to have a lot more success in our current and future relationships.
Don't make any stupid mistakes when your marriage is in a slump. Don't drown your sorrows in a bottle of Jack or jump into bed with the first Facebook friend to give you a poke. For better or for worse, remember? Most marital bad moods will pass quickly enough, but serious mistakes in judgement will hang around a lot longer.
This is not an article about how to get yourself married. It's not about making yourself emotionally available, or putting yourself out there, or not returning calls right away. It's not even about finding the right match for you. I don't really know you. What I can speak to though is how to discern good men from bad.
The ideal of romantic love is mired in the beginning of the love relationship; the most sexually charged, fleeting period when we are most attracted to one another. This inevitably dissipates, and either the relationship fizzles or slowly unravels, or that we begin the real work of love. And so the question is: How do you make love last?