Keeping relationships within a culture can be convenient, comfortable and maybe even somewhat expected of you -- but it also makes it easy to keep one's culture alive. Our parents had a clear blueprint for passing on their traditions, something the growing number of culturally mixed couples like us simply don't have.
Can I ask you a personal question? Are you settling? In your love life, are you settling for something that is okay rather than striving for something that is extraordinary? Have you ever, in the stillness of a date night or on the morning of New Year's day gotten a glimpse of the truth? The truth that maybe you don't love him the way he deserves to be loved, that he doesn't love you the way you deserve to be loved?
The realization that technology has truly changed the dynamic of relationships in any tech-friendly area of the world these days. Gone are the days of monogamy and trust. It's just all too easy to cyber cheat, or to have computer, phone and tablet screens hide the dirty work of actual cheat cheating. Where do you draw the line?
Too often, an unfaithful spouse whose affair has been discovered will continue to see and/or contact their affair partner. Sometimes this is done in secret. They may assure their spouse that they've ended the affair; however, their lack of transparency and untrustworthy behaviour indicates otherwise.
It is hard enough to stay calm, cool and collected when being criticized, but when it happens in front of our colleagues, and when we are "sure" it's groundless, we absolutely have to contain our baser instincts. We may not want to draw attention to ourselves, or worse, we want to avoid throwing gas on the fire.
Ever get this nagging feeling that your man is pulling away from you, but you don't know why? Your mind creates vivid images about him spending time with another woman because somewhere deep down inside you don't feel good enough for him. If this is something you're experiencing, then your man is dating an insecure woman.
Kindness matters, I know this, I coach this, I speak about the power of kindness, and yet -- in my primary relationship (you know, that relationship with my husband), being kind seems to be in a wrestling match with being right. Being right just feels so good. It is a lustful emotion, an instinctual one, a need that can be sort of addiction.
You want whatever you're doing to be perfect, and you get so disappointed and annoyed when the vision in your head doesn't match the reality. I know you, my love, and I know that it's so frustrating for you when things don't go right, when you are not living up to your own very high expectations for yourself.
Sometimes we, as strong and independent individuals, want to believe that we can face the storm single-handedly, but having supportive friends makes all the difference. As Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook and a strong advocate of women's leadership, says, we are more effective and productive once we have a support group.