Relationships

How We Brought Our Relationship Back to Life After Having Kids

Sue Nador | Posted 04.18.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

It is easy not to notice when a relationship is fraying bit by bit. Our relationship seemed fine, and even better than fine. But spending those weekends together made us realize just how much we had missed each other. Our resurrection weekends kept the embers of our relationship burning. It was this yearly injection of passion that kept our love alive during those kid-centred years.

Why Having Sex With Your Ex is a Bad Idea

Simone Katerine | Posted 04.17.2014 | Canada Living
Simone Katerine

You dated someone. You broke up. At some point you started sleeping with them again, but you never "got back together." You knew this wasn't a great idea, but you did it anyways. Sound familiar?

A Quarter-Life Crisis Sent Me to Therapy

Katie Boland | Posted 04.16.2014 | Canada Living
Katie Boland

I sat in a therapist's office two weeks ago. "I think I'm having a nervous breakdown," I told her. Summer ended. My relationship fell apart. Then, it just disappeared. Then, I wondered if I'd made it all up. I felt like my friends didn't like me anymore. There's been a lot said about the quarter-life crisis. Is that why a lot of my friends and I needed help?

Could Twitter Ruin Our Relationships?

Sue Nador | Posted 04.13.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Who would have thought something as innocuous as Twitter could be the very thing that brings our generation of lovers down? It's time to stand up to the dark forces of social media and leverage them to our relationship advantage.

Would You Own Up To Having An Affair?

Sue Nador | Posted 04.07.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

By withholding the truth about her affair from her husband, Tabitha holds all the cards when it comes to their marriage. She is able to preserve what matters most to her-her family life, financial security and the love of her husband-but on her own terms. Her husband is continuing to commit to the relationship under false pretences.

Why Every Straight Man Needs A Gay Best Friend

Alex Sangha | Posted 04.04.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Alex Sangha

Since I moved into my new high-rise building, I have made a lot of nice, friendly straight male friends. This is a new experience for me, as for many years I largely surrounded myself with gay men. Not that I am complaining, of course, but I am so amazed with how open minded and non-judgmental many straight men have become, in terms of having gay friends to hang out and chill with.

10 Things I've Learned About Love From 'How I Met Your Mother'

Simone Katerine | Posted 03.31.2014 | Canada TV
Simone Katerine

It's no secret that I love How I Met Your Mother -- in fact, rarely a day has gone by over the past nine years when I haven't quoted or referred to the show in conversation. There's just so much about life, love and friendship that HIMYM just gets. So, before we say goodbye, here are a few of my favourite lessons about life and love from Ted, Robin, Lily, Marshall, Barney and the gang.

I'm Not Gay But I'd Like To Have An Intimate Relationship With A Man

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 03.28.2014 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

For me, as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse in which the perpetrators were male, the issue is further complicated. I've struggled with revealing my thoughts and emotions to other men, and when I do, it's generally camouflaged by using jokes. Women typically build relationships based on social connectivity while men build them based on shared activity or goal orientation.

Why I Quit My PhD to 'Strip'

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 03.24.2014 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

Three months ago I quit my PhD to become a stripper. Of course, I was afraid of what people would think, but my old life wasn't working for me, and so I decided to change it. I'm not taking my clothes off, but this stripping of mine makes me feel free and, yes, naked and vulnerable, too. Layer by layer, I'm stripping away thoughts and beliefs that were toxic.

Why I Love My Long-Distance Relationship

Sue Nador | Posted 03.06.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

It is 5:30 a.m. I am watching my husband pack his suitcase, scrambling to make a 7 a.m. flight. For the past three years his work has taken him out of town more than half the time by my conservative estimate. But here's my dirty little secret: I love my long distance love affair.

Why Everyone Doesn't Like You

Lauren Messervey | Posted 03.04.2014 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

We can't be Sally Field on Oscar night all the time. We will all be served with harsh criticisms, strange accusations, and cruel comments every once in a while, and it's how we deal with it that really demonstrates the true nature of our character. If you know who you are and strive to be the best person that you can be, you have nothing to worry about.

Do You Know The Social Media Secret?

Mitch Joel | Posted 03.04.2014 | Canada Living
Mitch Joel

The San Francisco based startup Secret (that was founded by two former Google and Square employees) is getting tons of attention, followers and fans. In short, you can write anything that's on your mind, add photos or colors to the background and customize this content while being able to share it, free of judgment, and without attaching any of your personal information or profile to it.

Let's (Really) Talk About Sex

Carlen Costa | Posted 02.23.2014 | Canada Living
Carlen Costa

You've just woken up from a deep sleep and then remember that you've been romping all night with the Sandman who may also happen to be your Ex. That's when the WTF moment kicks in. Sex dreams happen to everyone. Sometimes they are as pleasurable as riding white horses in the meadow with George Clooney or getting naughty with Mila Kunis' legs wrapped around your waist.

How Understanding 'The 5 Love Languages' Can Help Your Business

Anne Day | Posted 02.21.2014 | Canada Business
Anne Day

Have you ever read The 5 Love Languages ? It is an interesting book, and one that can help you better understand your partner and other important relationships in your life. I believe in building your business relationships, that you also have to tap into the same languages.

This Is a Love Story

Lori Gard | Posted 04.17.2014 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

This is the story of a girl who decided that dirty mugs in her sink and leftover kernels of popcorn in the recesses of her couch, with the ones she loves by her side, are all a story she ever needed to be complete. It's the story of the boy who loves her. And the story of the girl who made a decision: She would love him too.

The Year of Fun: The Science to Being Single

Megan Fielding | Posted 04.16.2014 | Canada Living
Megan Fielding

Expressing my recent distaste for being single, my friend shared her secret to healing the wounds of a long-term relationship that ended. After months of feeling down, she decided to pick herself up and embark on what she branded, "The year of fun." The formula breaks down into a simple equation: open-minded attitude + thirst for adventure = year of fun.

Revitalize Your Relationship -- Take Our One-Week Challenge

Susan Valentine | Posted 04.15.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

Want to really rev up your relationship? Even your life? Step it up for our one-week relationship challenge. We challenge you to embrace your relationship as the most important thing in your life. The most interesting thing is that if you and your partner meet this challenge, you'll find your own needs met in a way that doesn't happen when you're both optimizing for yourselves.

Why I'm Giving My Husband a Report Card for Valentine's Day

Sue Nador | Posted 04.14.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

My favourite part of Valentine's Day is shopping for a card. Yet despite the dozens of delightful options, it occurs to me there is room for one more card on the rack: a Valentine's Day report card. Here are a few best practices to get the most out of your annual relationship review.

I'm Not Good at Drugs

Katie Boland | Posted 04.13.2014 | Canada Living
Katie Boland

I was going to save my thoughts on drugs for a few weeks. But in light of Philip Seymour Hoffman's death, now feels like the right time. I worked with him on Paul Thomas Anderson's The Master. His death truly rattled me. Like I'm bad at math, I'm bad at drugs.

Relationship Trouble? Try 'Radical Honesty' and These Other Tools

Kaitlyn Kochany | Posted 04.09.2014 | Canada Living
Kaitlyn Kochany

Being a good partner sometimes means renegotiating communication strategies so that the question "What's wrong?" isn't perpetually sloughed off. It sometimes means breathing through a bad few months and saying, "I accept this, I can do this, I don't have to fight it," even as you keep fighting for the relationship itself.

Would You Stay With A Cheating Spouse?

Erica Diamond | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erica Diamond

It's why I thank my mother and father for raising me with good self esteem and it's why we should raise our daughters with good self esteem. So she can stand on her own two feet without a man -- if ever need-be. So if ever she finds herself in a marriage where her hubby is parking his penis in another woman's garage, she has options.

What's Actually Happening With People My Age

Katie Boland | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada Living
Katie Boland

"I want to write about what's actually happening with people my age." "And what's that?" "Coke. Tinder. Bad relationships. Good relationships. Molly. Not being able to get a job. 25 being one thing for one person and something completely different for another." I turned 25 almost a year ago.

Why Men and Women "Settle for Less" in Relationships

University of Toronto News | Posted 04.04.2014 | Canada Living
University of Toronto News

Ever wondered why your otherwise brilliant friends always seem to partner up with less-than-ideal mates? A new University of Toronto study could help explain why. One surprising finding was that those who feared being single seemed to recognize that they were making poor decisions about who to date.

Why I'm Thankful For My Parents' Divorce

Sue Nador | Posted 03.27.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

My parents could not have known it at the time but they did me a huge favour both through the dysfunction of their marriage and their subsequent divorce. Having a ring-side seat to the drama of their union allowed me to dissect and analyze their every move and motive. I learned a lot, and came to my own conclusions.

How to Decide If You Need a Divorce

Eva Sachs and Marion Korn | Posted 03.18.2014 | Canada Living
Eva Sachs and Marion Korn

For most people, the decision to leave a marriage is made over time. Although there is no one formula that will lead to an answer, there are some questions you can ask yourself to help you move from indecision to decision. We suggest these as a starting point to help you make the difficult decision to stay or go.