Sandwich Generation

Don't Feel Guilt About Putting Your Parents in Care

Anne Day | Posted 03.29.2014 | Canada Living
Anne Day

Placing my mother in a seniors' residence was the last thing I ever wanted to do. It seemed so final, so rejecting. It marked the end of an era. In reality, it was just a new phase in our relationship and it was one of those tough decisions that had to be made.

Are You Part of the 'Sandwich Generation'?

Stuart Rudner | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Stuart Rudner

Having both parents at work is the norm, which means that childcare obligations must be balanced, often precariously, with workplace duties. At the same time, our population is aging and people often end up having to look after their elderly parents. Effectively, those in the workforce are stuck in the middle, caring for the generations before and after them -- the "Sandwich Generation".

Ask Elizabeth: Taking Care of a Difficult Parent or Relative

Natalie Strouth | Posted 10.12.2013 | Canada Living
Natalie Strouth

Vicky asks: I've been taking care of my mom who is 74, in poor health and lives on her own. We've never had a very close relationship, and she criticizes everything I do. It doesn't matter if it's house cleaning, taking her to appointments, or getting her groceries -- it's like I can never do anything to her satisfaction.

Ask Elizabeth: Can Your Aging Parents Still Live Alone?

Natalie Strouth | Posted 06.17.2013 | Canada Living
Natalie Strouth

Ryan asks: At Easter this year I looked around my parent's house and realized that they are not going to be able to live here forever. When do you start talking to your parents about the future and where they going to live as they age?

Ask Elizabeth: How to Manage Multiple Medications

Natalie Strouth | Posted 05.12.2013 | Canada Living
Natalie Strouth

My wife was recently discharged from the hospital and she is now on many medications. This is very new to me and I find all this medication confusing and overwhelming. What should I do?

Ask Elizabeth: Why You Should Step Up Foot Care with Diabetes

Natalie Strouth | Posted 04.29.2013 | Canada Living
Natalie Strouth

Over three million Canadians have diabetes and this number is expected to reach 3.7 million by 2020. Caregivers of people with diabetes, especially seniors, need to learn all they can about stepping up foot care -- from maintenance, to shoe selection.

Ask Elizabeth: Talking About Signs of Dementia With Your Aging Parent

Natalie Strouth | Posted 04.23.2013 | Canada Living
Natalie Strouth

My dad is becoming increasingly forgetful and confused. He often calls me several times a day and forgets why he is calling. I tried talking to him about my concerns but he became quite agitated. I am really frustrated and don't know what to do?

Ask Elizabeth: Taking Care of a Loved One Starts With Taking Care of Yourself

Natalie Strouth | Posted 04.15.2013 | Canada Living
Natalie Strouth

Being a caregiver can be very demanding. Remember that it is not only okay to ask for support, it's necessary. Caregiving is not often something one person can do on their own, and asking for help is a sign of strength. Guilt comes from unrealistic expectations of what we are capable of doing.

Living in a Retirement Home: Is it a Positive Thing?

Kathy Barthel | Posted 10.03.2012 | Canada Living
Kathy Barthel

When is it time for you parents to move to a retirement home? The decision to move from the home you've lived in for years to a new community where you may not know anyone is certainly difficult. The important thing is to feel that you are making progress and that helping your parents transition to a retirement community is a positive thing. It is.

University and the Cast-Off Parent

Kathy Barthel | Posted 01.07.2012 | Canada Living
Kathy Barthel

Our kids have been with us for so long, day and night, and we miss them. They may have been the focus of our lives. The irony is, we try very hard to be good parents and to raise smart, savvy, caring kids, but if we do, we'll raise them to be independent.

How You Think About Money Is as Important as How Much You Have

Kathy Barthel | Posted 11.13.2011 | Canada Living
Kathy Barthel

Often it's how you think about money that is keeping you from having enough to live on comfortably. Is it better to be poor and happy than rich and unhappy? Are you optimistic that things will work out somehow? What beliefs have you developed about money and are they sound?

Dating After Divorce: 10 Tips From the Trenches

Kathy Barthel | Posted 11.07.2011 | Canada Living
Kathy Barthel

After lengthy marriages, many boomers aren't really keen to put themselves out there. Well, maybe putting themselves out there is the easy part; it's making a commitment to staying there with somebody new that's hard.